First, the importance of college students' interpersonal relationship, background The importance of college students' interpersonal relationship, interpersonal communication is an important way to maintain college students' physical and mental health. This is because interpersonal relationships affect the physical and psychological conditions of college students, as well as their mood and emotional changes and spiritual life. On the other hand, interpersonal relationship is an important guarantee for college students to grow up: 1, interpersonal communication is an important way to exchange information and acquire knowledge. 2. Interpersonal communication is an important means for individuals to know themselves and improve themselves. 3. Interpersonal communication is the need of collective growth and social development. The general weakness of college students' social skills makes interpersonal relationship a top priority. Over the years, under the baton of college entrance examination, students have paid too much attention to the pursuit of grades and neglected the cultivation of interpersonal skills and other qualities. After entering colleges and universities, there are few specialized systematic courses in schools. As a result, many college students have high IQ, but low EQ, and often can't handle how to get along with others, communicate and communicate well. These are the abilities and qualities that enterprises value most when recruiting. Therefore, it is urgent to make up this course for college students. At the recent campus job fairs held in colleges and universities, some business leaders said that employees' communication and communication skills have increasingly become the main driving force for enterprises to win in the market competition, so employers pay more attention to the "emotional intelligence" of job seekers when recruiting. Facing the recruitment conditions offered by employers, more and more college students feel the importance of interpersonal skills. Second, the survey of interpersonal communication problems among college students shows that interpersonal communication has accounted for more than 50% of college students' psychological problems, and in previous statistics, love troubles occupied the first place. Communication troubles outweigh love troubles. After careful analysis, the confusion and discomfort in college students' interpersonal relationships can be divided into the following five categories: the first category: lack of intimate friends. The second category: it is difficult to meet individuals. The third category: dull communication with people. The fourth category: I feel that communication is difficult. The fifth category: social phobia. How to cultivate college students' interpersonal skills? How to cultivate college students' interpersonal skills? The core of interpersonal communication is cooperation and communication. We should realize that in dealing with people, what is touching is sincerity, making friends sincerely and doing things sincerely. Sincerity can be exchanged for cooperation and communication with others. Sincerity is always one of the most precious feelings of human beings. Principle of interpersonal communication: (1) Principle of equality: In interpersonal communication in socialist society, we must first adhere to the principle of equality. Whether official or individual, there is no distinction between high and low. We must communicate like friends in order to make deep friends. (2) the principle of tolerance: mainly psychological compatibility, that is, the relationship between people is harmonious, when getting along with others. Be patient. Actively communicate with others, make friends, and make good friends, not only with people who are similar to themselves, but also with people who are opposite to themselves. Seek common ground while reserving differences, learn from each other's strengths, handle the relationship between competition and compatibility, and better improve yourself. (3) Principle of mutual benefit: refers to mutual benefit. Interpersonal communication is a two-way behavior, so it is unreasonable to "come and not go." Interpersonal communication that only benefits unilaterally cannot last long. Therefore, both sides benefit not only materially but also spiritually, so both sides should pay attention to dedication. (4) Credit principle: communication is inseparable from credit. Credit refers to the motto that a person is honest, does not bully the weak, keeps his promise and is hard to catch up with. Now there is a principle of good faith, don't promise easily. The ancients "have it." (5) the principle of tolerance: it is manifested in not haggling over the unprincipled issues, being able to repay evil with good, and being tolerant and generous. Misunderstandings and contradictions often occur in interpersonal communication. College students have strong personalities and close ties, which inevitably lead to contradictions. This requires college students not to haggle over every ounce in communication, to be modest and generous, to restrain their patience, not to care about each other's attitude, not to care about each other's words, and to be brave enough to assume their own responsibilities. Can fit a boat in the belly of the prime minister. Tolerance and restraint are not signs of weakness and cowardice. Skills of international communication (1) Remember other people's surnames or first names, greet people actively, and address them properly, so that others feel polite, valued and approachable. (2) Be generous and calm, make others feel relaxed and stimulate communication motivation. Make the other person feel happy with you. (4) cultivate humorous words and deeds, be humorous without losing discretion, be funny without being frivolous, and give people beautiful enjoyment. Treat people with humility and be kind to others, otherwise it will be counterproductive. (5) Be calm and don't complain, so that not only you are happy, but others will be happy. (6) Encourage those who fail. Praise those who really succeed and help those who are in trouble. (7) People who are decisive, assertive, energetic and confident are easy to inspire others' communication motivation, win their trust, and produce the charm that people are willing to communicate. I believe that as long as we can work hard in these directions, we will find that everything is quietly changing: the unhappiness between friends is gone, and more and more intimate friends can speak freely. Affection between relatives and friends; You will live a full and happy life and feel that interpersonal communication is a natural and relaxed thing, so you are full of optimism about your study life and confidence in shaping a perfect college life and future life.

How do college students have good interpersonal relationships? In addition to learning knowledge, the most critical and basic thing is people's ability, among which the cultivation of interpersonal skills is particularly important. University is an important turning point in the socialization of interpersonal relationship. When you step into the university, you will encounter all aspects of interpersonal relationships: between teachers and students, between classmates, between fellow villagers, and between individuals and classes. The relationship between schools and so on. College students decide their communication needs from the moment they enter the school. Good interpersonal skills and good interpersonal relationships are necessary conditions for survival and development. Establishing good interpersonal relationships and forming a United, friendly and energetic environment on campus will help college students form and develop healthy personality. How to deal with interpersonal relationships is very important for the success of college life and future career in recent years, especially in today's society with accelerated pace of life and fierce competition. Cultivating good interpersonal skills is not only the need of college life, but also the need of adapting to society in the future. A person without communication skills, like a ship on land, will never drift into the magnificent sea. Everyone wants to get along with others. Everyone wants to have a good interpersonal relationship. In college life, interpersonal problems have always been an important factor affecting their mental health and campus life quality. So, how can we get along well with people on campus, have unforgettable memories, and make full preparations for the future human society? We might as well do it from the following aspects: (1) We should fully understand the characteristics of interpersonal relationships on campus. From the day we became college students, the objects and characteristics of getting along with people have undergone fundamental changes. Before middle school, the objects and meanings we got along with were narrow, just an expansion of friendship or intimate relationship. At that time, interpersonal relationships were relatively simple. However, once we become college students and live in dormitories on campus, we can no longer associate with people only by our personal likes and dislikes. We should not only associate with people we like, but also keep friendly relations with people we don't like. In other words, college students must gradually get rid of the self-centered way of thinking, gradually learn to put themselves in others' shoes, and establish independence on this basis. Harmonious new interpersonal relationship. (2) Pay attention to shaping one's own personality and cultivating one's ability. I often hear a classmate say, "That person has a good personality, knows a lot, and likes to communicate with him." Indeed, a person with good quality and ability or a special skill is more likely to be loved by people. Therefore, if you want to enhance interpersonal attraction and get along with others in a more friendly and harmonious way, you must fully enhance your personality. Show your special skills and improve your character, ability and talent. (3) Sincere praise Generally speaking, people always like people who like themselves and have a good impression on people who sincerely evaluate themselves. Once they are appreciated, loved and praised by someone, their self-esteem will be satisfied by praise, which will lead to a sense of psychological closeness and a good impression on this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflicts. Achieving mutual goodwill provides psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise. Affirming and praising the advantages of others will bring benefits to yourself. (4) Be broad-minded and learn to observe each other's psychology. In life, we have misunderstandings with our classmates who live together day and night, are treated unfairly by others, and can't get responses from others. You must feel anxious and worried about this. As the saying goes, "Be a generous and open-minded person". It is difficult to be a generous and open-minded person, but we college students must pay attention to the cultivation of this quality in daily life and communication in order to better adapt to life and society. Take roommates in the same dormitory as an example. They communicate frequently, because there are many contacts and opportunities, and because there are many contacts and frictions, it is the easiest. Communication is also the hardest. This requires each of us to pay attention to observation and try our best to meet the needs of others, such as fetching water, sweeping the floor, cooking for students who are sick or busy, and making up lessons. (5) treat each other with sincerity. Honesty and trustworthiness is a basic principle of being a man. In our college students' communication, if a friend cheats you, your self-esteem will be hurt and you may not be able to trust him as before. Similarly, we should take this as an example. Treat others with sincerity to gain their trust and understanding. It shows a person's self-esteem, inner sense of security and dignity, and enables people to gain the trust of others in communication. Therefore, when we get along with others, we should be broad-minded, considerate and sincere. Only in this way can we get real friends. Only in this way can we get along with others more amicably. (6) Master certain social skills. Skills in communication are like lubricants in interpersonal relationships, which can help people improve communication and understanding, shorten psychological distance and establish good relationships. Many students with interpersonal communication barriers are caused by lack of communication skills. Many students say that they can be very free when interacting with people they are familiar with. But when dealing with unfamiliar people, they are often passive, cautious and timid, and don't know how to get along with them. Many students often lose interest in interpersonal communication because of their lack of communication and interpersonal skills, which leads to a passive and isolated situation in interpersonal communication, and it is easy to limit their development because they cannot express their ideas properly. For many college students, if they realize that they lack the necessary skills in social and interpersonal communication, they should take a proactive approach to gradually improve their interpersonal communication problems, rather than blindly avoiding them. In fact, social skills are varied, such as enhancing interpersonal attraction, humor, clever criticism, language art and so on. For college students, after establishing the courage and confidence in interpersonal communication, the skills to be mastered in interpersonal communication are mainly to cultivate the psychological quality of successful communication and the correct use of language art. The psychological quality of successful communication includes honesty and trustworthiness, modesty and prudence, enthusiastic help, respect and understanding, generosity and openness. The application of language art includes accurate expression, effective listening, civility and politeness. All these are helpful for college students to improve their communication art and achieve better communication results. In addition, in formal communication occasions, college students should also pay attention to neat clothes, civilized and decent manners, elegant sitting and standing posture, walking posture, don't make jokes regardless of objects, and avoid patting shoulders and holding hands. Of course, they should not be timid and cautious in front of others. They should be confident, energetic, elegant and humble. In short, college students should establish self-confidence in interpersonal communication, improve all aspects of quality and be brave in taking responsibility.