In the last episode, Lin went to the hospital to visit her aunt before going to college. They had this conversation-
Aunt: "Did you go to college? What school? "
Miaomiao: "We are from the journalism department."
Aunt: "Do you want to be a reporter in the future?"
Miaomiao: "I haven't decided yet. I can go to college anyway. We'll talk about it then. "
Let's talk about it later. How many college graduates are confused and upset? This is a deep worry of modern college graduates-they have no plans for their future careers!
The college entrance examination focuses all the attention of teachers, parents and children on getting into college, and even many parents feel that they can do nothing but study their children. In Pi, a quarrel between Miaomiao and his mother, how many family realities Miaomiao blurted out-"There are only two things in your life: taking exams and not taking exams!" But what about after college? Parents probably think that sending their children to college is their ultimate task. As for future employment, it depends on his ability.
According to the data of 20 16, only 30% of science graduates are engaged in professions related to their major, and only15 of arts students are engaged in counterpart work, so there are still 70%. They are standing on the cliff of life. Four years in college, except for a diploma, has no decisive role in future career development! The future is unknown to them!
Let's see how a wise mother helps her daughter find her purpose in life-
My colleague's daughter has a hobby since she was a child, playing with dolls. Most girls like playing with dolls. Nothing unusual, but this girl played until the college entrance examination and finally turned her hobby into a lifelong career, which most girls can't do.
Her success is closely related to her mother's firm support. Her mother found that her daughter would cut clothes for dolls with pieces of paper when she was a child, so she bought her daughter crumpled paper. When she was a little older, she provided her daughter with old clothes at home, bought all kinds of beautiful fabrics and dolls, and asked her to dress up the dolls as she wanted. Her mother found that her daughter's creativity was getting more and more, and the styles of clothes were getting richer and richer. When she was in high school, she was able to design beautiful clothes for life-size dolls.
My daughter also made a wish to be a fashion designer very early. By the time I went to high school, my mother had helped my daughter find her favorite major, drama costume design in a British university! So my daughter didn't take the national college entrance examination, but directly applied to that school in England.
See the difference? This mother has made a career plan for her daughter, which is driven by children's interests! Her life and career started from childhood, but our children are still at a loss after graduating from college!
First, why do you want to make a career plan for your child?
Career planning is the course of life.
"According to the statistical results of the Survey Report on College Students' Employment Outlook (20 18), 68% of college students have planned their own employment goals, of which 4 1% are not clear about this goal, and only 27% of college students have clear employment goals. It can be seen that contemporary college students are not clear about their employment values. In the spirit of "Hao Han Bird", there is no spiritual motivation. Going to college just for a diploma leads to students' lack of motivation and confusion about the future. "
"The average competition ratio of 20 19 national civil service examination is 95: 1, and the competition ratio is the highest over the years. There is also the recruitment of public institutions, state-owned enterprises and central enterprises. Sometimes the admission ratio of popular positions exceeds 1000: 1. The competition for such examinations has intensified, and there are still more and more graduates who should join the national examination. "
What do these two sets of data show? After graduating from college, most people still don't know their career direction, so many people follow the trend to take the national examination in order to pursue a stable life and welfare benefits within the system.
There is a popular saying on the Internet: Direction is more important than hard work. In fact, there is no direction for taking the college entrance examination and mixing diplomas. Studying is the way to the goal, not the goal of life. Therefore, what we have to do in college is the goal and direction we really want to pursue, that is, career!
This is the importance of career planning for children, and this is the direction of life!
2. Career planning should precede study.
In Pi, I had two conversations with my father Lin before and after, which is very telling.
The first time was when I was in high school in Miaomiao.
Miaomiao: "I don't understand. Why do we have to learn things that may not be used for a lifetime? " ? For example, math, I'm sure, except for the college entrance examination, I won't need those math knowledge all my life! Then why study? "
Dad replied: "Mathematics can make people careful, and it can lead us to explore a more mysterious, deeper and better world."
Miaomiao retorted, "Anyway, I don't want to see a deeper, farther and more beautiful world. The purpose of setting up this math class is to screen out scum like me. "
The second time was in Miaomiao. At that time, I was addicted to becoming an online celebrity and had no intention of entering the university.
Dad said these words to persuade Miaomiao to study: You have ideas and creativity, but they are meaningless. If you spend your time interacting with ancient sages, you will be different even if you don't take the college entrance examination or do live webcasting. If you study, have determination, and then pursue your dreams and have your own opinions, you won't follow suit.
This is why career planning should precede study. When a person has no goal in life, learning is blind. He doesn't know why he studies. Dad told Lin for the first time that the reason for learning was so empty that he could not convince the children.
The second time, my father said that the positive significance of reading for webcasting deeply touched Lin. Since then, Miaomiao has also dropped the webcast and concentrated on the college entrance examination.
Everyone knows that learning English is very important and useful. Tell the child that he can't see anything useful to him. As for the girls who will go to Britain to study drama and fashion design in the future, they don't need their parents' painstaking teaching, and they also know where English is important. She also knows the significance of going to school and taking exams, because her goals are clear.
Therefore, the earlier you plan your child's career, the more you can promote your child's learning motivation!
Second, why should children's interests be the thrust?
1. Interest makes children more motivated.
According to the statistics of authoritative organizations, over 40% of college students change careers within three years after graduation, and over 70% turn to jobs unrelated to their major five years after graduation. There are many reasons, the biggest of which is to find that you don't like your professional counterparts. Through the investigation of college students and graduated college students, it is found that among all the people who volunteered to fill in the college entrance examination, when choosing a major again, 84. 17% people give priority to personal interests, 68.35% people consider employment prospects, followed by school rankings, professional rankings and geographical factors.
A while ago, Shen Wei, a "wandering master", became popular on the Internet. He said: "It is my regret to learn auditing. If my father communicated tactfully, I would never choose this major. I will choose Chinese Department or International Political Studies. After graduation, I will work in a district audit office in Shanghai. I don't have a prestigious school background and I don't like auditing, but I made this choice under the constraint and pressure of my father. In this life, it is a pity that I didn't do what I wanted to do. "
Although most people don't realize their life by being down and out like Shen Wei. However, lack of interest will make a person lose the motivation to move forward, which is a common phenomenon in China, which follows the filial piety culture. Children lack free will and can only follow the path indicated by their parents. The road is not for yourself, but also painful.
2. Respect children's interests and form synergy with children.
In Pi, Lin made a live webcast behind his family and teachers' backs, and confronted his parents and teachers, which we usually call children's rebellion. This process makes chickens fly and dogs jump at home, and children's studies are abandoned. What if we change our thinking and recognize children's interests instead of blindly opposing them?
The answer is also given in Pi. After the incident, what Lin's father and he said was a joint effort with the children. He recognized his daughter's outstanding performance in webcasting, and at the same time made her understand the importance of learning for webcasting, and Miaomiao was more motivated to learn.
Pu Shu's parents are professors in Peking University, and Pu Shu's music hobby is quite different from his parents' expectation. In the rebuke of his parents, Pu Shu was admitted to Capital Normal University and said, "This is for you. I'm not going. " Later, although I couldn't beat my parents and went to college, I still couldn't stand the boring and long school life and dropped out of high school.
Pu Shu's parents have always been a strong obstacle in Pu Shu's life, and he is lucky to have today's achievements. In an ordinary family like ours, how many parents are fighting against their children? How much of our children's nothing can be attributed to our parents?
I still want to go back to my colleague who encouraged my daughter to play with dolls. This mother is very wise. She cultivated her children's hobbies into career ambitions. She is the help of children along the way! Her children can devote all their energy to hobbies! In a family where parents are resistance, if children want to achieve themselves, they must devote a large part of their energy to fighting against their parents. It can be guessed that if this part of their energy can be concentrated on hobbies, maybe your children will not be today's children!
I wonder if mothers understand what Lin said to her aunt: "I haven't decided yet." I can go to college anyway. We'll talk about it then. "
There is a hidden crisis in the future. First, career planning has not really taken shape, and she is still confused about the future. Second, she is not sure whether she can get help from her parents for her hobbies.
Therefore, it is not entirely right to send the children to 985,211. We may have pushed our children to the cliff of life! Seeing this clearly, we should open our eyes and help our children find themselves and find the most suitable career for them! Under the guidance of career planning, children will have more motivation to learn and their life goals will be longer!