This sentence means that you give me Mutao and I will repay you with Meiyu. Not only to repay, but actually to be friends with you forever.
China people attach importance to feelings and respect reciprocity; In terms of the world, try not to owe anything.
However, the most complicated thing in the world is emotion; The hardest thing to repay in the world is human feelings.
In particular, the feelings and human feelings between relatives are constantly being cut, and the reason is still chaotic.
0 1. Life after marriage is wonderful, and the children encounter difficulties after birth.
Netizen Liu Xuan (not his real name) has recently encountered some things that his relatives are not clear about. In a dilemma, he had to post on the Internet for help.
After graduating from college, Liu Xuan stayed in the provincial capital to work.
During this period, Liu Xuan met his current wife Ye Ya (a pseudonym). Both of them come from the counties around the provincial capital, and similar growth experiences have brought them together.
In a strange and cold big city, they comforted each other and warmed each other. After two years of contact, the two successfully entered the marriage hall and bought a house in the provincial capital.
At that time, the down payment of the wedding room was funded by both families, and the bride price and dowry were also agreed by both parties. Everything was in harmony.
Married life is also harmonious and beautiful until the child is born.
After the baby was born, Liu Xuan and his wife faced a big problem. Who will take care of the child?
Liu Xuan's father-in-law and mother-in-law were basically inseparable from the duck farm in their hometown. At that time, Liu Xuan's brother-in-law was preparing for the wedding, and her mother-in-law was also inseparable.
Liu Xuan's parents set up shop in their hometown to do business, and they are usually very busy. My mother will take care of the second month, and my father can't support it at home.
The point is that my parents' house has been demolished recently, and there are a lot of troubles at home. It will take at least three months to process it all.
Relatives are grateful for taking care of their five-month-old child.
Liu Xuan originally planned to bite the bullet and let his wife resign to take care of the children at home. Although the economic pressure is much greater, it is always more economical and worry-free than hiring a nanny.
However, my wife refused to resign no matter how hard she tried.
Just as the young couple were in a hurry, Ye Ya's aunt came.
Ye Ya's hometown is in the countryside. Local people have strong family values and attach great importance to family ties. They usually contact each other and help each other.
My aunt happened to be idle at home, and when she heard that Yaya's children were unattended, she volunteered to help.
Zeng Guangxian wrote: "A drop of dew when thirsty is better than nothing when drunk." .
Liu Xuan and his wife are grateful to menstruation for his timely help.
My aunt was simple and kind, and helped them take care of their children for five months, until Liu Xuan's mother took over after handling the family affairs.
After Liu Xuan's mother came, she told Liu Xuan about the compensation scheme for the house demolition, and asked him to make up his mind whether he wanted two suites and one suite, and more than 800,000 yuan in compensation.
Liu Xuan thinks it's good to stay in his hometown. If she has money, she might as well take it to the provincial capital to buy a house. There is a large room for appreciation, and she will definitely come to the provincial capital for the elderly in the future, so she can take care of it then.
As a result, my parents pooled 6.5438+0.5 million yuan and bought a two-bedroom apartment in the provincial capital.
03. The house that my parents spent10.5 million was borrowed by my relatives.
After buying the house, Liu Xuan decorated it a little, and then hung it out for rent.
At first, the mother collected the rent until she took her children to kindergarten and went back to her hometown. She asked Liu Xuan to collect rent, which was used to buy clothes and snacks for her grandson.
Liu Xuan's economy has gradually improved in the past two years, and now her monthly rent is 4,000 yuan more, which makes her life easier. But it didn't last long. Aunt Yaya's visit disrupted his life.
When my aunt helped with the children, Liu Xuan owed her a big favor. Although she gave a red envelope of 10000 as a thank you, she usually gives gifts on holidays, but Liu Xuan is always grateful.
It's just that this aunt's purpose embarrassed Liu Xuan.
My aunt's cousin was recently transferred to the provincial capital. Originally, he lived in the dormitory of the company, but his wife wanted her children to receive a better education in the provincial capital, and she also brought her children.
The dormitory can't live any longer, and the rent in the provincial capital is expensive, so my aunt has to come in person. She hoped that Liu Xuan would lend them the house she had rented for half a year.
Liu Xuan recognized her aunt's purpose, but before she knew it, her wife had agreed.
After the aunt left, Liu Xuan couldn't help complaining, but his wife said, "You can't be ungrateful. Have you forgotten all the favors you owed at the beginning? "
Ye Ya believes that as relatives, we should help each other, not to mention owe my aunt a favor.
04. Let your relatives live in vain for 4 years, and the house should be returned.
Liu Xuan had to accept the fact that his cousin's family would only stay for half a year, but in fact it was two years. Two years later, my cousin finally bought a new house and moved away, but the house was still not recovered.
My aunt has two sons. The eldest son bought a house in the provincial capital. In order to help the eldest son buy a house in the city, the aunt paid a lot of money, which caused the dissatisfaction of the younger son and daughter-in-law.
Later, the contradiction became more and more serious, and the aunt and the kannika nimtragol made a scene. In desperation, the aunts and uncles can only come to the city to go to their eldest son.
However, my cousin bought a two-bedroom apartment in the provincial capital, and the children are already in junior high school. They live alone and there is no spare room for them.
Moreover, his wife is impatient and has never been compatible with his aunt. Therefore, my aunt can only continue to borrow Liu Xuan's house.
Liu Xuan is very helpless. The thought of this terrible worry made her feel a sore throat, like a thorn in her back.
But his wife didn't understand him and said he was selfish, unfriendly and ungrateful. ...
Two years later, after Liu Xuan's father was seriously ill, he decided to close the shop at home and go to the provincial capital to recuperate while treating diseases.
Liu Xuan took advantage of this situation and asked her aunt to return the house.
The wife thinks that Liu Xuan did it on purpose, and her in-laws have a house in their hometown, which is very good, so they have to come and join in the fun.
Liu Xuan thought his wife was unreasonable, but she moved out of her aunt to help with the children and accused him of having no conscience.
Liu Xuan couldn't bear it any longer, and said, "I let your relatives live in vain for four years. No matter how big the favor is, the house belongs to my parents. It's time to pay back. "
Looking at his wife's chatter, Liu Xuan became more and more uneasy and said, "Let them stay for a while. My parents will move to our house first. "
Liu Xuan knows that his wife's bottom line is not to live with her in-laws.
Sure enough, the wife flatly refused, saying that the house was bought by two families, and if the in-laws moved in, her parents would also move in.
05. The hardest thing to repay in the world is human feelings.
Liu Xuan was very angry and issued an ultimatum. If the house is not returned, their marriage will be over.
The wife cried.
The next day, my parents-in-law called and said a lot of nonsense, that is, let him take care of his family, saying that money would be spent, but the family would always be there. ...
If there is no house loan, Liu Xuan and his wife will have a good relationship, and the three of them will be very happy together at ordinary times. He really doesn't want his marriage to go to the point of no return.
However, my parents will come soon after dealing with their hometown. Where will they live then?
Remember "Qi Yuanshuo", when it comes to mutual assistance between relatives, Chen Mingceng said:
"I am most afraid that kindness will become a habit and become a permanent pressure in my future; I am most afraid that what I want to do will become something I have to do. "
In the TV series "An Jia" starring Sun Li, Gong Jun's family supported his cousin's family for more than 40 years, but his cousin occupied the old nest and rightfully took the borrowed house for himself.
Therefore, no matter between friends or relatives, there must be a bottom line for asking for help. Otherwise, it is easy to promote rice and crack down on rice.
The most difficult thing to repay in the world is human feelings; Because of human feelings, it has never been an equivalent exchange.
Therefore, it is best not to use human feelings for things that can be solved with money.
What do you think Liu Xuan should do?