College English 1: Art students walk in a faint golden dusk.
17 years old, an art student changed classes.
On the day of school, the teacher brought him to report for duty. He reluctantly lowered his eyes, stood on the podium and carefully introduced himself: My name is banker Mu. I saw the beautiful and proud arc of the artist's long eyelashes, and my heart was like a bottle of soda, constantly churning tiny and enthusiastic bubbles. Why do boys have those doll-like eyelashes? It doesn't make sense.
Art students are tall and big. They like to wear loose white shirts and sit quietly in the corner of the last row of the classroom. He doesn't have to take math class because he is exempt from the college entrance examination. In fact, he seldom comes to all subjects, which basically belongs to grazing study. Every time he wears some disdainful long eyelashes and strides past my desk with long legs, he will make a clatter all the way. 1, 2, 3, 4, I often count like this. When I counted to 6, the click stopped, then the tables and chairs made a loud noise, and the art students arrived at their seats.
In the class with art students present, my back is extremely tense and sensitive. I couldn't help but turn my head and take a quick look, but I still couldn't successfully detect his dynamics. This road is really long and far, and there are many obstacles.
Once, I handed out papers for an English teacher in class, and when I saw his papers, his scores were in a mess, and the word banker was very handsome and elegant. He's not at his desk. I'm fooling around there. There is a red tin pencil box on the desk with a transformer printed on it, which makes a familiar clatter when accidentally picked up. I can't help but open it: a whole box of sharpened drawing pencils! I was inexplicably excited, as if I knew a huge secret that no one knew.
Yes, I like art students, and I don't want to hide it at all, even if it is 17 years old.
I bought half a dozen imported drawing pencils in an art shop and put them in the side pocket of my schoolbag. Every day I fantasize about meeting an art student unexpectedly somewhere and then taking out my pencil for him. I said cheerfully and elegantly: Mu Shujia, I am En. Can you come to class every day?
I fantasized about this plan too many times, and before I could implement it, the art students suddenly disappeared. No one knows what he did. I was so disappointed that I even wondered if he thought I liked him, so he deliberately avoided me. On duty, I went to clean his desk and chair. The stool is an old thing dragged out of the school warehouse, and the slight movement is earth-shattering. I quietly changed his stool and bought a small bucket of blue acrylic paint to help him brush his old mottled desk. I never thought of being so kind to a person, but I was kind to him and even forgot to care about the response.
When the dealer appeared again, the zipper of my schoolbag had rubbed off a shallow paint line from the orange barrel of the pencil.
During the messy class break, I handed the drawn pencil to the dealer. I am afraid that he will disappear unpredictably again. Half a dozen pencils became a compromise gift, and with that warm and slightly sour girl's heart, I gave them away hastily and ceremoniously. I rehearsed the dialogue thousands of times, but I couldn't say a word. My hand holding a pencil hangs quietly in the air, my heart is full of inexplicable sadness, and my eyes are very dramatic.
This should be a great confession, right?
The dealer took the pencil and was as quiet as usual.
The next day in class, I found that my stool had been changed back, and there was a Sunkist orange with a simple smile in it.
The banker comes to class, and we walk together after school. Choose a long way and walk slowly. Sometimes I talk a lot, as if just to fill the free time when the dealer doesn't talk. Sometimes I will be very silent and ashamed to reflect on my chatter the day before.
The banker said, Li Xi 'en, your life is full of energy. ?
? Yes, I love life! But bankers agree, why are you always hanging your eyes and listless?
The boy in white replied lightly:? I'm not interested in this world. Nothing to care about. ?
I was secretly sad for this sentence for a while, and there is no medicine to cure it. What a muddled day. I like the harmony of bankers, which is unreasonable, disorganized and hopeless. Do bankers like me? I don't know. Those faint evenings in Phnom Penh, we just got together aimlessly and kicked stones all the way.
After the college entrance examination, I was admitted to a normal university in the north. The dealer passed the art major course, but he had to stay in school to repeat it because of the poor cultural course.
I bought a drawing pencil with novel design from the city where I went to school and waited for the dealer at the school gate. His doll-like eyelashes are raised happily, and he smiles slightly in the sunset. The banker took the pencil and took my hand. His hands are wide and cold, and his fingers are clean. The boys passing by screamed with strange voices, and I walked a little erratic, and countless sweet and happy bubbles rose in my heart.
However, not long after the class resumed, the banker was in a bad mood repeatedly and began to say something very extreme and frustrating on the phone. Homework can't be made up, there is no future, no tomorrow, whether it is him or us.
I try to be considerate of him, but I will still be secretly scratched by these words. After a long time, no matter how strong the healing ability is, it will be exhausted by the newly superimposed small wounds. When I hung up again, I admitted that I was a little tired, but I didn't despair.
I want to see the banker.
In order to save money, I took two part-time jobs, and began to sort out notes on various subjects in high school for the banker. For the first time, I tried my best.
But the banker suddenly disappeared again. The empty beep on the other end of the phone makes the connection between us look so fragile, and a lot of writing makes my middle finger feel like a cocoon. I looked at the strange pencils I collected from the table, and saw my wishful thinking from beginning to end for the first time, and understood for the first time that I couldn't ignore the response for love.
Finally found him, but he has a bad temper. Fighting with someone at school, he was suspended for three weeks, and his father locked him in his room and was not allowed to answer the phone. He is in a bad mood. He said all this with confidence, as if it were all his own fault. I finally shouted at the other end of the phone:? Why did you fight? Didn't you promise to study hard? Have you ever cared about me? We really have no tomorrow. We have nothing! ?
Yes, I just like a boy, and I don't know what to think. My love can be great and selfless enough to melt everything. There are so many unexpected thorns behind love that break my heart and frustrate me.
I have learned that people in this world put off any difficulties until time. Time is the most invincible, love and hate, past lives, how unforgettable in front of time, looking back is just a faint dust. Besides, my first love.
When I graduated, I grew a centimeter taller and found a good job.
A male colleague in the department moved for dinner, and the wall was covered with photos of him at various stages. At such an irrelevant moment, I suddenly saw the banker. 1997, the banker stood among the teenagers who graduated from junior high school, smiling brightly. My heart was pounding, but I asked casually: Where is this man now? There used to be a girl in the dormitory who knew him well. ?
Colleagues are all drunk: Bankers are very friendly! Our families used to be neighbors. He has bad luck. He is a lively boy, but his parents divorced and he became a different person. When I was a sophomore, I turned away. I heard that I made a girlfriend there, but I don't want to tell it. It seems like a secret. Later, because the girls fought, the girls also dumped him. He took the college entrance examination three times and then went to college. This person has always been very sensitive and proud, and feels that he can't get into a good school and is not worthy of that girl. Now that the family has moved, there is no news at all. ?
? Fight for that girl
? Yes, some people say that his girlfriend chased him actively, and it was definitely not a good girl who took the initiative to send him to the door, so she rushed up and beat him up and refused to review. I advised him at that time, and he said that there are not many people he cares about in this world, and no one can hurt the people he cares about?
I rushed out to take a taxi and rolled down in tears.
where am I going? Mr. Mu, where can I get you back? 17 years old, I really don't know anything about love. I'm passionate and nervous about myself? Selfless and fearless? Attitude, but never really know you, what do you think, what have you experienced, what kind of heart do you care about me.
In those years, the twilight was four-in-one, kicking stones aimlessly all the way, but I didn't learn what to express properly, I didn't know how to look back and I didn't know how to face the future. We smiled at each other and held hands, thinking that all eternity had ended.
(Text/Jiang Ying)
Beautiful University Part 2: Do your predecessors know that you are so excellent now?
Author: poster
0 1
I arranged several dinners, which finally came true yesterday.
Korea, far away, closed the store and drove back overnight. I also specially took a day off to see Azhou, who rarely came back from the distant American emperor.
My first reaction when I saw her was: the nourishment of capitalism is really not built.
When I met Ah Zhou, I was a sophomore, and she was already a magazine album. She has always been a meatball, shy, with no makeup on her face and freckles. She is very cute.
But this time, she is obviously different.
Hair dyed brown curly hair, face with light makeup, white and tender skin lined with red lips, has unspeakable charm.
Ah Zhou saw the shock of Han and me in his eyes, warmly greeted us to sit down, then skillfully ordered the menu and asked us for a while. Am I getting better?
? It lowers your level by looking good. It's absolutely beautiful! ? Han Ba? Beautiful? Two words came out with a bang.
Ah Zhou looks pink and slightly shy. It is not bad to say that it has been changed several times. At dinner, Zhou told me some interesting stories about her abroad, and the streets were full of strange things. She also didn't forget to say how much she suffered to learn this plastic surgery. When her first makeup failure was laughed at by her classmates, Han Meng took a sip of lemonade and turned to look at her. You are so good now, does your predecessor know?
The joy of reunion after a long separation instantly solidified in the air, and she nodded and shook her head, not continuing this topic. But we all know that Han's unintentional words have punctured the pain points of Azhou for many years.
02
Zhou and his predecessor have been together since college. At that time, although she was not good at expressing herself, her predecessor always guessed her thoughts and took good care of her.
As soon as the weather turns cold, we will prepare an electric blanket for her to warm the baby. A cup of hot soybean milk in the morning and a cup of hot milk in the evening will send the snow to her downstairs unimpeded. As soon as the weather is hot, ice packs, cold pillows and small mats are all ready for her, and she will control the number of times she eats ice for fear that she will have a stomachache during menstruation. She never has to worry about having no place to eat in the canteen. The dishes she wants to eat are always cooked and put on her desk. At that time, the living expenses of 1000 yuan were basically shared by two people, and going out shopping was always a package without complaint.
Although not up to the level of a princess, she is at least as good as her daughter.
And Zhou, the most common thing to do is to complete the double copy of any task assigned by the class every time. When he is playing games, she will only watch silently, without making noise or forcing him? Is the game important to me? . She was busy taking care of him when she was ill. When the boys' dormitory refused, she asked his classmates for help, and several people sent her to the dormitory, which was petite in the middle. The image of a 24-year-old dutiful girlfriend suddenly became a stalwart.
Until graduation, the feelings of the two people only increased.
0 3
After graduation, Azhou got a job as an editor in a magazine, and her predecessor was a brand manager of a financial company.
One is sitting in the office typing on the computer, and the other is running promotional activities at various venues. A person who hardly sees outsiders, a person who sees different people every day. Over time, A Zhou's shy personality became more and more shy, while his predecessor's personality became more and more extroverted. I know more friends, and I always remember to bring Azhou to the company party.
On one occasion, A Zhou worked overtime for several days in the company, just in time for her predecessor to accompany her to an important ceremony. It is too late. Zhou didn't go home to change. No sooner had he gone to the barber shop to wash his hair than he went to the hotel. She regretted it the moment she opened the door.
The scene is still a bit big, with good colleagues from the former unit and bosses who often contact business. Not everyone wears formal clothes, but at least most of them are decent enough, which is really different from Azhou's casual clothes.
Ah Zhou sat down awkwardly, but she was uncomfortable whether holding food or talking. She simply found an excuse to sit in the corridor next to the bathroom. On wechat, her ex asked her why she hasn't come back yet, and whether she should come out to find her. Just as she was about to get up and go out, she heard several women talking in the bathroom.
? I didn't expect his girlfriend to be so untidy, because she didn't even wear makeup because she didn't know what occasion. ?
? Who said no? Look at the ball head that exploded in the soil. You think you're a nun?
? Look at her skirt. I don't know how many years she has worn it. This is an ugly style. ?
One week blushed a little and rushed out to talk back. When she looked up, she saw her ex standing there listening, and her face was a little darker than hers.
04
On the way back, my predecessor didn't speak, and Ah Zhou didn't know what to say.
Originally, she thought that her predecessor would go up on the spot and tear up the mouths of those two women. As a result, she just gave her a faint look and turned back to the private room.
When I got home, my face was tight and I didn't ask Ah Zhou until after midnight. Can you dress yourself up, too?
Zhou was a little shocked. He brewed all night, not to comfort her, not to help her out, just to ask this sentence.
She also wants to learn makeup, but when she graduated, her ex always told her that she looks best without makeup, and the freckles on her face are all traces of little angels. Having said too much, Azhou really doesn't study makeup, but in terms of clothing, she always focuses on leisure and never gets sloppy.
As a result, less than a year after this sentence was finished, she had changed her painting style and asked her why she didn't learn makeup and why she didn't dress herself up.
A Zhou didn't sleep well all night, and his ex seemed to toss and turn. I don't know if he was upset or upset.
The next day, Zhou hurried to work, put on his coat and was about to go out. The ex came out with a briefcase and gave her a look, which was somewhat dissatisfied. I told you to dress up. Why are you still like this?
Ah Zhou's heart is cold, and the two have just started living together, and they have reached the point where they are tired of each other.
Maybe tomorrow when his colleague says she is ugly, he will probably ask him? Why not have a facelift? In that case, right?
05
? Just divide it. He likes to follow the trend so much that he may have a domestic violence. ?
This is Han's words to comfort Ah Zhou after breaking up.
Now Azhou can make up, dress appropriately, control shoes of various heights and know the names of most brands. But she has never met anyone who praised her face as freckled as an angel.
After dinner, Ah Zhou put the bag on his back, and the smile on his face continued. When he saw Han and I get on the bus, he added the answer. He commented on my photos before, and you have become so beautiful. Then I chatted with me for several days, but then I sent a photo with a foreign friend. He asked me why I didn't take the sexy route after going abroad for so long.
? What if he knows I'm good-looking? After saying this, she smiled helplessly, looked at Han again and said, don't ask your girlfriend to do this or that in the future. It's best to be yourself. ?
Han gave me a pouting look. When I find it. ?
I nodded,? Me too. ?
It doesn't seem to matter whether you look good or not. The important thing is that this person loves you a little and tolerates you a little. Only by knowing this can you change for love.
But Excellence is a good thing, at least please yourself first, and then please others.
Beautiful University Chapter 3: Reflection on Campus Love
Abstract: With the development of the times and the change of people's ideas, it is more and more common for college students to fall in love. On the university campus, couples holding hands can be seen everywhere. Whether falling in love will affect their study and future development has become the focus of social attention. College students are relatively independent and have their own unique views on love. If they can treat love rationally, they can better handle the relationship between love and other aspects. At present, the phenomenon of college students' campus love is on the rise and presents new characteristics, and the traditional education of love concept is facing severe challenges. It is not only helpful for the healthy growth of college students, but also conducive to the further management of college students to seriously study the problems existing in college students' love and strengthen education and guidance. Based on the analysis of the current situation of college students' love, this paper analyzes the characteristics, psychology and existing problems of college students' love, and puts forward some thoughts on the education and guidance of college students' love management.
Keywords: college students' love thinking
After going to college, many people inevitably have to face an environment again and find a friend who can listen to themselves. Most students think that the opposite sex is often easier to communicate with each other than the same sex. When the interaction between two people deepens, it will inevitably develop into a special relationship, which is also the initial idea. At the same time, with love, people will naturally go shopping with you on weekends and study and eat with you on weekdays. So your college life will be far away from loneliness, and your college life will be enriched by him or her. The world of two people is far more wonderful than that of one person. Therefore, the phenomenon of college students' love is still relatively common at present. Although their physical development is basically mature, they are not deeply involved in the world and lack understanding of love and marriage, which often affects their normal study, life, physical and mental health and even their life because they can't handle the relationship correctly. Therefore, it is of great significance to understand the characteristics, psychological characteristics and existing problems of college students' love, reduce and eliminate their psychological confusion, avoid and correct their blindness in behavior, and strengthen the education and guidance of college students' love.
First, the analysis of the current situation of college students' love
(A) the current problem of college students' love
There is a saying: love can make people blind. College students talk so much about love, and some overheated campus phenomena are even more chilling. For example, couples are too close in class, cuddling in front of everyone, and even crazier, many college couples have started? Living together? , leading to the hospital in China? Abortion? The number of students is increasing. I think as a college student and a student receiving higher education, these behaviors should be produced with the students' judgment. At the same time, the view given by society is that truly pure and noble love should be based on noble ideals and morality. Therefore, the main feature of current college students' love is the weakening of traditional morality. The second is the idealization of love. College students are in adolescence, pursue romance, are impulsive and have obvious performance in love. First, I lack careful thinking about my feelings and make hasty decisions based on my feelings. Generally, they only exchange views on study, life and society, pursue colorful spiritual life and romantic love, and rarely or never involve substantive issues such as marriage and family establishment, thus idealizing love.
Romantic. Second, the emotional intensity is strong and difficult to control, and the ability of rational analysis is easily limited, and sometimes it is possible to break through the rational defense line. Third, the mood fluctuates greatly and the self-control is poor. Once feelings begin, they can't be calm for a long time, that is, people who are in love are often in a state of excitement and excitement. However, once they are lovelorn, they will be immersed in pain for a long time and cannot extricate themselves. I think life is meaningless, I have no motivation to study, and I even have suicidal thoughts.
(B) Analysis of the causes of contemporary college students' improper love view
The physical development of college students is basically mature, especially the development of secondary sexual characteristics, which will inevitably lead to the germination and awakening of sexual consciousness and produce feelings of yearning and admiration for the opposite sex. This is the natural attribute of human beings, the original opportunity of love initiation, and the internal driving force of college students' love. In addition, China's backwardness in sex education and social prejudice against sex education make many college students lack understanding of sexual knowledge, showing a confused psychological state about the sexual consciousness brought by physical maturity. This constant accumulation of curiosity finally triggered the power of love experience, and both love and study need some energy and time. Some students have a deep understanding of this. Although subjectively, they don't want to fall in love early, but they are weak, not good at refusing, and some even fall in love passively out of sympathy, gratitude and care for their emotions, with many internal contradictions. ? Positive? Exploration and blind acceptance are the remarkable characteristics of college students' love at present. There is also economic autonomy, which also provides a certain material basis for love. College collective life and more group activities have increased the contact between boys and girls, providing opportunities and convenience for mutual understanding and cultivating feelings; With the broadening of vision, the lingering feelings of the protagonists in ancient and modern Chinese and foreign literary works and the exciting scenes in film and television dramas have prompted some college students' love consciousness to expand rapidly. In addition, today's students are generally only children, and their psychological quality is generally low. They go out to study and stay away from their parents, and they are prone to discomfort in the new environment, especially freshmen, which is prone to loneliness and loneliness, plus the influence of senior students who are in love. As a result, some students quickly fell into the arms of lovers. In addition, since the reform and opening up, while bringing economic prosperity and development to China, some western ideas have also poured in, affecting contemporary college students. Some college students are influenced by the bourgeoisie? Sexual liberation and freedom? He believes that love should pay attention to the process rather than the result, rarely consider family and external factors, advocate independent decision, be extremely irresponsible to love, and regard love as a game. Especially in recent years, the junk information in network culture misleads students' thoughts and behaviors, and the exaggerated description and rendering of love and sex by mass media also stimulates college students and plays a role in fueling their love. The tendency of popular aesthetic culture and the loss of humanistic spirit have profoundly impacted the campus cultural atmosphere, resulting in the deviation of college students' view of love. Suitable soil for living? . Since the new marriage law adjusted the age of marriage, the phenomenon of puppy love and early marriage in society has had a multi-level and multi-faceted impact on college students. In addition, in recent years, the media reported that it is difficult for older young women, especially those with high education, to choose a spouse, which has caused great psychological pressure on college students, especially female college students.
Second, the current college students love countermeasures
(A) should strengthen the system construction and management.
To standardize college students' love behavior, we must first help students to improve their understanding from the legal point of view, so that they have certain legal awareness and legal concepts. College students should realize that regulating and restraining their behavior is not only the requirement of socialist morality, but also the requirement of socialist law. Secondly, it is necessary to formulate rules and regulations to regulate college students' love behavior. College students should not only abide by the rules and regulations of the school, but also abide by the rules and regulations about love and morality, and advocate the traditional Chinese virtues of self-esteem, self-love and implicit love. To avoid and reduce the problems in college students' love, it is necessary to strengthen management, strengthen the construction of school spirit and study style, and guide students to devote themselves to their studies. For college students who are already in love.
Talk to them regularly, exchange ideas, and put forward strict requirements for them to prevent the occurrence of bad phenomena.
(2) Strengthening the construction of campus culture means strengthening the subtle educational function of campus culture to college students.
We should change the low-level functions of campus culture in the past, such as simply satisfying students' entertainment, so that college students can enrich their knowledge and improve their ability by participating in campus cultural activities. More importantly, through a certain material environment and spiritual atmosphere, every member living in it can identify with the real culture in terms of ideas, psychological factors, code of conduct and value orientation, so as to realize the shaping of people's spirit, mind and character.
(3) Strengthen the knowledge education of teenagers.
Strengthening adolescent knowledge education and promoting the healthy growth of college students is an important topic that cannot be avoided in colleges and universities. Colleges and universities can help students understand the physiological changes and health care in adolescence through publicity, lectures and other forms, so that students can understand relevant sexual knowledge and correctly treat related sexual problems. Offering counseling courses to guide college students to correctly handle the health knowledge education in love and study, love and physical and mental health, love and personality shaping, and sexual physiology and psychology. This kind of education is both health education and moral education. It can help students to straighten their mentality, establish a healthy and sound sexual psychology, and correctly handle the relationship between love, study, life and classmates.
In a word, the quality of college students' love guidance education is an important aspect related to students' healthy growth and success. As moral educators in colleges and universities, we should attach importance to the significance of this work. Therefore, college students should have a correct view of love, which will play a positive role in their self-understanding, self-improvement, self-development and self-transcendence. Therefore, we should treat the phenomenon of college students' love correctly and actively guide it. Effectively help students solve the problems in love and publicize the correct concept of love, put an end to and criticize the bad concept of love, especially let students learn to rationally deal with a series of contradictions and choices caused by love. Only with a correct and reasonable view of love can our college life be icing on the cake and play its due role.