Pay attention to self-education and effectively control bad emotions.
Middle school students' emotions and feelings are not stable enough and are in a transitional period. The level of a person's emotional intelligence is largely reflected in the success or failure of his emotional control. So how can we effectively control our emotions?
Controlling emotions is not a simple suppression, but focuses on self-education, self-guidance, self-evaluation and self-adjustment. Professor Meng Shaolan from the Department of Psychology of Peking University pointed out in "Human Emotion": "Emotion is a mirror to know yourself." She also stressed that "people should know themselves, especially their mental state, which includes intelligence, emotional motivation, personality habits and so on". Whenever students have bad emotions, we should pay attention to guiding students to carry out self-education and improve their self-awareness level.
Specific practices:
(1) Face reality. Ask students to accept and face up to their bad emotions, because everyone is not always positive and optimistic, and occasionally some bad emotions are normal. Know what your mood is, that is, what mood or mentality, and let students know some physical manifestations (posture, speech, facial expression, posture, etc.). When they are in a bad mood. Such as crying when you are sad, gnashing your teeth when you hate, and being at a loss when you are afraid. Train students to calm down by taking deep breaths and diverting attention.
(2) Find the reason and check the root cause. Find out when, for whom and why you had bad emotions, focus on analyzing your subjective reasons, and recall what similar bad emotions you had, as well as the experience and harmfulness of being entangled in these emotions.
(3) the solution. Guide students to understand that any bad emotions can be controlled and transformed, such as "turning grief into strength" and "transcending inferiority". Guide students to actively seek effective ways to control their emotions, such as communicating with others through language to gain their understanding or divert their energy (listening to music, walking, etc.). ) to ease your emotions. Practice shows that guiding students to carry out self-education and self-criticism and improve their self-awareness ability have achieved good results in controlling bad emotions.
Attach importance to frustration education and enhance psychological endurance.
The road of life is not always smooth, and setbacks are inevitable for everyone. However, some people have strong psychological endurance, and can stand or stand setbacks, while others have weak psychological endurance and cannot stand the test of setbacks. Fear of setbacks and negative pessimism naturally affect normal study and life. In the worst case, it will lead to psychological barriers and affect their physical and mental health. Especially in today's high-tech era, fierce competition, fast pace and many kinds have brought people a stronger emotional impact, making contradictions and conflicts more common and sharp. Therefore, educators should seriously make up the lesson of frustration education for students.
Psychological research shows that the ability to bear setbacks, like other psychological qualities, can be improved through study and exercise. How to improve the basic quality of college students' psychological quality? In the regular education work, students are often educated to consciously tolerate and accept setbacks in daily life and study, understand that "failure is the mother of success", and understand that many weather-beaten people who have experienced ups and downs in life can endure setbacks and do more than those who have always been smooth sailing.
Pay attention to optimistic education and create a good mood.
Optimism is to look at the real world around us with a tolerant, accepting, cheerful and positive attitude, which can promote people's physical and mental health well. Martin, a professor of American psychology, believes that "optimism is an important factor in a person's success." Therefore, to train students to attract investment, we should also pay attention to optimistic education and create a good mood. How to make yourself optimistic? Miller and Dana, two American psychologists, believe that most optimistic people are self-loving, confident, self-controlled, extroverted and easy to associate with others through careful investigation and research. In view of this, I enhance students' self-confidence through goal motivation; Cultivate students' social skills through cooperative learning; Guide students to think in many ways (such as "a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise") and cultivate students' dialectical thinking ability; Efforts should be made to cultivate students' sense of humor, treat environmental pressure with a relaxed mood, and take effective measures to cultivate students' optimism, so that they can correctly understand the meaning of life, love society, love life, love learning, love nature, be confident, positive and optimistic.
The above three points are interrelated and interpenetrated. In daily education, we should flexibly use different educational methods for different educational objects, cultivate students' emotional intelligence and improve their psychological quality.