Let me show you a question from Zhihu about my school, and almost half of the answers are regrets. It's not that my school is academically poor, but that all kinds of problems are spit out and bored by students.
In high school, the teacher will tell you to work hard and it will be easy to go to college in the future. At that time, we didn't understand the dazzling routines of the teachers. When you go to college, you will find that college is really not a hotbed, nor is it a place where you can play freely and lie flat.
Our imaginary school should be like this, with first-class academic and scientific research equipment, relaxed learning environment, no attendance in class, no homework after class, no grades, no games, no blind dates and no participation in various community activities. Eating delicious food every day, the relationship between roommates and classmates is very harmonious, which is simply the peak of life.
When I entered the school, I found out, hey, hey, how can the situation change dramatically!
1, dormitory The agreed four-person bed has become a six-person bed, an eight-person bed or even a twelve-person bed. The key is that there is no electricity, and the circuit will be broken if you plug in a hair dryer. Taking a bath and running to the bathroom 300 meters away from the dormitory really exercise people. It is said that roommates have a harmonious relationship, and as a result, the dormitory staff are far apart, the differences in various living customs and the rules of treating people are different. Where can we get along and tolerate everything?
2. canteen. What the hell is this? I dare to sell such a pile of vegetables for 5 yuan. A meal costs more than a dozen, 40 to 50 yuan a day, and the wallet is getting thinner and thinner. The key is to ask parents for money. What a pity! This dish is delicious, but there are not many kinds, the taste is average and the meat hurts!
3. Love. What about the hormone secretion of youth? Students with excellent grades who want higher education only go to classrooms and libraries, and the opposite sex with average grades become good buddies. You don't call the opposite sex with average value, and you can't climb the opposite sex with high value. Other people's couples are brought by junior high school and senior high school, and you are the only one who believes such nonsense! Now you indirectly envy love and persistent single freedom.
4. study. Do you think the teacher will leave you alone when you go to college? All wet! If you skip class, her eyes will not let you go, and you are usually at the bottom of the class. If you fail, she will talk to you about the reasons and strategies in the middle of the night. If you are at the bottom, your friends or roommates may take the opportunity to make fun of you. After all, the report card is honestly in the class.
5. salted fish. You can't fish in salt. When you go to school, you should worry about your grades, and when you leave school, you should worry about finding a job. Everything is for your future salary. You will be carried forward and cannot lie flat. Your roommate will work overtime for the exam. Even if you go to Buddha again, your self-esteem and strong psychology will not allow you to be so lazy.
6. Gap. It's not difficult to admit that you are not as good as others, but it's even worse to often recall your past glory. Because you are too proud. You used to be a leader. When you go to college, you become an almost invisible existence, but there is nothing you can do if you are not convinced.
These points are common problems of college students. Ideal is full, reality is too skinny!
I think the mentality that needs to be adjusted should start with recognizing the facts.
First of all, remember that you have come to this school and you can't go back and change your choice. Accept all the rules and regulations of the school, even if you have any dissatisfaction.
Secondly, far from the ideal school, nothing is perfect. Cherish what you have now, don't eat what's in the bowl and watch what's in the pot. You can also have an ideal, get a diploma and a degree certificate, and then choose to go to other schools for further study.
Moreover, learn not to complain, and don't lose your temper because of a little thing. Look at things around you as a bystander, not as the mood of the parties. This is also very useful for later life.
Finally, improve your ability, because all your gaps are caused by your lack of ability. There is a saying that if you want to wear a crown, you must bear its weight. And what you need to think about is how to qualify to wear a crown.