In modern families, the elderly are still the main force to take care of children. This is the problem. The old man helps to look after the baby. If he wants money, do you want to give it?

Here, maybe a little different. If you don't give it, the old man has a thorn in his heart, so this is a problem!

But the old man in this article is more exciting. He takes care of his daughter and asks for a salary, but he takes care of his son for nothing.

In 2008, Zhong Yan, 6 1 year-old, followed his daughter and son-in-law to live in Guangzhou after his wife died.

"Mom has worked hard in the countryside for most of her life. It's time to enjoy the happiness of the city. " Daughter son-in-law said.

In this regard, Zhong Yan dismissed it. In fact, this is mainly to take care of one and a half-year-old grandson Yang Yang.

Zhong Yan didn't want to go at that time. Kannika nimtragol will have a baby in a few months. If she goes now and then comes back, she might as well not go.

But she didn't hold back her daughter's pleading, saying that it would be fine in a few months, and she would definitely go home to take care of her grandson.

Zhong Yan this just promised.

Zhong Yan is a rather traditional woman. According to the custom of hometown and countryside, mothers generally don't help their daughters and sons-in-law to take care of their children unless they have no sons or children to take care of.

The reason is also very good: because I have a son and a grandson to take care of, I am used to not taking care of my daughter's children.

If you leave your grandchildren behind and take care of them by yourself, people will generally say that it is stupid to help others take care of their grandchildren.

Plus, the daughter also has in-laws, so it's not good to bring them.

The most important thing is that even if you help your daughter-in-law to take care of the children, when you are old or sick, they will still send you to your son's house, and your son's daughter-in-law will give you a pension and die. If you help take care of your grandchildren, the daughter-in-law will definitely care. If there is, it's easy to say. If not, it's painful.

In this way, is it not a thankless ending?

For the above reasons, Zhong Yan helps her daughter to take care of the children, but she always doesn't care much, thinking about her unborn grandson at home.

As for my daughter Ling Lin, because my father-in-law had a sudden cerebral infarction last month, her health is getting worse and worse, and she needs someone to accompany her. So my mother-in-law went back to her hometown to take care of her father-in-law.

Ling Lin has a big head here, so it's too expensive to hire a nanny. Quit your job. She is editing a teacher. It's a pity to quit.

I have no choice but to invite my own mother to help.

But Ling Lin knows her mother's mind. When she thinks that her brother's child will be born in less than half a year, damn it, mom has to go back. That's not back to the original point. She has to worry about who will take care of the child. Her heart is extremely anxious.

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Fortunately, things soon turned around.

By observing and listening to her mother's usual spit, she doesn't get along well with her sister-in-law. My sister-in-law is a city dweller and doesn't like her mother-in-law's lifestyle. Maybe people don't want her to help with the baby at all.

To this end, Ling Lin also specially chatted with her younger brother and sister-in-law. Sure enough, my sister-in-law was very uneasy about her mother-in-law, and made it clear that the child would take care of herself after birth.

Now, what Ling Lin has to do is to be a mother.

Unexpectedly, Zhong Yan hated herself as soon as she heard her daughter-in-law's words. At that time, she was furious and bluntly didn't want to go back.

Ling Lin took this opportunity to ask her to help send Yang Yang to kindergarten until she was three years old.

Zhong You pondered for a moment and said, "It's not impossible, but there is one condition."

"What conditions?"

"You must pay me 2000 yuan a month."

Ling Lin was puzzled. It never occurred to her that her mother would ask her for a salary. Although it is much lower than hiring a real nanny, she still doesn't agree with the idea of helping her daughter take care of her children and pay her monthly salary.

"Yang Yang is your grandson. You brought a salary. Then you brought your brother two nephews and asked them for money? "

Zhong Yan glared at her daughter in a natural tone: "What's the difference? They are my grandchildren, they call me grandma, and they also take your brother's surname Lin. If your Yang Yang is also surnamed Lin, I won't have to pay! "

Ling Lin is a little angry, but deep down, I don't think it's necessary to be angry. She knew from an early age that although she was the only child in the family, she was different from her brother. For example, they always receive 5 ~10 more lucky money than her every year; As long as she gets 80 points, she will be rewarded, and she wants full marks; When I was admitted to the university, I tentatively asked her: Otherwise, don't read; The land and dividends at home have never been shared by her. ...

Ling Lin acquiesced in her mother's request and gave her 2000 yuan a month. However, her husband has a problem with paying his mother-in-law. How can a mother give money to her daughter? In this case, should grandma help with the children before?

"Ah, should give to reach the designated position. I will make up for it. " Ling Lin is not good at arguing with him on this issue. After all, it's unorthodox for her mother to get the money anyway.

"Forget it, forget it, my mother is not so greedy." The husband muttered to himself and waved his hand to refuse.

"Everything should look on the bright side. If the elderly take care of the children and we give money, many things will be much easier. For example, we can ask mothers to take care of their children in our way.

The husband sighed, but he couldn't find anything to refute.

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Zhong Yan * * * helps her daughter to take care of 18-month-old children, and she is paid every month.

After Yang Yang went to kindergarten, she returned to her hometown. Within three years after coming back, the eldest daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law gave birth to a second child, and she also tried her best to help bring them back and forth. As for the salary? But it's hard to mention.

When Zhong Yan brought her grandchildren to the age of six or seven and went to primary school, she finally breathed a sigh of relief.

But at this time, she is nearly seventy years old.

When you are old, you like to come and bully you when you are sick or injured. Zhong Yan is no exception. She is fat and has a spicy diet. She eats leftover soup all the year round, and high blood pressure is inevitable. In addition, she often has headaches, dizziness, chest tightness and shortness of breath.

The fatal blow came from last year. At the age of 73, she still insists on working in the fields and growing vegetables. At noon in mid-April, Zhong Yan came home from work in the field and passed a big fish pond at the east end of the village. He saw several people catching fish and a group of people watching.

She also joined in the fun. Who knows that water and wetlands are slippery, and if she is not careful, she will fall on her feet.

Old people are most afraid of falling. Zhong Yan never stood up again. He needs help getting in and out, and his legs and feet are not working. He can't look after himself. Only his hands can scoop rice.

The task of taking care of Zhong Yan fell on two sons and daughters-in-law, while the eldest son helped others to work, while the younger son did business in the city and bought a house. Generally speaking, the important task of taking care of the elderly is mainly on the eldest daughter-in-law

Although my daughter Ling Lin loves her mother very much, she often comes back to see her. There is no other way to save some money.

It is not easy to take care of an old man with mobility problems. Soon, the eldest daughter-in-law complained that she would take turns to take care of her, hire a nanny or send her to a nursing home.

It is inconvenient for everyone to take turns to take care of it; When she was sent to a nursing home, Zhong Yan refused, threatening that "if she was sent to a nursing home, she would die immediately."

The rest, only please nanny this one, everyone unanimously accepted. But with it, the cost is problematic. Like Zhong Yan, who can't take care of himself, the nanny charges about 5,000 yuan, plus taking medicine to see a doctor, food and shelter, etc. The money spent on Zhong Yan is more than 7000 yuan every month.

Zhong Yan has rural medical insurance and no pension. In recent years, as long as she takes care of her grandchildren at home, she has never made any money at all. Therefore, all expenses can only be counted on her sons.

The son has two children, both of whom are spending money and living in poverty.

Zhong Yan naturally likes them. In order to share the pressure, she turned her attention to her daughter, hoping that she would also help her brothers share the cost and reduce their pressure.

The reason is that Ling Lin and her husband are teachers and middle-level leaders of a state-owned enterprise, with good income and only one child.

She said, "When I gave birth to the three of you, something happened to us as future parents. Is there any concern between you? "

Linglin felt a little uncomfortable in her heart. She remembered that her mother had neglected the score and asked her for a salary.

That is a thorn in her heart forever.

But because of blood relationship, she can't say anything. But the husband doesn't think so. Instead, he spread out everything and said, "mom, you said you would help us with the children, but in the end you wanted to accept our salary and treat us as outsiders." It's great now. If something goes wrong, we are our own. "

Zhong Yan had a hard time on his face, but after thinking about it, he said confidently, "That can't be my fault! The law stipulates that children must adopt their parents! "

"Oh, it's a traditional custom to take children to ask for their daughters' wages. Speaking of maintenance obligations, it is in line with the law. Mom, I told you everything. "

Zhong Yan's face turned white and red, but soon she became confident again. "I am over seventy years old and can't walk any further. What do you want from me? "

"I don't miss you, I hope you are fair." The son-in-law continued.

This made Zhong Yan wave his hand again and again.

Ling Lin quickly stopped her husband from saying anything. The husband took a look at her, hated her weakness and left angrily.

The three brothers, sisters and two daughters-in-law present, except Ling Lin, are all in favor of sharing the expenses equally. However, Ling Lin disagreed, but for a long time, for the sake of family and beauty, she learned to show weakness and compromise.

In her opinion, there is nothing wrong with this. It happens that she also has this ability. Why do you care?

So, she once again chose to listen to her mother.

Conclusion:

Parents are most afraid of being partial to their children, but for thousands of years, many people have been making this problem! Maybe it's about human nature.

Parents help take care of the baby and give some money. In fact, it's nothing, because everyone who has taken care of the baby knows that it's not easy.

Zhong Yan, as a mother, only asked her daughter-in-law to give money to take care of the baby, but she didn't ask her son and daughter-in-law the same. But once the old and weak approach, she wants to share the cost with her daughter, so she is eccentric, and it is chilling to think about it.

Such parents can only support weak and honest children.