Kou Shixun has two wives. Did the first wife Cui ignore him?
Kou Shixun has two lovers, who must be the envy of many men. Why doesn't Cui have such a good first wife? In a woman's heart, she will wonder why Cui is so timid and doesn't care at all. In fact, as long as it is a woman, who wants to have a second lover for her husband? So the biggest reason for this situation is that Cui has no ability to restrain Kou Shixun.
Kou Shixun and Cui were childhood friends and grew up together. In fact, it is more emotional than many blind and dumb people. Therefore, in such a marriage relationship, as a woman, the feelings and rejection desire for boys will be stronger. But it was in this relationship that Cui Can tolerated her husband having other lovers. You can imagine how passive Cui is in this marriage relationship. So how can a beloved lover stand it when he finds another woman?
There should be two reasons for acceptance. The first is the limitation of economic conditions. The second is a child of two people. The third reason is how to ensure a good home even after divorce.
Let's talk about economic factors first. Kou Shixun is over 60 years old. In other words, when they were young, it was usually the man who earned money at home, and the woman was helping the children with housework. This relationship also leads to the party who has the right to speak and make money, while Cui obviously has no right to speak. Economic conditions determine everything. Compared with previous girls, today's girls are more fortunate to have independent economic conditions, be able to stand up straight and support themselves.
The second factor is children. If two people divorce, the biggest victim is the child. The mother left the family, the father married a new lover, and the children must have a hard time at home. In the concept of the older generation, even for the sake of children, you can't divorce. For a mother, children are more important than anything else.
The third reason is that it is difficult for a divorced woman with children to find a good partner at that time. Needless to say, a few decades ago, even though the status of girls had been greatly improved, divorced women would still be looked down upon by some people.
So, all things considered, my childhood sweetheart's husband must have left with another woman. Since he can't stop it, he has to accept it.
2. Men want to be Kou Shixun and women don't want to be Cui.
Such a deformed family relationship actually exists. The relatives of a friend of mine are like this, so Kou Shixun should be a man's ideal, enjoying everyone's happiness, and the two lovers live in peace. And women don't want to be Cui Yaoqi. It's sad to see her childhood sweetheart's husband being given half to others.
Cui didn't have much choice at that time. Nowadays, women are much luckier. After all, there are not many frogs with two legs, but many men with two legs. As long as you have a certain economic ability, you can choose your lover conditionally. If one day your lover changes his mind, you can also choose to divorce instead of watching him bring it home to live with you.
In fact, there is no way to blame this practice, which was decided by the situation at that time. But for women now, it is also a wake-up call, telling themselves to have independent economic conditions and independent personality, and not to be the next Cui.