The key is to have the willpower to control yourself. 1, weekly plan. 2. Check the results every week. 3. Self-reward and punishment measures. Reprint an article for reference. Learn how to manage yourself. Today is Sunday. As usual, I get up before seven o'clock. What should I do? I want to tidy my room, my parents will come to see me, I will communicate with my son who comes home, and I will read and write blogs. Yes, my car hasn't been maintained for a long time. I have to send it to work ... It seems to be another busy Sunday. In fact, I especially envy those who can rest, especially those who can sleep. Sister Hong and Dimfragrance are such people. On the rest day, they will definitely sleep backwards and never get up unless they have to. I used to have an appointment with them on a rest day. They had dinner at twelve o'clock, but they never arrived early and always stepped into the restaurant. Ask them, "What are you up to?" "Go to sleep" in unison, and then looked at me strangely. "Da Zhou can't sleep well, why?" I said, "I also want to have a good sleep, but I just can't sleep." Can you sleep? ""Why can't you sleep? "They were surprised that after receiving your call, they set the alarm clock and slept until eleven o'clock". They proudly introduced, "Oh, it's all you. It would be nice to have a party at night so that I can sleep until noon. "On the contrary, they blame. Every time I look at them, they are still as bright as lotus leaves, and I have to really admire them. They told me that women should take care of themselves while they can work, especially sleep, which is the foundation of women's beauty. A successful woman must study both inside and outside. Even if the traces of time fade, her youthful vitality will always shine! I told them: "actually, I know everything, but I always feel that I can't do anything well and I'm not practical!" "And there are too many personal ideals for people to relax ..." "You should learn how to manage yourself!" This is my good friend's warning and exhortation. So how do you manage yourself? How can we be "effective"? Yu, president of New Oriental, has summed up some experiences of self-management, which is worth learning. First, set long-term goals. Second, establish phased goals. Third, motivate yourself by "seeing the final result". Fourth, summarize every week and give yourself a star. Fifth, keep learning mentality. Six, often relax yourself. Set long-term goals. I still have many long-term goals, such as growing into an expert manager and running the managed school into a happy paradise for teachers and students; For example, being an expert specializing in family education; There are also professional institutions that gather parents and children to train and study together; Then I will publish a book or a series of books on contemporary children's survival education ... However, I am sober and blind about these long-term goals. For a time, I feel too idealistic and too difficult. I feel that as long as I keep working hard, I will eventually achieve them. Many times, because there are too many ideas, too many scruples and too much pressure. On the other hand, I have a clear and definite long-term goal. He set three long-term goals. First, the establishment of "two or three thousand people, never expand" private universities. Second, set up a cultural research institute. Third, "travel around the world in depth and be able to write in-depth travel notes." For him, these goals are tailor-made and natural. Unlike me, almost ambitious, but still so stubborn. Alas, do you want to re-evaluate yourself and re-set the long-term goal of science? Establish phased goals. Yu believes that one should set phased goals in order to have a sense of accomplishment. "For example, the text I want to recite today, which I recited before going to bed, is a staged small success and small achievement. Adding up these small successes may eventually become a big success. " At this point, I have to reflect. It is precisely because there are many long-term plans that I have not rationally thought about "how to achieve them in stages." So I run around like a headless fly, which leads to my mental stress doubling when I have accomplished nothing, and even sometimes I feel very inferior and depressed, feeling that my future ideal is very slim. Self-motivation by "seeing the final result". This touched me the most. So the top of the enterprise. Who will inspire him? The answer is: I motivate myself by "seeing the final result". As a training institution, the final result of New Oriental is the change of students. Therefore, Yu often gives lectures, "I have great motivation to be a New Oriental, and I think I have done a good thing, which should be strengthened through lectures. If you don't contact students for half a year, this kind of reinforcement will be weak. " Over the years, I have really done a lot of things in school management, survival education and personal development, of which only I know the bitterness and bitterness. Especially in one year in Hong Kong, while harvesting, the overload operation of the body led to the multiplication of diseases today. I have been constantly feeling guilty and blaming myself: Why do you want to go? In fact, there is still a lot of comfort at the same time: because one year in Hong Kong has broadened my educational horizons and made me understand that education is for children, education should pay attention to and accommodate the needs of different people, and strive to cultivate outstanding, enthusiastic, confident and independent talents ... Secretary Zou of the school district recently calmed down and read many of my blog posts carefully. He said: I am very moved by your devotion to your career and appreciate your education. Yes, people who really understand me will feel my sincerity in education. However, when I came back from Hong Kong, people kept throwing cold water on me, and some said, What are you fooling around with? No one noticed this difference. Some said: Look, we are doing nothing, but everything is going well. What makes me most indignant is that there are still some people who don't understand, even their parents (in fact, I suspect that they are really not parents, but only under the guise of their parents). Because the parents I know are really not of that quality) .......... Sometimes, I really want to tell the truth to some people who kindly advise me that "it's time to change jobs" and "it's time for you to get a promotion": Education is not a springboard! Really, going to Hong Kong to support government education, running schools with advanced educational concepts, and exploring the mode of "survival education for primary school students" are all out of the responsibility and conscience of an educator, not for performance and promotion. I put it well: "As a training institution, New Oriental's final result is the change of students." As an educator, the final result is the cultivation of children. We should constantly look for results from children and use them to motivate ourselves. As a teacher, I think it must be the smiling faces and progress of the children that can make us passionate about the next step. Summarize every week and give yourself a star. I write a diary once a week, review my seven-day experience and give myself a star according to my harvest. Yu said that the following situations will get more stars: "I am reading at home, and there is no other interference this day;" Or wrote one or two articles that I think are excellent; Or did you really learn a lot by chatting with each other? "I still record the work I do every day in my notebook, but I just tick it and never want to give myself a star. I think this method is very desirable. Accomplished grades must be high, constant evaluation and constant pursuit of perfection will make you a perfect person and a successful person. Keep learning mentality. Yu does not consider the work related to New Oriental as a star player, because he thinks that no matter how well the work is done, it is only a repetition of the ability, not a promotion. However, he talked about one exception, that is, he participated in discussing the case of New Oriental at Harvard Business School, and he attributed this case to the opportunity brought by his work in New Oriental. " I learned a lot from their behavior, expressions and professors' explanations. This is brand new to me ... although I didn't sleep well that day, I still want to give it five stars. "I don't know what Yu's daily work is and whether it is challenging and innovative. He never thinks about his job. He thinks this is just a repetition of his ability, not an improvement. But I don't think so. I think work needs more stars. Constantly innovating the way of working, constantly challenging the difficulties in work and defeating yourself will make the work more comfortable and efficient. For example, after changing the past meeting and summary mode, everyone feels like a fresh air blowing, which is particularly comfortable and comfortable. In this case, I must give myself a five-star evaluation; For example, I think I have done a stubborn job as a parent, and I will add a star to myself after removing some work obstacles that have not been solved for many years. For another example, take advantage of the parent-teacher conference to share your knowledge of Hong Kong, parenting experience and educational research with parents, so as to help parents get out of the misunderstanding of family education and try to be a smart parent. Although hard work, parents have benefited a lot, which must be an encouragement to themselves; When I meet a problem children that parents and many teachers can't solve, I must reward myself for transforming children through psychological strategies and cases. Relax yourself often. Yu said, "Sometimes I just suddenly go out to climb the mountain to see the clouds. Sometimes at night-I am very familiar with the lunar calendar in China-whenever the moon rises, sometimes I really sit under the moon and just watch it do nothing. "At this point, we should learn from Yu, including the little red sister and Dimfragrance mentioned earlier, and learn to care about and treat ourselves well, so that we can devote ourselves to work and study with a fuller mental state.