College is the most free time in many people's lives. You can do whatever you want and be free. Legend has it that there are three compulsory courses in universities: skipping classes, failing classes and falling in love. Many people don't give up falling in love until they graduate from college. Why have so many college students never been in love at all? There are many university resources (opposite sex), more university time, and more opportunities for universities to contact the opposite sex. Be reasonable. You can fall in love once or twice. However, the reality is always the opposite. There are really many people who have never been in love in college.
First, falling in love before college will definitely affect your study. Before college, parents and teachers were very concerned about students' emotional problems. On the one hand, parents and teachers are afraid that once their children fall in love, their grades will be affected, which is a very big risk when a college entrance examination determines their lives. So parents and teachers warn students not to fall in love. Of course, this is the bad side. But in reality, this is the case in most cases. Of course, there are also good effects, such as online reports that couples learn to bully.
But if two people work hard together because of love, struggle together and get into a key university together. Being your excuse and shield for falling in love will definitely have a bad influence. The reason why the media reports that couples are learning to bully is not to agree with their love behavior, but to affirm their efforts in learning. But if it's you, can you promise to study hard with your partner and stay in the question bank all day?
Less experience in contact with the opposite sex; Most people have little experience in contact with the opposite sex before they go to college. Everyone has been studying for more than ten years, and the goal in their hearts is to get into a good university. Parents, relatives and friends will try their best to make you concentrate on your studies, and you don't have to worry about anything else. In the junior high school of Seeds of Love, when you have a subtle relationship with the opposite sex, the teacher will stop you, and your parents will teach you not to fall in love before college. Falling in love is not good, and it will also affect your study. Now concentrate on your studies, and when you get into college, you can say whatever you want. As a result, many people seldom contact with the opposite sex, even chat with the opposite sex, let alone fall in love. This state lasted until after I went to college.
Everyone's nature of playing in college has been fully tapped. As long as there is no class, they either ask their friends out to play, play games in the dormitory or busy with their own interests. The chances of contact with the opposite sex are greatly increased, and you can even contact the opposite sex every day. However, due to our previous experience of contact with the opposite sex, chatting with the opposite sex has either become an expression pack or we don't know what we are talking about, and finally we can only end this conversation awkwardly. The most important thing for two people to develop into a lover relationship is communication, whether it is the first meeting, the first date or the first confession, they should communicate with each other. Through communication, action and mutual understanding, it is possible to spark the spark of love. Of course, you are handsome, beautiful and free, as long as you are happy.
The relationship before college is more about adolescent hormonal impulses. We have all experienced adolescence, and we all have a good impression on the opposite sex, which is probably the growth that everyone has to experience. Time is fair. Everyone will experience the psychological change of being fascinated by the opposite sex when they go through adolescence. Whether you are a bully or a scum, hormones only look for your gender. Some people say that we broke up in senior three, and we often see the dynamics in the space on the eve of the college entrance examination. In addition to the success of the college entrance examination, there are some self-deprecating breakups. Among them, the students in Grade Two don't watch too much, and the content is mostly: "I wish the seniors and sisters a successful breakup." From a realistic and objective point of view, there are many cases and situations in which couples break up after the college entrance examination every year. The reason is that even if they don't break up because of differences or different wishes, it is difficult to persist for a long time.
After all, as soon as the college entrance examination is over, the physical pressure is gone at once. In this state, most people will come back to examine their current situation, including love. At this time, puberty hormones may still be there, but for a person who has finished the college entrance examination, rationality may be more than sensibility in future planning. Then, it is hard to say whether the role of hormones is useful or not.
Love before college is too limited. First of all, before college, an important problem we face is how to enter our dream university smoothly. The only way is to rely on excellent grades, and there is almost no other way to achieve it. So many people don't fall in love because they are very clear about what they can and can't do if they want to change the status quo and realize their dreams.
Secondly, the pressure from parents and teachers, as well as the eyes of others. In most cases, as long as you haven't taken the college entrance examination, your parents and teachers expect you to be admitted to a key university. Therefore, everything that may ruin the result is not allowed to happen. For others, your love is likely to attract the attention of many people, including your classmates, friends, family and teachers. The most important people are your parents. Maybe they won't interfere in your love, but they will also think that you are too young, don't understand love, and have no ability and responsibility to undertake love. Sometimes, it is a blow to you.
Lack of self-confidence; Many people in the university believe that only beautiful and handsome people are qualified to fall in love. Ordinary people like us are not qualified to fall in love. A six-person dormitory in a university is inhabited by people from all over the country, including those in City A, City B, City C and City D.. Everyone looks different. The tallest man in a city is handsome, and he has been in love twice in college. The one in B city who plays games every day and goes to bed at the latest every day is also the legendary dead house who failed the exam the most. But he is good at playing games and found a girlfriend through games. There must be a fat man in the university dormitory, and so is this dormitory. The one in C city is very fat, weighing more than 200 kilograms, about 170. I only know how to stay in the dormitory every day, and I also said that I would go back on a blind date to find my daughter-in-law. I never talked about love once during my college days. City D looks ordinary, ranging from 165 to 170, and its height is not very high. Is a real passerby. One has been in love and the other has never been in love. Everyone is a different individual, with his own appearance and specialty. The one in A may be talking about love with better conditions. B city may attract the opposite sex with the charm of playing games. That ordinary D city made friends with the opposite sex. What is this? It seems that he has no merits, like many people. But he relies on his own initiative and confidence.
Ordinary-looking people, in the process of contact with the opposite sex, will have a feeling of being lower than people, and they are not confident. A question of the opposite sex, such as what we eat, what we look at, you say, and you have no opinion of yourself. In the final analysis, it is not confident. I'm afraid I made a mistake or said something that the other person didn't like. I am an ordinary person, so others have a worse impression of myself. There are many opportunities to get in touch with the opposite sex in college. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Have confidence in yourself. In the process of interacting with the opposite sex, you should have a feeling that I am Daniel Wu and I am Liu Yifei. Everyone has the right to fall in love, let go of yourself and pursue boldly. The worst result is failure, but you can start all over again.
The White Paper on Love shows that 9 1% of college students are troubled by four difficulties in love, namely, meeting, divorce, falling in love and maintaining. Whether you are in love or not, you will encounter different problems. Once something goes wrong, it may have serious consequences.
The "persecution" of family members and relatives mainly happens to young people who have already worked, and it is also what young people are most afraid of ―― when they go home for the Spring Festival, they are asked by seven aunts and eight aunts, "Do you have a girlfriend?" "When will you get married?". The most direct phenomenon of this problem is "renting a girlfriend and boyfriend to go home for the New Year" and so on. Treat the problem of love in the form of driving ducks to the shelves.
The wrong view of love is terrible; The correct concept of love is too important. Although most college students have grown up and have their own judgment and control ability, in college, there are quite a few people who delay their studies because of falling in love, but they give up on themselves because of unsuccessful pursuit or forced to break up, or even self-harm and suicide, endangering others. Most of these irrational behaviors are due to the formation of a wrong view of love. Entering the society, the bad influence of incorrect love view or love way on young people is also real. From renting a girlfriend or boyfriend to going home for the New Year to committing serious crimes.