Therefore, many people attach great importance to interpersonal relationships in university dormitories, and interpersonal problems between dormitories have become more and more prominent in recent years. I often receive private messages from college students' friends for help, and some of them are troubled by this to the extent of unintentional study, depression and even psychological problems.
What attitude should we take towards interpersonal relationships in university dormitories?
First of all, we should remember that it doesn't mean that we are unpopular in the dormitory or have conflicts with our roommates, which means that we are not good or have low emotional intelligence.
You know, the living environment in university dormitories is very special. Four to six or even eight people in a dormitory are randomly assigned together. Before, they were basically strangers and knew nothing about each other's temper and personality.
So many people get together and face each other day and night, even in the most intimate and personal time. The chances of intimacy and harmony are actually very low.
So, if something goes wrong, it's normal, don't be too hard on yourself, and you can't even define yourself by it.
Secondly, we should pay attention to the dormitory relationship, but not its result, but the process of handling it.
We should regard this as a problem-solving exercise. In the future social life, we will inevitably meet all kinds of people and have different forms of contact with them. Such social skills can't come out of thin air, which requires us to practice hard, and college dormitory life is a ready-made driving range.
Therefore, when there is a problem, if we can look at it from this angle and deal with it, we will have more strength in our hearts and less denial and doubt about ourselves.
Excellent people are trained, so don't be so eager to define yourself.