The book adopts the classical technique of "dialogue" in Greek philosophy, and makes a simple and profound discussion around the question of "how can people get happiness". "Philosophers" explain to "youth" how to improve interpersonal relationships, how to get happiness and how to summon up courage to face others in a simple and easy-to-understand way.
2. Inferiority and Transcendence is the representative work of Adler, the founder of individual psychology. The author of this book explores the meaning of life and inspires us to understand the true meaning of life.
Based on the viewpoint of individual psychology and a large number of examples, this book expounds the trend of life path and the true meaning of life significance from many fields such as education, family, marriage, ethics and social communication.
His theory comes from individual psychology. He believes that all human problems can be summed up in three themes: occupation, society and sex. Because these three themes are related to others, it is inferred that the meaning of life is cooperation and dedication. He believes that life is an interest in people, that is, to become a part of the whole, to contribute my strength and to seek the well-being of mankind.
A person's lifestyle is related to the upbringing environment and feelings before the age of four or five, from which we can understand and cope with the world.
Work is an important way to cultivate social emotions, and a long-term and stable job itself is the embodiment of cooperation and dedication.
All our requirements for mankind, as well as the highest praise we give to mankind, are good colleagues, good companions and true companions in love and marriage. In a word, he wants to prove himself to mankind.
3. The Road Few People Walk: A Journey to Maturity is the work of scott parker, the most outstanding psychologist in the contemporary era.
Life is bitter. Suffering manifests itself in the form of various problems. At this time, some people have been procrastinating, hoping that the problem will disappear by itself. Some people pretend to turn a blind eye to the problem, or try to forget its existence; Others paralyze themselves with drugs or drugs in exchange for temporary relief. In this way, small problems have accumulated into big problems, and finally broke out, becoming the root of people's mental illness. Only by facing problems positively and being brave in solving them can the mind become healthy.
The author calls "taking the initiative to ask yourself to suffer and solve problems with a positive attitude" as self-discipline, and points out that "self-discipline in some aspects can only solve some problems; Comprehensive self-discipline can solve all problems in life ",and four principles of self-discipline are also introduced:
1, delayed satisfaction. To put it simply: first suffer, then enjoy happiness.
For students, do homework before playing after school; For adults, finish work first and then have a rest and play. Under all conditions, resist all kinds of temptations and interferences, always put solving problems in the first place, and leave happiness and sweetness to the last enjoyment.
2. Take responsibility. Here, the author introduces two symptoms of mental illness: one is neurosis, which thinks that the responsibility for mistakes lies entirely with oneself and makes him live a miserable life; The other is personality disorder, which thinks that the responsibility for all mistakes lies with others and makes others live in pain. At the same time, it is pointed out that almost everyone suffers from neurosis or personality disorder to varying degrees, and all children suffer from personality disorder and instinctively escape punishment.
3. Be loyal to the facts. That is, we often say "seeking truth from facts", and everything starts from reality and facts. The more you know the real situation, the more handy you will be in dealing with the problem. The less facts you know, the more confused your mind is.
The author compares our concept and cognition of reality to a map. The clearer and more realistic the map is, the more accurate the direction, purpose and route of life will be. If the map is distorted, you will lose your way and even take another road.
4. Keep balance. The highest principle of maintaining balance is "giving up".
As we grow up, we carry more and more things, and some outdated concepts and habits need to be abandoned anytime and anywhere.
Make room by "giving up", let strange, novel and timely things enter the world, keep pace with the times and embrace change, so as to rush to a new life and start a new life.