Improving the realistic self is the behavior and corresponding psychological activity of college students to constantly correct the realistic self and make it develop in the right direction of ideal self. In order to constantly overcome the old self and rebuild the new self, we must strive to develop ourselves, actively serve the society and bravely shoulder the burden of history. Only based on social needs, starting from personal reality, and making their behavior conform to social norms and requirements, can they be recognized by the society.

2. Exercise self-regulation ability

Self-regulation is a psychological process in which college students actively and directionally change their psychological qualities, characteristics and behaviors. First of all, we should formulate a perfect action plan and procedure to make our actions orderly and avoid blindness, but at the same time, we should also pay attention to strict implementation after the plan is formulated and not to change it frequently.

3. Cultivate a sound will quality

People with a sound voice will show strong consciousness, decisiveness, self-control and tenacity in their actions, but effective supervision and control of themselves cannot be separated from the power of will. Only individuals with sound will can effectively control themselves and finally realize their ideal self. Therefore, college students should improve their tolerance for psychological conflicts and setbacks in daily life and cultivate self-sound will quality.