It is almost every parent's wish to expect their children to succeed, but how many of these wishes can be realized? In order to promote their children's success, some parents hate iron and choose repressive teaching methods. They often complain that their children have accomplished nothing, but they never think that there is something wrong with their children's education. What kind of person their children will eventually become depends on their parents' initial education. What kind of person do you want your children to be? You should be that person first.

In the psychological interview broadcast by CCTV, there is a program called "Behind the Ten Years of Needing the Elderly", which is about a 33-year-old female college student Fan 10 who didn't find a job after graduation and stayed at home for ten years. Her parents said that she was scolded. In the program, Fan said that no matter what she wants to do, her parents will always be the first to stand up and satirize her and mercilessly accuse these things of being a waste of time and useless. What her mother often says to her is "If you succeed, the dog will succeed" and "If you succeed in the future, I will kneel for you". Gradually, she got used to all this, but even complaining didn't help.

Now? Someone who needs it? Quite a lot. Generally speaking, people are against and deny eating old people. They think they are either unable to support themselves or simply lazy, unwilling to work and unwilling to think about the future. They are a group of people who are discriminated against for eating away at their parents' wealth.

In Japan, gnawing at the old has become a social phenomenon, and there is even a case of gnawing at the old at the age of 70. Most of the reasons why Japanese people are eager to get old are influenced by social factors, work system and economic conditions. Japanese society has fallen into a state of low desire, young people have no dreams, and everything in life is fate, which has led to the emergence of a large number of neets.

However, I want to say that everything happens for a reason. Fan's achievement today stems from his parents' education. Blaming and denying blindly will really ruin a child.

In the eyes of parents who have not received higher education, only reading is serious. Although his interest was restricted by his parents since he was a child, Fan found his hobby, sculpture, when he grew up, and this time his mother told her it was useless, and his words were insulting. Because she grew up under the repressive education of her parents. When she was a child, she also had ideas, but no matter what she wanted to do, she was always blocked by her parents. In the eyes of her parents, these are all idle.

Sadly, family education like this is by no means rare, especially in rural areas. Parents either let it go or expect too much to suppress their children's hobbies. They just want their children to learn, get ahead and continue their dreams. Children who grow up under the pressure of extreme words for a long time will become particularly inferior in adulthood, and their psychological endurance and psychological defense are also low. If you are not careful, it will become a mental illness.

Now Fan suffers from social phobia because of his extreme inferiority complex. She can't communicate well with others and can't go out to work. She is no longer willing to face the society and can't communicate with her parents. When you open your mouth, you fight. This percussion education has ruined a girl who should have a bright future and a complete start in life.

In childhood, children want to be recognized. At this time, we should let them know themselves correctly and build up their self-confidence. Don't always criticize and attack them and make them feel inferior. In children's childhood, we should encourage children to cultivate and find their own hobbies, don't kill children's ideas at will, don't tie children's hobbies with adults' thinking, and don't use them? Nothing, only reading is high? Reasons for depriving children of hobbies.

Educating children, the first thing is to educate children to become a? Healthy? People, this? Healthy? It refers not only to physical health, but also to mental health. When educating their children, parents should know how to put themselves in their own shoes and look at their children's growth from a more macro perspective, and don't break their wings for their own flight.