My husband is wiping his tears with paper. Hearing the sound of opening the door, my son came to hug me and said, "Mom, I'm so sad. That super good grandmother passed away ... "I watched TV and found that in this episode, Zhou Fu and Zhou Mu passed away one after another.
While helping my son wipe away the tears on his face, I thought: Why is she the humblest person in the world, but she has earned enough tears from 30 million viewers? Even Mr. Liang Lao, the original author of On Earth, couldn't help crying when he saw this picture. A netizen's words tell the truth: "She is not the protagonist in the world, but the pillar and soul of the whole Zhou family."
Father Zhou is away all the year round. She brought up three children by herself, never complaining, never complaining about being tired. She used her gentleness and kindness, generosity and kindness to make the childhood of three children full of warm background. With her tenacity and optimism, she turned the hard life into a poem, raised three children better than one, and turned the whole Zhou family into the most enviable family in the "Guangzi Film".
I remember a passage in Mother's Influence: "A family is the temple and source of spiritual growth, even if it has an honest, hardworking, kind and optimistic mother. The mother's influence on the child is like an uninterrupted force that will last the child's life. " Having a good mother is really the greatest blessing for a child and the best feng shui for a family.
1. A mother's optimism is the energy source of a child's life.
The "light film" where the Zhou family lives is a poor and crowded shanty town. Zhou Mu was never full of resentment, because she lived in a "photo movie". On the contrary, she worked very hard to turn her hard life into a poem. She greets her neighbors with a smile and enthusiasm every day. The house is surrounded by walls, but it also keeps the house clean and orderly. Life is tight, she can still sew with a smile, and she is looking forward to saving pork for the children to eat in the New Year. Two beloved children are leaving home to go to poorer and more difficult places. She held back all her sadness and waved goodbye to the children with a smile. Poverty, hardship and separation didn't make the smile on her face disappear at all, let alone make her lose confidence and expectation for the future.
Martin seligman once said in "Live an Optimistic Self": "The optimism of a mother is very similar to that of a child, whether it is a son or a daughter, which shows that the child mainly learns the mother's explanation style of causality." That's true. The three children of the Zhou family have inherited their mother's optimism and strength: the eldest son and the second daughter are brilliant, and they are full of confidence in their future, whether at home or in remote mountainous areas. They believe that the temporary pain will pass, and they will work hard for their ideals and be admitted to Peking University together. The third son, Bing Kun, though not as good as his brother and sister, never lost a positive heart. He does the hardest and most tiring work in the wood factory and soy sauce factory, but he never dislikes and complains. His mother was paralyzed in bed, and he didn't have any fear or flinch. He didn't tell his brother, sister and father that he was holding everything by himself. He has been in prison twice, but he has always maintained a childlike heart that loves life. No matter how much he lost, no matter how hard it was to start over, he gritted his teeth and worked hard, just as he once said to Nan Zhou, "Bitter, chew and swallow."
Taiwan Province writer Huang Shuwen once said: "As long as you set an example, children will naturally grow into the people they see." I'm impressed. A mother's attitude towards life and suffering will exert a subtle influence on her children and become an example for them to learn. Laurie Lee, the author of Rosie and Cider, once recalled his childhood: "Although it was the end of World War I and the society was in turmoil, in my childhood memory, the four seasons were full of joy. All this is just because I have a strong and optimistic mother wherever I go. " Faced with the difficult situation of having to take care of a large group of children alone, lack of food, shabby wooden house and unknown return date of father, Laurie Lee's mother still happily took the children to pick fruits in the forest, taste ice cubes under the eaves and dance in the shabby hut. Laurie Lee's mother lived a steaming miserable life, which made Lori Lee have a happy childhood, and also planted an equally optimistic and strong seed in Laurie Lee's heart, which supported him to bravely and confidently accept the test of life and grow into an excellent writer through suffering.
It is no exaggeration to say that the mother's strong optimism hides the warmth and good luck of her child's life. Because what a strong and optimistic mother passes on to her children is self-confidence, courage and responsibility that will benefit her life. Mother's kindness is the strength and motivation for children's growth. Unlike Zhou's father's integrity and strictness, Zhou's mother is always extra tolerant and loving to her children. My favorite little daughter ran away from home in her teens and eloped to Guizhou with Feng Huacheng, who is more than 20 years older than herself. Although Zhou's mother was angry and sad, she was particularly worried. Every Spring Festival, she looks forward to Zhou Rong coming home. Her most proud eldest son, Bing Yi, married the daughter of the Governor's Office and lived in her mother-in-law's house for a long time. Instead of blaming Bing Yi, she was afraid that Bing Yi would be embarrassed and never bothered her in-laws. As soon as I heard that my in-laws were going home, mother Zhou quickly took her children to get ready and warmly welcomed them. My in-laws didn't come temporarily, so I accidentally returned the gift. She still doesn't want to say a word of complaint and blame to her son. The youngest son, Zhou Bingkun, is not smart and has no great ambitions. He was often punched and kicked by his father, and was also called "a grinding old pimple" by his neighbors. But Zhou Mu can find the bright spot of Bingkun, and sincerely encourage him and affirm him: "Smart, capable and old."
? Herbert spencer, a famous educator, said: "When a child is in a family atmosphere of understanding, respect and encouragement, his trust in his parents will be doubled, and his growth will be more motivated." Mother Zhou's kindness and tolerance have paved a warm background for the lives of the three children, and also filled their growth with upward confidence and motivation. Because of this, Zhou Rong, who eloped for love, knew from an early age that "a good life is more important than a good life"; "Ambitious" Zhou, no matter being misunderstood or falsely accused, can still walk from the leadership of state-owned enterprises to the mayor and governor step by step and stick to his beliefs. Zhou Bingkun, who is "the least valuable and has the hardest life", has worked diligently from a coolie to a hotel supervisor by virtue of his simplicity, kindness and loyalty, and has become the "most reliable and filial" child of the Zhou family.
Teacher Wu Zhihong said: Why does the family hurt people? You hate your child, but you want love from him; You give your child pain, but you want to get gratitude from him; You give your child a shadow, but expect him to be always positive and upward, without a shadow. For children, persuasion is better than persuasion, encouragement is better than blowing, light wind and drizzle are better than storms, and gentle guidance is better than all harsh words and expressions. A child's inner warmth and strength can never be separated from the nourishment of love. It is a compulsory course for every mother to be a mother who is good at discovering children's bright spots and not stingy with encouragement and praise.
2. The mother's emotion hides the child's sense of security and happiness all his life.
? In Misogyny, Chizuko Ueno wrote: "My mother mixed the unhappiness in life with her sense of powerlessness that she could not change the status quo. The venting of this negative emotion is the source of the contradiction between mother and daughter. Mother and daughter suffer, and the family becomes a cage. " Compared with the precarious parent-child relationship of many families with many children, the warmth between Zhou's mother and three children has envied countless netizens. And all this, thanks to Zhou Mu is a calm mother. Like Zhu Chaoyang's mother in Hidden Corner, she will not turn her dissatisfaction with life into control and oppression of her children. Nor will she vent her pain, anxiety, dissatisfaction and resentment on her children like a single mother who violently forced her primary school daughter to learn college mathematics in Nantong, Jiangsu. Zhou Mu always smiles and suffers the torture and pain of life alone. She has never blushed for her husband or been sincere to her children. She has never complained or collapsed because of the "cold world", nor has she threatened her children with parental rights, nor has she kidnapped them with a sense of sacrifice. Even on his deathbed, Zhou Fu still propped himself up and pretended to talk with his children easily. She knows everything in her heart, and she tries to restrain herself from exposing Zhou Fu's illness in front of the children. After Zhou's father died, she didn't feel great sorrow. Instead, when the child is at the vigil, he pretends to be calm and advises the child to go back to the house to rest: "If you are frostbitten, your father will not forgive me." It was not until the tired and sad children fell asleep that she came to the yard alone, took Zhou Fu's hand, sat squarely, accompanied Zhou Fu peacefully, and left the children forever.
Her life is so cold, so calm, so determined. "Origin and Death" said: "Children's absorption of emotional information, like a sponge, will be completely indiscriminate absorption." A calm mother will certainly raise a firm, confident and calm child. Zhou Rong was shocked by Feng Huacheng's infidelity, but instead of crying and tearing each other apart, she fulfilled Feng Huacheng with dignity. Zhou was maliciously accused of "abuse of power" and suspended for review. He didn't excuse or retaliate, but said calmly, "You will be safe when you come, and trust the organization." Zhou Bingkun went through ups and downs and went to prison twice, but each time he accepted the consequences and continued to fight for a better life. Facts have proved that being a calm mother is the luck of a child's life. Because the calmer the mother's mood, the more stable and powerful the child's inner world, and the easier it is to achieve success and happiness.
? Soong Ching Ling said: "In the final analysis, children's character and talents are influenced by their families and parents, especially their mothers." Yes, what a child will eventually become depends on what kind of mother he has. The mother is optimistic and strong, and the child is brave and tenacious; The mother is tolerant and loving, and the child is kind and confident; The mother is calm, and the child is warm and firm. Mother's wisdom, emotion and inner passion are the source of children's good character and good life. Hu Shi once wrote in My Mother: "My mother is generous, good-natured, kind and gentle, and has never said anything that hurts people's feelings. If I learn a little good temper, if I learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive and understand others-I have to thank my mother. " I hope we can all be role models for our children and the people they want to thank most in the future!
* * * Encourage!