The reason why teenagers have rebellious psychology is that the psychology of teenagers changes with their own changes in this age group, and the emergence of the second sexual characteristic has impacted their mentality. In the face of their own changes, they often feel at a loss, resulting in impetuous mentality and confrontational emotions; Second, the psychological state of teenagers presents the particularity of teenagers' psychology. They feel like adults at this time, so they often show a naive independence when facing problems, and they will be in a period of resistance when they are immature. Coupled with the enhancement of self-awareness and curiosity, and the influence of society and media, teenagers are interested in many things, so they have to satisfy their self-awareness and curiosity by expressing their individuality and chasing the trend; In addition, some disadvantages of social and family traditional education hinder their own development needs and become the source of rebellious psychology; In addition, all kinds of pressures faced by teenagers nowadays, such as collective pressure, study pressure and boring life, are also caused by rebellious psychology. Faced with these children at the crossroads, parents should be more patient, careful and attentive in education. (1) Avoid the misunderstanding of bipolar education Parents should treat their children's rebellious youth dialectically, which is a critical period for the formation of their world outlook, and their personality and creativity are rising wantonly. At the same time, due to the limitations of children's physical and mental development and education, many of their ideas are immature and even extreme, which requires external education to guide children correctly. However, in real education, some parents easily fall into the misunderstanding of educational polarization. Myth 1: A general strike. Some parents are annoyed with their children's rebellious words and deeds such as talking back and disobedience, and feel that if their children's "evil energy" is not suppressed, their children may become worse. So parents took tough measures, either beating or scolding. Gradually, on the surface, the child returned to the "good boy" who did what he was told. In fact, in his heart, the door to communication with his parents has been closed. Myth 2: Let yourself go. In reality, some parents face the children who are difficult to teach, and after several times of discipline, they have little effect, lose confidence and begin to let their children go with the flow. At this time, regardless of the child's words and deeds and thoughts, parents no longer ask and guide. Over time, children are adversely affected and their behavior is biased. When parents regret it, they find that they have delayed their children's life. After entering the rebellious period of youth, children are particularly eager to be recognized and respected by the outside world. Therefore, parents should pay attention to delegating various rights to their children to help them transition from ignorance to maturity. Autonomy "you should", "you must" and "what do you know" are the mantra of many parents. Parents are advised to talk as little as possible about rebellious children. Children who think they are adults in their hearts will not accept such orders. Many parents have told their children the right to speak, such as "sweeping the road without going to college". Although it is for the good of the children, my ears are covered with cocoons. In the rebellious period, they can say that these words are "impeccable". At this time, parents should talk less and listen more to understand what their children are thinking. Time control children in this period are eager to have their own small world. Therefore, parents should not make their own decisions and arrange their children's time according to their own wishes. They should leave time for the children themselves. For unreasonable arrangements, parents should make suggestions in a negotiated tone, and never completely deny their children. Some important events in the voting family, such as moving and buying a house, may wish to discuss with the children, consider their feelings and seek their opinions. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children can generally approach their parents on their own initiative. After children with privacy enter junior high school, some parents find that children who used to tell the truth to themselves are less and less interested in themselves, and children begin to have their own locked diaries and personal letters. Professor Xu said that if children really don't want to communicate with their parents, they don't have to be too reluctant, especially not to pry into their privacy. Respect for children earned respect for themselves. (3) Parent-child communication skills For children with obvious rebellious psychology, parents will find it difficult to communicate with them. Here are some practical parent-child communication skills. Respect children: Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and should not compare their own shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents. Empathy: parents have also come from the rebellious period of youth, but not as obvious as children now. Therefore, in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, we may wish to put ourselves in other's shoes and think about why children are like this. With * * *, you will understand children and find the crux of the problem. Avoid getting into the topic from study: communicate with children, and parents should not always get into the topic with academic achievements, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business. Stabilize emotions: It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, which will lead to more resistance of children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. After you calm down, you can communicate with your children. Allow children to make mistakes: this stage is a critical period for children to form their own opinions, and small mistakes are inevitable. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make some mistakes and suffer some losses, and don't tie their children's hands and feet too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can exert a subtle influence on children.