Successful planning-fate depends not on waiting, but on struggle.
● University, a new starting point, sets a scientific goal. In the middle school stage, almost all students have the same goal, that is, to be admitted to the university, so no matter how tight or tired, they can persist. However, after entering the university, many students have entered the target blind area, and they have a sense of loss and relaxation. It is no longer difficult to maintain their enthusiasm for knowledge in middle school. How to get through the blind spot as soon as possible and re-establish new learning goals is directly related to whether you can successfully spend your college life and complete your learning tasks. Some freshmen are ambitious and far-sighted about their own positioning. They have many ideas, such as postgraduate entrance examination, double degree examination, CET-6, computer grade certificate, accounting certificate and so on. However, people's energy is limited after all, and there are too many goals. It's easy to take care of one thing and ignore another. Every student should clearly realize that it is the basis and premise of all goals to ensure the smooth completion of their professional learning tasks. Some students have finally studied the courses of this major, but they have to take many qualification examinations, and the result is a "dead duck". Therefore, after entering the school, freshmen should reasonably position themselves according to their own goals and specific conditions, and determine long-term and short-term goals, focusing on the main goals and incidental goals, and not aiming too high. Some students feel that "going to college has reached the ultimate goal" and idle away their time all day. In fact, university is only the beginning of a learning stage. If you don't cherish this precious learning opportunity, you will be empty-handed in the future. Some students complain that their majors don't meet their interests, and use this as an excuse to muddle along in college. Without will, belief and spirit, it is difficult for a person to succeed in his career even if he is interested. For their future survival and development, freshmen should remember: when you can't find a major from your interest, learn to find an interest from your major. The deep-seated reason for the lack of motivation of freshmen is the lack of lofty ideals and the failure to establish a correct outlook on life. The examples of graduates also prove that professional study in universities can not be the only magic weapon to win the world in the future, but various practical skills and comprehensive quality are the precious wealth that they can benefit from for life. In fact, modern university education pays special attention to the cultivation of students' practical skills and comprehensive quality, which is not unique to a certain major. Moreover, many abilities and qualities are not only cultivated from a certain major. After entering the university to adapt to the learning atmosphere of the university, the teacher-led teaching mode in middle school has become an independent mode of students' autonomous learning. University teachers mainly teach learning methods and guide students to analyze, summarize and deduce, and the acquisition of knowledge depends more on themselves. We should learn to cultivate our ability to acquire knowledge and information, which is called "learning to learn". In university, the concept of learning not only refers to the content in class, but also includes other aspects. For example, going to the library, doing experiments, participating in colorful extracurricular activities and various competitions, participating in various collective and community activities, listening to various lectures, and conducting social surveys. You can also communicate extensively with your classmates and teachers and learn from each other. Develop yourself in all directions. In universities, test scores are no longer an absolute factor to measure students, and people pay more attention to the cultivation of comprehensive ability and the improvement of comprehensive quality. The competition here is potential and all-round. College students should not only learn professional extracurricular well, but also pay attention to the cultivation of their comprehensive ability and consciousness. These abilities include: communication ability, social activity ability, expression ability, interpersonal skills and the consciousness of getting proper monetary reward. As a college student, we should broaden our horizons, broaden our knowledge and pay attention to all-round development. Those who study liberal arts should know a little about science and technology, and those who study science should also know a little about liberal arts. No matter what major you study, you must have some artistic hobbies and accomplishments. ● University and Life Dear students, what do you think of first when you receive the university admission notice? After several years of hard work, you have finally realized your dream, and you are about to enter the scientific and cultural palace that everyone yearns for! The summer with "Black June" has brought you great changes: the pressure of college entrance examination has turned into the joy of success, the anxiety of waiting has been replaced by the yearning for a new life, and the expectations of parents, the entrustment of teachers, the envy of peers and the lofty sentiments have merged into a powerful shock wave. Before I could sort out my emotions, I had already entered the university gate. With the care of family, the meticulous management mode of middle school has become a thing of the past, and independent college life suddenly appears in front of us. You have changed from a worried high school student whose heart hangs in the air and is supervised and urged by parents and teachers every day to a down-to-earth college student who is proud of his parents and teachers. However, have you ever thought about how to understand college life? What kind of psychological preparation should I make? In what way will you face the study, life and brand-new interpersonal relationship in college? What kind of imprint do you want college life to leave in your life? Zhu Kezhen, a famous scientist, educator and former president of Zhejiang University, once asked two questions to the freshmen of Zhejiang University: First, what are you doing in the university? Second, what kind of person should we make ourselves? Aren't these two questions exactly what every young person who enters the university must seriously think and answer? University is the beginning of a new stage in our life. The influence of this stage on people's life cannot be overstated. All those who have made achievements in their career and life after graduating from college agree and emphasize the important role of college life in their lives. This is because the university stage is the age when a person has the most energy, absorbs the most new things and is the most efficient. It is also the age when we, as adults, are more aware of the significance of our contribution to the world, more consciously face the reality and shoulder the responsibility. The knowledge and technology acquired during this period, the quality and ability formed, especially the most basic element of being a man-character, will become the most important cornerstone of our life. However, it seems that the standard of success and "Jackie Chan" is set too low to equate being admitted to college with success and to regard going to college as the ultimate goal of parents. Objectively speaking, for a successful life, a university is just a new starting point and the first step of the Long March. Therefore, at this critical moment of life transition, we must seriously think about what we should do next, how to do it, why to do it, and what kind of results we will get if we do it. Otherwise, going to college is bound to fail. Fate is not luck, but choice; Fate lies not in waiting, but in winning. -Brian has a saying: sow an idea and reap an action; Sow an act and reap a habit; Sow a habit and reap a character; Sow a character and reap a destiny. From the profound meaning of the above passage, we can realize that fate does not fall from the sky, nor is it given by others, but is the product of our own thoughts-fate is in our own hands. Recognizing the important role of college time in life development is the first and most important lesson for college students. A correct understanding of this problem should be the starting point for us to consciously start college life, and also the beginning for us to correctly think and guide college life and even life! The cultural knowledge and professional ability we learned in college, the scientific way of thinking and the ability to communicate with others, and the desire for more knowledge and lifelong exploration are all necessary conditions for us to step into society and succeed in the future. Therefore, college is an important period to determine a person's quality of life and taste, and it is our "foundation for the rest of life". In addition, the university itself is a social organization with the function of inheriting and creating human culture. The motto and spirit formed by a school after decades or even hundreds of years of long-term efforts is an intangible great spiritual force. The thoughts, feelings and styles contained in it are not only a great force to promote the development of universities, but also a spiritual force that has a long-term effect on our lifelong development. In the whole university life and in the teaching process, the university spirit and campus culture will subtly infect and edify us. If we say that some knowledge in our universities and middle schools will be outdated and forgotten, then what remains is the influence of this spirit, including our personality, upbringing, sense of responsibility to society, and the way of treating others kindly and equally. University and life are really a very important and meaningful proposition. Only when we have a correct understanding of college life, make clear the development direction of our college stage and put it into practice to lay the foundation for the development of our life can we spend the most important stage of our life smoothly, successfully and energetically. ● Set a goal On the journey of life, if there is no goal, it is like walking on a dark road and not knowing where to go. If there is no goal, one's efforts, struggles and pursuits are unimaginable. Clear goals can help us move in the right direction without taking more detours. Just like a runner, we can go straight to the finish line with the goal of crossing the finish line first. More importantly, setting goals can make us concentrate our willpower and clearly know what to do to achieve the result we are pursuing. First, looking for new goals has finally been admitted to the university, and the goal of struggling for many years has finally been realized! At this time, everyone will take a long breath and then think about how to be kind to themselves. From the time we received the letter of admission to the university, we were very relaxed and didn't want to think about the future. We will tell ourselves, "Let's wait until we go to college, there is plenty of time to think about it!" When we step into the university gate with a relaxed mood, we usually pay attention to how to adapt to the new environment and get familiar with new students. During this period, apart from our daily life, we obviously feel that the feeling of reading is completely different from before. We didn't have a sense of urgency, didn't work hard, couldn't concentrate, and just finished the task. A classmate who just entered the university once wrote in the Plan after Entering the University: "In order to enter the university, high school worked hard for three years. In fact, this is mainly what parents and teachers mean. Tired of reading, I definitely don't want to go to graduate school. Then go to work? But what can I do? I don't think I can do anything. I really don't know what to do. " In fact, it is a common phenomenon for freshmen to have no goals when they first enter college. This phenomenon is accompanied by unfamiliarity with the new environment, unaccustomed to the new life, unaccustomed to the new way of learning, and disappointment with the gap between the actual situation of the university and our original romantic imagination, which makes our mood enter a low ebb. This period is called "the first transitional period" by student movement workers because of its various performances in learning. Some researchers believe that students in this period have "three spirits", which are relaxed, arrogant and discouraged. Relaxation is mainly because some students think that after several years of hard work, they have finally been admitted to the university and can rest. Therefore, I lack mental preparation and learning motivation for the tense university study life, but instead focus on places other than study. Arrogance is manifested in the fact that some students who feel good about themselves are not convinced of each other and don't buy it, which also affects their normal study life. Frustration is caused by the contradiction and disconnection between ideal and reality, such as dislike of majors, dissatisfaction with campus environment, and more problems in study, which makes the original feeling of "favored by heaven" disappear. The only way to change this phenomenon is to find a new life goal at once and design a new life path. Otherwise, you will fall into a vicious circle of drifting, muddling along and achieving nothing. There is only one life, so there is only one chance to achieve your goals in life. People are responsible for their own lives. Psychologists tell us that being good at setting goals is the main premise and effective means to stimulate people's enthusiasm and produce positive behavior. Generally speaking, the goal will have four functions for people: one is to start the function. Goals can stimulate people's independent behavior. In this sense, goals generate strength and goals are motivation. The second is the guiding function. In the whole process of autonomous behavior, people are moving towards established goals, which point out the direction and provide the basis for action. The third is the incentive function. When people have a goal, they always expect to achieve it as soon as possible. The higher the expectation, the greater the role of motivation. The fourth is the aggregation function. Having a clear goal can encourage people to concentrate all their energy and make unremitting efforts to achieve it. In fact, if we really know what we need in life, we will be surprised to find that opportunities will soon come to help us realize our wishes. Therefore, when we find and establish our life goals, we will feel at ease, enrich our lives, get rid of the mental crisis of being at a loss, bored, anxious and troubled, and regain our confidence and sense of accomplishment.
Second, determine your own goals.
Make sure that each goal implies the desired result. So we must ask ourselves why we chose this goal and what we hope to get by choosing this goal. If the chosen goal meets our deep-seated needs, we will feel successful in the process of achieving it. Otherwise, there will be conflicts in our hearts, and no matter what achievements we make, it doesn't mean anything to us.
The most important and basic goal is the ultimate goal of life. Only by establishing the ultimate goal and setting the phased goals can we have a clear direction and move in the direction of the goal every day, without detours or detours. University is an important turning point in life, and we all have independent ability. It is very important to determine the ultimate goal of our life, so that the goal of our university stage is consistent with our life goal. However, it is very important to determine the ultimate goal of life. It is often difficult for us to make decisions on important matters, because such decisions will not only benefit us, but also cost us. Because we choose this goal, it means giving up other goals, avoiding the disadvantages of other goals and giving up the benefits that other goals can bring. Gains and losses are always like two sides of the same coin, which needs our careful consideration when making a decision.
The first thing we should do is to know ourselves. Only by knowing yourself can we know what we need in life and confirm our goals in a more appropriate position. Knowing ourselves is like finding a point where we are now. This point is the starting point for us to start moving towards our goal. Knowing the location of the starting point can help us figure out how far we are from our goal and plan how much we need to do to achieve it.
So how can we know exactly what kind of person we are? If you feel uncertain, you can try the following methods: first, calm down and make a thorough reflection on yourself, consider your strengths and weaknesses as objectively and comprehensively as possible, write them down with a pen, write whatever comes to mind, and don't alter them. At the same time, think about what others say about us, both positive and negative. Don't care about other people's attitudes and intentions, don't make choices, and write them all down on paper. Then compare and classify. Rethink and evaluate conflicting projects, gradually find out the evidence to prove the existence, and ask the teacher to help us analyze the problems we are not sure about when necessary until we sort out our own approved evaluation.
After knowing what kind of person you are, consider what kind of goals are most suitable for you. We can take this step: write down all the goals that we think may suit us on paper, and we can have more. Evaluate and screen these goals one by one, leaving a few that we think are most likely to be achieved for overall evaluation: list the positive (obtained) and negative (paid) results of each goal selected in advance as comprehensively as possible, and determine the probability of these results and the impact of environmental changes on them. Compare all the evaluation results, then delete the bad ones and leave the good ones. If you still can't choose the only goal in the end, you can give yourself a few more days to make a final decision after reflection, or you can keep a few more first, and then gradually eliminate them when you are mature in the future. But it's best not to exceed five, because too many will lose its meaning.
In order to avoid being confused by some immediate interests, such as higher income in a certain line and higher social status in a certain profession. In the process of choosing a goal, we might as well treat the income of all industries as the same, treat the social status of all occupations as the same, and then look at what we really want to do, so that we can often know our true thoughts.
Maybe after a while, we will find that the goal is not worth pursuing, so rule it out, because at this time, we may know more about what we want. It is better to find the target now than to find it is not suitable after several years. We can start a new goal right away.
Because choosing the ultimate goal of life is of great significance, it is worth making the procedure more complicated, which can make us consider it more comprehensively and grasp it more accurately. For some phased goals, it is not so complicated.