No matter how you imagine it, it may be redefined at the moment you see Shilu.
She is the only female drummer in the band Summer, a cool girl who has been playing rock 14 years, and a single mother.
Life is a tsunami, so you should be ready to paddle at any time.
In the star Heart to Heart Club, we talked with Shi Lu about the road she had taken without hesitation.
1
"We are playing adrenaline."
An accurate summary also defines the significance that Hedgehog Band brought to the summer of 20 19.
Known as "the first female drummer in China", Shi Lu is not tall, only 1.5 meters.
But as long as she is on the stage, she can burst into great energy with the warm-blooded music.
The rock musicians in the audience have different personalities, so we have to admire her skills.
"Too steady. The drum she played doesn't need repairing. "
When I was a child, in order to cultivate Shi Lu's temperament, Shi Lu's father took out all the savings in the family-8,000 yuan and bought a piano for Shi Lu. Her mother, a teacher in the Children's Palace, supervised her practice every day.
But Shi Lu is not interested in piano from the bottom of his heart.
/kloc-When I was 0/4 years old, Shilu accidentally touched the drum. The drums beat on the rhythm, and something seemed to surge in my heart.
The piano is a thing of the past, and the drumstick has never been put down.
Rebellion is not born.
Shi Lu was in charge of the class when he was a child and was a member of the brigade.
But in junior high school, she found that she was always ignored because she was getting farther and farther away from the people around her.
"The thought of fighting for breath, will do something.
I must work hard, especially hard, to show it. "
A little sensitivity sprouted in my heart, which also affected Shi Lu's way of doing things all his life.
The days after college are like seeing the light. Shi Lu met a group of like-minded people and played rock music that was not "mainstream" at that time.
Hedgehog Band became her new home.
At that time, everyone rehearsed the performance while going to school, and the 200 yuan also went, and the 30 yuan also went.
Once, a ticket cost ten yuan, and there were only three people sitting in the audience, one of whom was the bar owner.
After graduation, Shi Lu found a job as a TV actor. He was so busy that he was green with fatigue.
Every day is spent in fatigue and boredom, which runs counter to the state of life she wants.
She knows what it means for a famous university graduate to resign and lose his job.
But I still chose to leave.
The situation is already bad, and it can't be worse. Seize the opportunity.
Shilu devoted himself to the rehearsal performance of the band.
The life after that can be imagined to be difficult.
Without money and the support of people around me, there is a lot of pressure every day.
At that time, the band thought that they would break up if they didn't finish their second album.
Unwilling to give up, Shi Lu crustily skin of head called the record company.
In 2007, a contract was given to the band freshmen. But after signing the contract, Hedgehog was still an underground band that had to go to work to support itself for a long time.
Some people say that many of Hedgehog Band's lyrics have indelible "mourning".
To this end, Shi Lu also had self-doubt.
A New Year's performance, with less than 200 people present, is a venue that can accommodate four or five hundred people.
At that time, Shi Lu had just given birth to a baby, and I don't know if the hedgehog can go on.
"A new era has begun. Nobody likes this kind of music with some ideas. Do you all like those who are relaxed and stress-free? I think maybe times have changed. "
Shi Lu's English name is Atom, which is taken by herself and comes from the classic comic book Astro Boy.
Difficulties follow, but they can only be strong and survive.
"One word is forbearance, and two words are bearing.
what can I do? I can't change it. Then you can only continue to work hard. "
Just like her own drum, it is a mature rebellion. In the darkness, a sharp light blade was torn.
2
The power of Shilu is not only on the stage, but also in life.
Three months after giving birth, the band is facing dissolution and divorce ... The harder it is for others to continue, the more decisive Shilu is at the critical moment.
"I will list one, two, three, four and five. Those little things may not be important, but what is the most important thing for me, and I will move towards that goal. "
The real coolness is not the external form, but the internal driving force.
Know what you want and then put it into action.
When it's time to laugh, let yourself laugh.
Shi Lu broke up with her first boyfriend because the other party didn't accept the hedgehog-that's her bottom line.
"Small things don't matter, but this kind of thing may affect my life. I may have something to do with this band in my life and like it again.
And maybe in my own way. You interrupted me. What is this for? "
Many girls envy Shi Lu's coolness and independence.
Shi Lu acquiesced, but also said that it was "forced"-you can give yourself a sense of security without relying on others. But that doesn't mean you don't want help and care.
Zi Jian, the lead singer of the band, said that Shi Lu was particularly ambitious, but Shi Lu disagreed.
She thinks she is good at short-sightedness.
"I am the adhesive in the band, that is, I am the organizer or the person who steps on the gas pedal. The sword is the steering wheel, then the sail is the engine. "
Shi Lu and Zi Jian lived together for seven years.
We have been apart for seven years now.
Shi Lu said: "Zijian has too many shortcomings, as many as stars, but when his advantages appear, he is a sun." When the sun rises, all the stars disappear. "
Zi Jian said, "Shilu is a genus. If I hadn't met her, I would have lived to be another Zhao Zijian. "
So it seems not difficult to understand. When asked if it is possible to give up the band because of something, Shi Lu replied categorically:
"Never thought of giving up. I just think, as long as Zijian is okay. I know him very well.
I can play with him as long as he is willing to play. "
Ordinary people will always sigh after hearing such a story: a girl dedicated her most youthful and beautiful seven years to a fruitless love.
Shi Lu has no regrets and regrets.
Just make your own choices; Even if it is not good, we should take the initiative to change it and let it get better gradually.
"I think the right person must have been there. If this person matches you, it's like these shoes are so comfortable to kick. He just prepared it for you.
Don't adjust yourself too much. "
There are too many things out of control in life. It is better to know what you want first, and then look forward to pursuing the perfection and perfection of the public definition.
three
When Shi Lu still had a pair of ponytails, it was hard to believe that she had become a mother.
And it is a very strict kind.
The first performance after childbirth, Shi Lu is still breastfeeding. On the stage, the pain of chest tightness made her unable to lift her arms at all.
But the excitement of the performance overwhelmed the pain, and she only felt that she was back.
The coolest thing about life is that you can control it in your own way.
When her daughter was six months old, Shi Lu's father bought a suite in Xishuangbanna to try to stabilize her and her children.
But it didn't take long for this comfortable and comfortable life, and Shi Lu began to "toss again".
She began to learn software, and recorded her first independent song "Meng (měng) Paranaxi" in the Spring Festival of 20 17:
There is hope for joy and adventure in magical time.
There is an eternal encounter between noisy cities.
You must always have a bosom friend in your lifetime.
Enjoy sincere love at an elegant age.
Frequently switching between drummer and mother, Shi Lu often has to leave her daughter for a long time.
Asked if she was worried about missing her daughter's growth, Shi Lu also had her own ideas:
"Effective companionship is the most important thing. Even if you only stay with her for one night this week, you have nothing to do at work this evening. You should concentrate on accompanying her and let her feel,' Mom is still very important, and then my mother and I will be very different and happy'.
Find something with her, or play dumb with her. As long as she is happy, I think it's good. "
There is a dialogue in Haruki Murakami's novel Dance:
"How to say, you look as if you are going your own way. As for what others think, you don't seem to care much. You just have to do what you want and try to make things simple.
In other words, you guarantee your integrity and independence. "
Behind the long and firm courage, there must always be the warm support of love.
Shi Lu said that his father is like a "big friend".
This unconditional love naturally extends to her daughter.
"We came back from Shanghai yesterday. This morning, she (daughter) opened her eyes and said,' Where's Grandpa?' She asked me where my father had gone. I miss him very much.
He doesn't spend much time with her, but maybe the role of a man is different from that of a steady and responsible person in her heart. "
When there is enough love, the "correctness" of form is not so important.
Therefore, the label of single mother may not be bound, which is not enough to cause confusion.
"She asked me where her father was. What should I say? This is what I've been thinking.
A good band friend gave me a good answer:
Life advice is the same.
Because most people recognize a stable and comfortable life, avoid anxiety about the future and shield confusion and anxiety about the future direction.
But if you choose stability, you will inevitably miss many good scenery on the cliff.
At every stage of my life, I could have bravely followed the people or things I loved.
Being cool and rebellious doesn't mean running counter to being warm and mature.
As Shi Lu wanted to tell all the girls:
"I hope all women love themselves, this is the first.
Follow your heart and stick to what you insist on. Don't cling to the backer, be self-reliant and do what you want bravely. "
Someone has to get old.
But someone is always young.