Xiao Ya quarreled with her parents, called me and cried bitterly.

"Can't I make a choice for myself?"

Xiao will be a third-grade student when he starts school. She is a science major in two ordinary colleges. For professional reasons, she needs to deal with mathematics all day. But in fact, she doesn't like math at all. When she was at school, she looked at a pile of dense formulas, just like looking at a pile of ancient words, unable to understand the mystery that spans time and space.

She said that she had transferred to another school and had no interest in science. Now I am preparing for my junior year, and I really want to fight for myself. I hope to re-select my favorite major through postgraduate entrance examination, and I already have a goal and am full of enthusiasm.

However, at this time, her parents forced her to take the current professional certificate, because this certificate contains a lot of gold, which gave her a heavy bargaining chip to find a job and her salary was much higher. Even told her: "It is so difficult to take the postgraduate entrance examination now, and it is difficult for you to get in."

In a word, let Xiao's mood completely fall to the bottom. What is more chilling than the people closest to you who don't understand themselves and don't believe in themselves?

Little parents insisted that she get this certificate. A * * * needs to take 8 courses, and each course involves a lot of math-related operations. Small, a typical liberal arts girl, usually studying is still very painful, not to mention such a certificate of great intensity and difficulty.

However, no matter how she told her parents that she didn't like this major and industry, no matter how she explained to her parents that she had found something she liked, her parents wouldn't listen. Even told her: "You are now taking the postgraduate entrance examination and changing your major. Didn't the university study for four years? "

Little ah doesn't know how to continue to communicate with her parents, and I don't know how to comfort her when she choked on the other end of the phone.

I think most of our generation's families are like this, bearing all parents' expectations since childhood.

In their parents' era, they all suffered too much, tasted all the hardships brought by poverty, and many living habits and ways of thinking were very different from today. Parents want their children to do things for them that they haven't done, so they inject too much expectation into us.

However, we are individuals with our own independent thoughts, things we like and things we want to pursue. Most of these things are contrary to parents' expectations.

Especially today, under the great impact of the Internet, we can hear all kinds of maverick voices, understand all kinds of possibilities in this myriad world, and draw a beautiful blueprint of life in our hearts.

But you know, most of our parents didn't keep up with us.

So, what if parents don't understand?

Recently, I saw the variety show "College Students Come". In one issue, I invited Xiaobai, Guibian and Bridge, the popular players of the recently popular "Hip-hop to China", to discuss "Is the dream that is not optimistic lasting?" This topic.

The host Zhang generously asked them that as a professional rapper, there must be voices of support and opposition at home. What should you do in the face of these opposing voices?

Xiao Bai was a soldier before becoming a professional rapper. At that time, he rapped in the army and was always kicked out. Because people didn't understand it at all and felt very noisy, he stood alone on the stage of the garbage dump, banging on a pile of stinking garbage.

Xiaobai said, "I think there are a lot of mocking voices. Slowly, if you work hard, ridicule will turn into cheers and your dreams will become a reality. "

As for Ghost Bian, he used to be a teacher. His parents, like our parents, want him to have a stable job and get five insurances and one gold. Ghost side will work hard according to parents' expectations, get five insurances and one gold, and then do what you like after getting five insurances and one gold. I really appreciate the last sentence of Ghost Edge: "Grapes are sweet, don't be blind."

Therefore, when what we want to do is inconsistent with our parents' expectations, we can have two solutions.

The first kind, forget it, is to work until you make achievements.

This method is suitable for the situation that communication with parents is fruitless. If you work hard and make achievements, parents will naturally give in. After all, parents all over the world want their children to live well. Even if they don't understand our ideas and practices, the starting point must be for our own good.

So, when you make achievements by your own efforts and let them know that you can support yourself and your family even if you don't follow their expected path, and you are still very happy, I think any parents will support you.

I have a singer who has been in love for eight years. Her mother was very opposed to her becoming a singer at first. She is worried that the entertainment circle is too complicated to protect herself. But later, she saw her daughter take part in the competition, and achieved very good results, and gained a group of fans who liked her. Besides, my daughter is making her favorite music. Although it is not a big hit, she likes it. Slowly, she turned from opposition to support.

So the premise is that you have to make achievements. It is undoubtedly the most difficult time not to be understood by parents and relatives before making achievements. At this time, what supports you is your determination to pay for your dreams. No matter how hard and tired you are, no matter how many tears you shed in the dark room, you must persist. The night is so long, you must have a light to warm yourself and bite the bullet.

Second, follow parents' expectations, meet their expectations, and then do what you like.

Just like the ghost side, be a good teacher and get five insurances and one gold. With sufficient time and funds, I will pursue my dream again. After all, how much is your dream worth if you can't even meet basic food and clothing?

But at this time, if you are used to a comfortable life, maybe the fire in your heart will slowly go out. People are lazy. Who doesn't want to be comfortable?

Walter, the hero of the movie Dreamer, is the managing director of the negative assets department of a magazine. He often fantasizes that he has done some incredible things and that he is a hero. However, in reality, he is a very mediocre person, who only daydreams and has no passion and pursuit.

Repeating the boring life day after day made him forget that he was an adventurous child when he was a child. It was not until an important film was lost that he had to embark on a journey of searching and found himself again on the journey.

However, in our life, how many people have fallen into a mediocre life, getting farther and farther away from their initial heart and dreams, but never waking up?

We can never wake a person who pretends to sleep.

If you choose this way, you will meet your parents' expectations first, and please be sure to protect the burning flame in your heart. Don't let this dream fire go out slowly without knowing it.

The mentality must be firm, so that it will not be smoothed by the secular.

May you and I both be teenagers chasing dreams, and the fire of dreams will never go out.