Judging from the change of modesty, you used to have an equal relationship, or a relationship of mutual respect, but now the relationship in your has changed. Girls' position or leadership in the company should be higher than yours, so they changed from modesty to comparison. Modest divination becomes six or three, which is roughly that you could have contacted her through study or other beneficial ways at school, but you crossed friends or had the wrong idea and missed the opportunity. After you graduated, this girl took the initiative and you were passive, so you became Yin and she became Yang. Modest divination becomes a comparison between divination and divination. It should be that you can approach her through money or some kind of interest relationship when you are at school, but after work, this method obviously doesn't work. What you have to do now is to get closer or more attached to her, and then plan your future development.