A lot of happiness began to disappear after going to college.

This sentence is actually traceable.

In high school, everyone's goal was just to get high marks. After entering the university, they found that they needed a lot of things.

Study, exams, love, living expenses and future planning are all important.

Born in a small county, I broadened my horizons for the first time in college. Although my material desire is not heavy, there are still many things I can't afford and dare not think about.

When a person's abilities and expectations don't match, it is difficult to be happy.

When chatting with my roommate, I asked, "Have you found that you are not as happy as before after going to college?"

My roommate said to me, "There are many powerful people, many things they want, too high expectations, and of course they are unhappy if their abilities can't keep up with their desires."

Interestingly, another roommate who failed the course replied, "I feel quite happy, getting rid of the shackles of my parents and doing whatever I want."

I stopped talking after listening and ended the discussion.

I can't empathize with my roommate. His family is well-off and everything has been prepared for him before graduation.

Roommates are calm only because their families have the confidence.

And I know very well that I will graduate after all. I can only take every step in the future. He can't understand why we are confused and anxious.

Two.

Speaking of confusion, this may be a stage that many people will go through in college.

Whenever someone asks me what I want to do in the future, I always get the answer: "I don't know."

It's not that I don't value it. It is because I care too much that I dare not make a choice easily.

After all, life is not a game. If you choose the wrong button, there will be no button to start again.

I have tried to do part-time jobs in the past and participated in some activities organized by the school, but if you say that this will help me in the future, I can't answer.

Gradually, I lost interest in these things, not because I became lazy, but because I felt that it didn't make much sense to do them.

Some seniors advised me: "Why do you think so much? Do what you like. "

I was puzzled and asked, "What's the use of liking it? It must be useful. "

Everyone wants to do what they like, but they are afraid to find out after graduation that after three years in college, they seem to have only done what they like.

The standard to measure whether something is useful is, in the words of the teacher at that time: "Can you make money from this in the future?"

After all, when I really want to step into the society, I can't say to the interviewer, "I play games very well."

The senior seemed to see my doubts and said to me, "I mean, what I like may become your job in the future."

And his words also made me realize that what he said about like is not to let me play, but to concentrate on doing one thing well.

Watching the wind and the sun, and often staying up late to repair pictures, is a thankless thing.

During the period, I also heard many voices of doubt.

What's the use of filming this?

Waste your college time,

Is that why you came to college?

I can't answer their questions and understand their strange eyes. After all, this behavior seemed completely unprofessional at the time.

I also thought about giving up, because it not only consumes my study time, but also is very hard, and I don't know what I can gain.

It was not until I finally turned this "doing nothing" into my main business that the voices around me stopped questioning.

In fact, now that I think about it, many things in life are like this. Before you do something, you will inevitably meet many people who don't understand.

Many people will teach you not to do this or that, but if you ask him what to do, he won't give you a good answer.

If you really don't know what you should do, do what you want to do.

Because whether you do it or not, time will eventually push you down from the campus and push you to the port where you graduated.

Maybe it's not so bad in the end, but at least in the face of ships coming and going, there is one more choice.

Three.

You are unwilling to be mediocre, but you are not enterprising.

In the end, I can only wander in pain and confusion every day.

I wrote this article because my cousin found me some time ago and said to me, "Since I entered my junior year, many people around me have begun to study or plan the future, and I can't help feeling anxious."

When I asked her what her future plans were, she told me, "I don't know what to do."

My advice at that time was, "Go do what you want to do in the future."

Similarly, what I want to do is not to let you play, but to do what I want to do in the future.

This process may not be understood, it may be looked down upon, and you may even be dissatisfied with the final result.

But at least one thing is certain. In the limited time, you have not failed yourself.