The ancients believed that "cautious independence" was the way to cultivate one's morality, the only way to cultivate one's morality, and also an important symbol to distinguish loyalty from traitors. A person can't be regarded as a real gentleman just because he follows the rules for fame and wealth or interests, but only if he really has a gentleman's heart in his stomach and is truly "cautious and independent" in words and deeds can he be regarded as a gentleman's realm. Therefore, the ancients said, "A gentleman is cautious and independent."
"Cautious and independent". First of all, be cautious. No one is present, and when you are alone, you can't do whatever you want and do something shameful. Because "dark things are not hidden but not obvious; The journey of confusion is not hidden but not obvious. Do one thing under cover of another. People don't know-one is the wisdom of stealing the clock. " Dark places and bright places, hidden places and obvious places can be transformed under certain conditions. Being in the dark, indulging yourself in a secluded place, or even doing bad things, are all stupid. Everything you do is objective. As the saying goes, "if you want to know nothing, you must do it yourself." The wrong behavior will eventually be revealed.
"Prudence and independence" cannot be separated from "prudence". Not everyone can always be "cautious and independent", because this is not a natural result, but a process of gradual cultivation. We should constantly hone our moral will, always use moral norms to restrain our words and deeds, always get rid of selfish thoughts, develop healthy thoughts and behaviors, and make it a habit to say, do and accumulate well. Subconsciously there is a ruler to measure your every move, and consciously there is a belief to restrain yourself. Therefore, on the road of life, there is only time.
Instead, correct small shortcomings and mistakes, nip in the bud, and build a solid Great Wall ideologically, so as to resist all kinds of temptations and become a "magnanimous" true gentleman.
The key to "cautious independence" is "cautious province". What is "independence"? It is a place that others can't see or hear, not only referring to the external space, but also to the human mind. As Zhu said, "the only one is a place that people don't know but only know." With morality in mind and discipline in mind, hands and feet will be bound, and solitude will be regarded as public. Therefore, if a person wants to make progress, he must constantly reflect on himself seriously, find out the bad tendencies and ideas in his thoughts and behaviors, abandon evil and be good, work hard in "unknown places" and constantly correct the direction of progress. We should constantly check ourselves seriously, set up a "moral court" in our hearts, always judge ourselves morally, "think twice" before doing things, never do anything that violates the regulations, always remind ourselves in action, resolutely not touch the "high-voltage line", seriously reflect after the incident, and overcome shortcomings and correct mistakes through self-reflection, self-dissection and self-summary.
"Shen Du" is a shield that can help you resist all kinds of temptations and guard against all kinds of "sugar bombs"; "Shen Du" is a loyal dog, which can help you avoid traps everywhere and avoid all kinds of right and wrong; "Cautious independence" is a good prescription, which can refresh your mind and make your appearance proud. It is very necessary for leading cadres to be cautious and independent, and they can't neglect their future, career, present and future for a moment.
Language originated from The Doctrine of the Mean;
"Tao, too, can't be followed for a moment; You can stay, but you can't. So a gentleman is wary of what he can't see, and fear is almost unheard of. Don't see it hidden, don't show it, so the gentleman is cautious. "
The general meaning is:
"Tao is inseparable, and separation is not Tao. Therefore, a gentleman should be careful of his words and deeds when others can't see and others can't hear. "
I still don't understand the original text. Let's see what Zhu said.
Now the golden mean consists of two parts:
From the second chapter (according to Zhu Zhu's note, the same below) to the first half of the twentieth chapter, "people who do it are also part of it", and the first and twentieth chapters "Everything is ready" are another part.
The former part focuses on the doctrine of the mean, while the latter part focuses on honesty and clarity. They were put together later. Therefore, the "Tao" in the first chapter "Tao is also a person who can't leave for a moment" should not be the content below the second chapter, but the Tao discussed below the twentieth chapter, that is, the Tao in the twentieth chapter "Honesty is the Heaven" and the Tao in the twenty-first chapter "Honesty is self-sufficient, and Tao is self-sufficient", that is, sincerity. "Tao is also inseparable for a moment" means to keep your inner sincerity at all times, which is actually the same as "sincerity" in "University".
Speaking of which, should everyone understand a little? The "cautious independence" mentioned here is to maintain inner sincerity. However, to whom should I be sincere?
Aside from these, let's take a look at Freud's analysis of "I":
Freud believed that personality structure consists of id, ego and superego.
Id is the original self, which refers to the original self, including the basic desires, impulses and vitality needed for survival. Id is the source of all psychological energy. It acts on the principle of happiness. It ignores social morality and external behavior norms. Its only requirement is to get happiness and avoid pain. Its goal is to seek individual comfort, survival and reproduction. It is unconscious and will not be perceived by individuals.
Ego, which means "ego" in German, is the part where you can consciously think, feel, judge or remember. The role of the ego is to seek the satisfaction of the "id" impulse, while protecting the whole body from harm. It follows the principle of realism and serves itself.
Superego is an ideal part of personality structure. It is formed by internalizing the moral norms and values of social and cultural environment in the process of individual growth. Its main function is to supervise, criticize and control its own behavior. It is characterized by the pursuit of perfection, so it is as unrealistic as the ID, and most of it is unconscious. It requires the ego to satisfy the ego in a socially acceptable way, and it follows the "moral principle".
The sentence "superego requires self to satisfy ID in a socially acceptable way" is very interesting. The superego is the norm, the id is the purpose, and the ego is the action. "Cautious independence" means that a gentleman's words and deeds must be done according to the norms, especially when he is alone.
So when you do things every day, you must remember that you must be sincere to yourself, to others and to the environment in order to be a man.
Postscript: I read a book recently and mentioned that "a gentleman is cautious about independence", so I looked through a lot of materials and wanted to understand its meaning. However, after reading a lot, I found that my heart was more chaotic. These four words, Tao can be said, Buddha can be interpreted, officials can be interpreted, and people can comment, each with its own reasons. I have learned that at any time, a person's heart must be sincere. There seems to be another saying in the bamboo and silk version of the Five Elements.