After breaking up, I will meet all kinds of people, experience several failed feelings, and finally choose a partner who I think can accompany me for life, get married and have children, and live an ordinary life.
But can you really forget your first love afterwards? I find it difficult. I found two married men today and see what they say.
First, Lao Zhang, aged 35, is the general manager of the enterprise.
Lao Wang has been married for five years, his children are over 1 year old, his family is happy, his career is successful, and he is the envy of everyone in front of others. In fact, only he knows the pain in his heart.
When the company was founded, there were only two people. He and his first love grew the company step by step. They went through difficulties and obstacles. His first love was the woman who was willing to accompany him around, share the pressure for him in the company and go home to help him out. This is such a beautiful love that it can't last long.
As their career grows stronger, their differences become more and more. Every time the company makes a decision, they always quarrel. In fact, both of them are good for the company, but they just don't know how to express their ideas without hurting people. Finally, they are getting worse and worse, and they share their property and death.
Every day as long as you see the company's mind, you will see the picture of fighting together at that time. Every tile, every wallpaper style, has the shadow of these two people. Even if they are not together now, it is really impossible to forget.
The second, Xiao Wang, 26, is a company employee.
Xiao Wang's experience and topic are exactly the same. I graduated from college in my twenties and went to college with my first love. He came to Shanghai to work hard together. At the beginning, he had many wonderful plans and hopes to settle in Shanghai for several years.
However, the reality is often not as expected. Do you have to work overtime from eight to eight every day? In order to save money, you have to buy two fried dough sticks to squeeze the bus during the day, and you have to deduct the money when you are late. Every day is wrapped in great pressure, and both of them are exhausted.
The landlord came to urge the rent again the other day. The girl finally couldn't stand it, and announced that she broke up, regardless of the man's persuasion to go back to her hometown.
Now that Xiao Wang has established himself in Shanghai, he has paid the down payment for the house. Although life is still very tight, he doesn't have to be so embarrassed, and he also met his current wife.
After receiving the invitation from his predecessor, he smiled and decided to meet his old friends. Although he didn't make it to the end, he did have a very happy time, which no one can erase.
Buddha Sakyamuni said that people have eight sufferings, namely: life, old age, illness, death, resentment, hatred of society, love of parting, prosperity of five yin, and ambition. And the last requirement is often the most stinging heart to life, and the lack of love is the normal state of life.
It can be seen as a microcosm of our sentient beings, just as we want to buy a delicious cake when we are poor, but we can't afford it. It's hard to forget the taste of that cake when we are rich, and so is love.
With our present family, we should be satisfied. Those regrets that we can't get are the tests we have to go through. After marriage, most of us will leave a good memory of our first love, and no one can completely forget it unless you have never loved it.
If you can't forget your first love, don't forget that it doesn't take effort to really forget it.
I just hope you can take this memory with you and move on. Don't look back. The best memories, the best hopes and the best future are what a mature person should do.