How about college dating aa system? Perhaps in the minds of most of us, we will think that men are trying to earn money to support their families, and boys should actively and generously satisfy girls and spoil them. Although it makes sense, I have read many emotional arguments on the Internet, such as "The cleaner the circle of friends, the deeper the routine for boys", "Choosing a boyfriend or ysl, a cosmic problem" and "Mr. Zuo or Mr. You". Maybe we just believe it and judge everything. But love is not given by only one party. Haicheng Ku corrected an zaixian in his wedding diary. We are not enjoying the new lottery together, but creating the new lottery together.
Once when chatting in the dormitory, we envied Xiaobei for going out surfing with the male ticket again. She said: "You don't know that although the waves are flying, the expenses are not small. My money is almost gone with him."
"Ah, what, generally not boys pay? Does this cost you money? " Miss l was surprised.
"There should be AA. If all the boys invite you, won't you be poor? " Xiaohe replied.
"Yes, most of us are AA, and occasionally he is a little more. He is also a student and the money is given by his parents. Besides, he has to play games. Besides, he doesn't have a job now, how can he always spend money on each other? "
"So that's it. Suddenly I feel that a person is quite good, hahaha! " Miss l giggled.
Later, I sent this question to the advertisement wall. Do you need AA in love? The wall owner immediately replied that sometimes boys should take the initiative, but girls should also grasp it themselves. You can't always let boys go out, AA will look weird. In the subsequent comments, I found that there are several answers that girls need.
@ Wait
I think it is necessary to adopt AA system.
@ Salang Hey
It's good for girls to take the initiative occasionally. I don't know AA.
Hey
Whoever has money will pay.
Love of Blue Moon
Look at cooperation, the girl who loves you will not always be willing to let you pay, because you are just a student.
harper seven beckham
Of course, you don't need it. You can eat one person's food first, then another's, or you can give it to whoever you want. Anyway, I do.
@ Several times speechless
It's good to be AA when I was a student, otherwise that man will ponder how to spend money every day. If the woman still doesn't understand, it's a bug.
There is another answer.
@ jusheng
Does love need to be divided so clearly?
Yao (the legendary leader of the tribal alliance in the late period of the patriarchal clan society in ancient China)
It's comfortable to spend money on your wife, but uncomfortable to spend money on someone else's wife. Don't say it if you don't love it that much.
Ruizhuzhu
Go by yourself, without even AA.
Snakeskin
AA is to tell the girl you want to pursue. I like you a little, but I don't like you that much. Would you like to take the time to win more of my likes?
Life can be AA, but love can't, AA or not. What suits you is the best.
May you find the right person, do what you think is right, and have a good love.
Should a man in love with aa get married? AA system is actually a concept and lifestyle, and it is also a reflection of different cultures. China people think that AA system hurts feelings or makes people agree, while foreigners think that AA system is natural, civilized and fair. No one exploits anyone and it is not easy to cause disputes. But it ignores that one side of the soil and water can nourish one side of the people. After all, this is China, not a western country where AA system prevails. The AA system can make sense once in a while, and one stage can make sense. If it goes on like this, it will really make people feel uncomfortable and agree. If he has been together for a year and still advocates AA system, especially after marriage, what is the difference between getting married and not getting married?
Your future mother-in-law, who has been with you for more than a year, is ill, and her time deposit has not yet expired, so you feel "unknown" because you are not married and their relationship has not yet been settled. This is a bit unkind. China traditional culture pays attention to human feelings. It is said that the son-in-law is half a child. Although not married, we have been together for a year. He is going to talk about marriage soon. At this time, a woman's mother is ill. Even if she can't be treated as an old man, she shouldn't stand by for morality.
If the AA system is for fun occasionally, or at the beginning of acquaintance, when the relationship is uncertain, it is acceptable. However, two people have been in love for a year, and they are still so indifferent. I think this is not just a matter of concept, but a matter of personality and character-indifference, selfishness and narrowness.
What about such people, not to mention third-rate returnees who study at their own expense, and first-class brands such as Harvard and Oxford? Going abroad for three years is not enough to completely "westernize" a person. Some people pretend to be foreigners in their lives on the pretext of going abroad, copying some styles of foreigners everywhere, instead of analyzing specific problems, proceeding from reality and their own national conditions. It is bound to make people laugh, give generously, and eventually become a loner.
This man, don't marry. There is no need to regret it. He is no longer from China. In China, AA system can be used for reunion of classmates and colleagues, short-term training class dinners or unfamiliar people, but it is definitely not suitable for people with close relationships. In the long run, even the best feelings will be recognized. This is the interpretation of the same thing by different nationalities and cultures.
If you meet a boyfriend who likes AA system, will you marry him?
Who is the beneficiary of AA system? AA system is a strange way to make friends. Frankly speaking, I quite agree. No one owes anyone. We don't have to fight with each other for money. We consume according to our own economic strength. We don't always want to spend more money to make up for our future friends, and there is no need to spend too much money to complain about our friends. In fact, there is an old saying in China: Be brothers and settle accounts clearly.
Although there are advantages, according to my observation, AA system is not popular in the whole society except among young college students or white-collar workers in foreign companies, at least it doesn't work in my life circle, or even has no shadow. Oriental culture is not formed in a day or two, nor can it be changed in a day or two. I don't mean to praise or criticize western culture or eastern culture at all. I just want to explain the fact that cultural differences can never be changed by generations or dozens of generations, and there is no difference between good and bad cultures. Orientals attach importance to feelings (Westerners attach more importance to reason). Since we have something together, it's fate. They are all close friends, scrambling to pay for food and drink. Everyone knows that "alcohol and tobacco are inseparable", so it's my turn to eat you this time.
Brothers, it is only natural to settle accounts. In the communication between friends, whoever owns the money should pay for it himself. But it is not easy to do this in life. People in China have a lot of face. When I am with my friends, I seldom settle accounts clearly, so I can make an AA system generously. It seems that friends are a little stingy when they settle accounts, and they are not friends enough. Therefore, most people are full of pride when they are with friends, scrambling to pay the bill, and even have no time to "settle accounts" with the payee. It's cool to throw money out in a hurry. If you lose money like this, you can only "settle accounts" with yourself in the future. I once saw two young people fighting over the fare in the newspaper. Finally, they paid the fare, but left the big color TV they bought in the taxi. How annoying you say this is!