1 rebellious psychology

0 1. Control your impulses

In the face of separation and retention, we must first learn a mental method: "patience and cruelty!" ! "

Patience is the impulse to contact TA actively for yourself and control yourself.

Malice is against TA. After the relationship shows a slight sign of improvement, you should be cruel inside and face TA with a cold attitude.

The other party has ignored you, ignored you, and even blacked you out.

Although you are sad, you must calm down and take corresponding countermeasures in the face of such established facts.

What you need to do now is:

Stop all actions and channels to contact each other first. At this time, TA is a very exclusive state for you.

Put yourself in others' shoes. If you are pestered by a boring person every day, all kinds of phone messages are kept, and even you come to the door for advice, are you nervous and even want to call the police?

2 Insist on improving yourself.

02. Cold operation after separation

TA In the extremely boring situation, in order to get rid of you, what you do and say are often extreme and decisive, even beyond your reason.

In the end, everyone may not even be friends.

Is this the result you want?

If your ultimate goal is to get back together, please try this now:

(1), don't call or send messages to each other, and treat them coldly;

2. Don't send emo friends circle or late-night essays;

3. Don't look for the other party's family or relatives to try to complain;

4. Don't stare at TA's social media every day to speculate on each other's behaviors and ideas;

Don't stay alone for a long time (spend more time with friends)

3 Control negative emotions

03. Stop all previous actions.

No matter how many "stepping on thunder" behaviors have been done before, from this moment on, stop all previous behaviors.

Try to make the other person suddenly "can't see+can't hear+can't feel" your existence.

Only when you completely disappear into the world of TA will TA really begin to experience the feeling of "completely losing you".

Unfortunately, many friends can't do it, and they will feel that this wave of operation is that they have lost their TA, fearing that the other party will forget themselves and even find new love.

In fact, there is no causal relationship between whether the other person is looking for a new lover and whether you are in contact or entanglement. Do you think that as long as you have been in TA's life, TA will not find a new lover?

If you don't allow others to live a life without you.

Then how do you think about "having you again" in the future?

4 find a suitable method

04. Pay more attention to yourself

Just like the example of children eating badly before, how can they miss delicious food if they are not hungry?

So, please be sure to say this sentence hundreds of times in your mind: "The love between you is over. Separated, TA is TA, you are you! "

From now on, I hope you can start running your own life and pay more attention to yourself.

In order to talk about a love, I paid too much attention to each other. Do you find your life, school or career a mess?

During this time, you can do anything you like, such as drinking coffee, walking, shopping, inviting friends to dinner, clubbing and going out. ...

You can even arrange things that you have been thinking about for a long time but have no chance to do (fitness, learning a new foreign language, developing new hobbies, socializing with new friends, etc.). )

This is your time to get better, not controlled by anyone!

5 find a suitable method

05. Ask yourself

Please start a colorful life. When the time is ripe in the future, when you meet TA again, the other party will marvel at your "change" and "regret" the decision to treat you like this and separate from you.

But many friends will think that even though I am alive and well, I have changed, but we have all been deleted, and we can't see each other in a foreign country. How would TA know?

In fact, the magic of this world is that if you really have a good life, he will naturally know. Under the overlapping of the Internet era and social circles, our society today is very different from the past, and it is really small.

So you should ask yourself:

Have you changed or not? Is it different?