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There are several mother roles in In the Name of Family, and the most annoying one is about Ling Xiao's mother Chen Ting.
Chen Ting not only has been interfering in his son's life, but also attempted suicide in the last episode, which is really indelible.
A mother brought her daughter to see her brother, and then because of some family chores, she felt that writing a suicide note was tantamount to confession.
But in case of tragedy, have you ever thought about what your daughter, son and fiancee should do? Do you want to live with guilt all your life?
In "In the Name of Family", who is the winner in life is undoubtedly He's mother He Mei, who held a bad hand from the beginning.
He Mei's success is worth learning from every married and divorced woman.
He Mei never interfered with his son, never asked him to do anything for himself, and even preferred to be misunderstood rather than bear a burden on his son.
He Mei devotes herself to her career, strives to maintain her face value, and truly gives consideration to her career and love, winning her son's heart.
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As an audience, especially a middle-aged married woman, what impressed me the most was undoubtedly Qi's mother Jin Yuxiang. Why?
First of all, pave the way for my daughter in her studies and career.
Qi Ming is a good girl in Harle Middle School, and her family conditions are not bad. Jin Yuxiang is strict with her daughter in her studies. Although some practices are a bit extreme, there is no denying that her starting point is good.
Take reality as an example. How many middle-aged mothers will seriously discipline everything when their daughters are in high school? Because many mothers think that their children have grown up, they have no choice but to eat, drink, play cards and dance.
After Qi failed in the college entrance examination, Jin Yuxiang suggested that her daughter go to a local university to study. There are good and bad suggestions, but as an audience and experienced person, Qi Mu's advice really suits her daughter.
Qi is a simple person. It may be better to work in the local area with the help of his parents.
Later, Qi Mu suggested that her daughter take the civil service exam and prepared reference materials for her daughter. Many viewers accused Qi Mu of interfering too much with her daughter.
However, all married women over forty will think that Qi Yueming had better listen to her mother. After all, not everyone will stand out in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. More people are ordinary, ordinary. Perhaps civil servants are really a good choice.
As a mother, she is willing to think about this for her daughter. It is really hard to get this.
Secondly, make plans for your daughter in life.
Why did Jin Yuxiang divorce?
The fuse of the matter is that Jin Yuxiang wants to buy a house for her daughter, which she thinks is her daughter's pre-marital property.
Many people don't like this and think that Qi Mu is incredible. It is people like her who drive up the house price. But as an audience, I don't think there is anything wrong with Jin Yuxiang. On the contrary, I think she did the right thing.
Because she is really thinking about her daughter's future. What if her daughter doesn't get married? Do you want to live with your parents all your life? It is better to have a house in your hand and a nest in the future while you are young.
When Qi graduated from college and came out to work, he rented a house. Jin Yuxiang also agreed reasonably, often cleaning the room for her daughter and bringing something to eat.
Perhaps there is another slot, thinking that it is interfering with Qi Yueming, but I think Jin Yuxiang is really conscientious to his daughter.
Finally, after the divorce, it didn't affect her daughter's life, and she suffered alone.
Although the divorce was a bit sudden and collapsed, after all, after listening to his lifelong husband, he became an ex-husband.
But Jin Yuxiang is still quite strong. After crying, she continued to live. She should care about her daughter or her daughter. She should go to her daughter's rental house to see her daughter. Never changed.
In fact, Qi knows that her mother has suffered a great blow. After all, it is a career for Jin Yuxiang to run her husband and daughter. Now that the career is ruined, it is still the foundation of more than 20 years. Can it not be hit? Besides, Jin Yuxiang is a very strong and proud person.
But you can't live and die for divorce. At this point, Jin Yuxiang and Chen Ting still have essential differences.
She does not add psychological burden to her daughter, undertakes everything alone, and continues to treat life and her daughter with a smile.
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What does Jin Yuxiang's divorce give us?
First, you can't put all your hopes on your husband and children, you should put most of your energy on yourself.
This is the truth that Tang Can first realized. I have to say that Tang can is really a very transparent girl.
Jin Yuxiang did nothing wrong. The biggest mistake is to pin your hopes on your husband and children. She wants her husband to succeed and her daughter to be excellent. She hopes her daughter can live a better life in the future.
She is really inferior to He Mei in this respect. He Mei belongs to "I don't care what others think of me, I just want to live my own life."
Jin Yuxiang wants to buy a house for her daughter. Is there something wrong? There is nothing wrong! If He Mei doesn't need to discuss with anyone at all, she can buy it if she wants. Isn't it the children's house in the future?
So to be exact, Jin Yuxiang's expectation exceeded her personal ability, so she wanted to use the ability of her husband and daughter, but when she met two uncooperative partners, the plan could not be implemented. If she has the ability and financial strength, she will buy her own house. Who can interfere with her?
Second, the family should not be too self-sacrificing, and the husband should also bear corresponding responsibilities and obligations.
As can be seen from several shots, Jin Yuxiang grabs his beard and eyebrows at home and takes care of everything. Financial power should be managed, housework should be managed, and the future of children should be managed. Busy and tired.
But Jin Yuxiang doesn't feel hard, because this is her personal career.
Her thought is very simple, running a family is her career, but the problem is that her husband doesn't have the same consciousness. So the two became more and more contradictory, and finally they couldn't talk about cooperation and divorce.
In fact, there is really no need to work so hard and so tired. It is what the husband has to bear, and it is what the husband has to worry about.
Only after paying, trying and having no effect will the husband know the hardships of a woman and a family.
In the same way, it is also very suitable for treating children. You see, Qi has grown up, and she has been depressed since her parents divorced. As she grows older, she will gradually understand her mother's sincerity.
Third, do whatever you want, and don't make decisions for your husband and children without authorization.
Since the last quarrel was about the house, let's talk about Jin Yuxiang's shortcomings, or that he was too radical.
Although her starting point is good, she is too strong to decide everything in the family in an imperative way.
In fact, as a middle-aged woman with a full life, the most important thing is not that her husband and children do what she says, but that she wants to "do whatever she wants".
Jin Yuxiang is worried about her daughter's career and house. Has Qi Yueming ever been grateful? She just thinks her own mother is nosy.
So I want to buy a house and buy it myself. As long as I have the ability and money, I want to take the civil service exam, although my mother is over the age of taking the civil service exam.
In short, don't impose your expectations on your family and make decisions for them without authorization.
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Finally, as an audience, I want to say that Qi's mother has done too much. The only bad thing is that she took care of her family too much and sacrificed too much, so she collapsed when she divorced.
How can you not get support and response when all your energy and efforts are put on your family?
In fact, just like the mother said, "I'm doing it for your own good," the child would be very strange. I don't even think you are good for me. Why do you think you are doing good for me?
Therefore, Jin Yuxiang's marriage experience gave her daughter the best inspiration and also taught the next generation of women a profound lesson: woman, you are a wife and a mother, but you are yourself.