What two points should we pay attention to? First, determine in advance. For example, if you are a junior visiting a superior, a junior visiting an elder, and a student visiting a teacher, if you tell him one week in advance, the other party may forget, so if you are smart, you should call him again before departure or the night before. For example, if you visit Professor Jin, I will make an appointment one week in advance. Please call me, Professor Kim. As agreed, we'd like to visit your home at four o'clock tomorrow afternoon. Is it convenient? Is there any change? You should be sure, which means reminding me. Don't forget, Lao Jin, this is a very important point, so there will be no air fan. Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to the Chinese New Year holiday and confirm it in advance if you make an appointment in advance.
What else should I pay attention to? Pay attention to moderation when visiting unless you make an appointment first. I don't know if you have noticed that we usually go to other people's homes as guests, and the concept of how long we will stay there is not very strong, whether on holidays or at ordinary times. Generally speaking, courtesy visits, such as comrades in the office of retired cadres or comrades in the office, visiting old-timers or guests with working relationships, should be as brief as possible on holidays, because they go there when visiting others. A house is so big that the living room is there. Generally, it is advisable to stay at the guest's home for ten minutes, not too long. After greeting, the meaning will be good. Eat at most two melon seeds and have a cup of tea. Don't let it go. How can others come in if you don't leave there? This is a big problem. What about family and friends visiting? When visiting relatives and friends, it is generally appropriate to be short rather than long, and it is appropriate to be about half an hour. This is not a very special case, and it is not appropriate to stay for more than an hour. Under normal circumstances, don't stay for dinner unless you are a close relative or an old friend, and you are repeatedly detained by the other party, because the other party's burden will be heavy, so we call this enough is enough. Not only must you make an appointment first, but enough is enough.
Third, as tourists, we should pay attention to self-cleanliness in New Year's Day etiquette. People in China and foreigners should celebrate Spring Festival, New Year's Day, National Day, Labor Day, Youth Day and Women's Day. We should always maintain our image, so we should make necessary modifications to ourselves.
Generally speaking, we should pay attention to three points in this renovation. First of all, we should decorate our clothes. It is best to choose certain national costumes for specific national festivals, at least clean and tidy, and not too sloppy.
Second, what should I pay attention to? This is a relatively low-level requirement, but I still want to say that besides being neat and tidy, we should also pay attention to gfd. For example, men had better get a haircut and shave. Generally speaking, lesbians should have a hairstyle if possible. Why? Because judging people has a characteristic, from the beginning, if a person's hairstyle gives others a bad feeling, it will affect his image. It is very important for appearance, hair modification and beard removal. Moreover, when we talk about appearance, we must emphasize that there should be no odor, shampoo, bath and hands washing. Under normal circumstances, it is best not to go to other people's homes to eat stimulating food, such as onions, roast duck is delicious, but not so good. Eat less garlic, garlic is strong, and generally do not eat leeks. As we all know, northerners like to eat jiaozi stuffed with leeks, but that guy with leeks has a strong flavor. He will eat leek buns tonight and burp leek tomorrow afternoon, which is sustainable.
Third, we should pay attention to a very important detail, that is, we should pay attention to the hygiene of shoes and socks. Nowadays, urban people's homes are luxuriously decorated, and some ethnic groups have some habits. They must take off their shoes when they enter the door. Some of us pay little attention to this. To put it bluntly, the broomsticks with crested heads are handsome and dignified, and they dare not take off their shoes when they enter the door. Taking off your shoes can kill mice. Maybe there are three holes in the sock, one of which shows the big toe. Therefore, when an experienced person goes to other people's homes as a guest, besides dressing neatly and grooming neatly, the hygiene of shoes and socks is very important. This is the detail. As we said before, education is reflected in the details.
Besides, what else should we pay attention to? When you visit, you should pay attention to proper activities. What do you mean? When visiting other people's homes, whether it's going to a company, an individual or a company, we must pay attention to the activities within the designated scope of the other party. Where is the designated area for going to other people's homes? The designated area is the living room.
Some of our comrades have a sense of small farmers. What consciousness? I dare to go anywhere without seeing you. I remember once I made a fool of myself. Going to bed on New Year's Eve, about four or five in the morning, is the Spring Festival again. As a result, a man came at eight o'clock and got up after I slept for two or three hours. The family said that someone knocked at the door and rang the doorbell. Can't you get up? I said of course I got up. Is it appropriate for guests not to get up when they come? Because I was in a hurry, I got up before I could fold the quilt. I'm still narrow-minded. Anyway, he didn't come into my bedroom. The living room is quite big. Unexpectedly, the man outside didn't see me. After sitting for a few minutes, he felt uncomfortable. Do you want to visit your house? Oh, I said I don't have to look. Let's have a look. First of all, I visited the bathroom, which was not bad. My bathroom is clean. Then I visited the storage room, which was not bad. He can't take anything. Then tell me, can I visit your bedroom? I said I'd better not look, but I did, so I went in. In fact, such comrades can sometimes make people embarrassed and troublesome. When visiting other people's homes, it is very important to have an appropriate degree of activity, that is, the scope of activities should be limited, and don't mess around, even family and friends should pay attention.
Another thing, when we talk about being guests, we pay more attention to the choice of gifts.
Visiting relatives and friends sometimes brings some gifts, so what gifts to give is very particular. I have a little question to ask the children in front of the TV and the middle school students and college students present. If you went back to visit your grandparents or parents in other places, what would you choose?
The choice of this gift not only reflects the importance of others, but also involves the warmth and intimacy of interpersonal relationships. I remember a student came to see me at my house the year before last. He gave me a gift during the Spring Festival, which impressed me deeply. It is a graduate student who comes to my home. As soon as he came in, he said to me, Professor Jin, I brought you a present. Don't be unhappy. Teacher Jin never accepts gifts from students. If you want to graduate, you can give me anything so that you can earn money. Don't do this. Teacher Jin doesn't lack this, so don't do it, or everyone will be unhappy. You take it back. He said, Professor Jin, don't be angry. If you look at this gift, you will be very happy. To tell the truth, I was really happy when I saw this gift from him, and I was really moved by him. Do you know what gift he gave me? The ancients said that gifts are not necessarily real money, but if they are in place, the effect may be better. What gift did he give me? He gave me a newspaper the day I was born. I was born in 1959. To be honest, I like reading newspapers. I have read all kinds of newspapers. Now I subscribe to more than a dozen newspapers. I read newspapers for an hour or two every day, but I never thought about reading newspapers on the day I was born. I have never seen it. He probably went to the Beijing Library and copied some collected newspapers about my birthplace and work place. I remember. Wen Wei Po, Jiefang Daily, China Children's Daily, People's Daily, etc. A copy of this newspaper is probably less than 20 yuan, but it is light and affectionate. When I got home, I went in and did nothing. I hid in the study and studied the newspaper carefully for two hours. I finally know what the world is like when I come to this world. I was so excited that I called my parents at once. The next day, my sister called me and said what medicine you gave our old lady. My parents stayed up all night and couldn't sleep all night, talking about the past.
In fact, the value of this gift has arrived. The gift is not necessarily to buy people. The gift is faint and affectionate.
New Year's gifts focus on conveying love and emotion and showing love to relatives, friends and elders. I have told many children that the gifts you bought for grandparents are not expensive. The key is to buy, but bring. Even if the child draws a picture and gives it to his grandparents, he will be very happy.