Many friends ask me that college is a social phobia. What if you don't know how to socialize? A little confused ~

I have summed up some social principles and tips, and I hope everyone will not be anxious about social interaction! ! I hope I can help everyone ~

Social tips:

1, treat people sincerely, open your heart, break through the psychological defense line and exercise your face. Sincerity is the first rule of interpersonal communication ~

2. Participate in multi-disciplinary and inter-school social activities, so that you can meet different seniors and learn more information.

Don't be afraid of failure, learn to accept and admit your mistakes.

4. Set the bottom line and say "No" bravely.

5. Practice speaking in public. It doesn't matter if you are nervous and forget your words. You can actively participate in debates and speeches.

6. Don't feel inferior, there are no perfect people in the world.

7. Communicate more, communicate more and communicate more. If there is a misunderstanding, it's best to say it in person, and don't send a large section of WeChat.

8. Give psychological hints and encourage yourself.

9. In order to improve your expressive ability, you must watch the TED talk.

Body language shapes you.

The power of introverted personality

How to speak to make people want to hear?

As long as you say so, everyone will be willing to listen.

Dare to express yourself and defend yourself.

Professor Stanford: Teach you how to overcome nervousness.

The structure of speech, how to become an excellent speaker.

Girl, you don't have to be perfect, you just need to be more courageous.

10. Stay away from internal friction. Most troubles come from thinking too much.

1 1, and women: avoid chattering and complaining, and be gentle with people.

12, and children: be childlike, "children's words and children's words"

13, and the leader: chat appropriately and get to know each other as much as possible; behave oneself well

14, and powerful people: try not to contradict, be polite, if you can't stand it, just don't contact him next time, there is no need to get angry.

15, and people who are hesitant: patience and confidence can gain trust.

16, and annoying people: change yourself temporarily and be polite.

18, novice in small group: listen humbly before speaking.

19, the basic topic of chatting, don't pretend to be empty: there is something in the words, and don't say wow, you are so beautiful, but say: wow, you look thin and beautiful in this xx color dress today! (The other person will think you are more sincere)

20. The best way to find information related to the other party to arouse the interest in the conversation is to master the other party's interests and preferences.

2 1, use snacks to close the chat distance.

22, reading to increase confidence in communication with people:

Inferiority and transcendence

I used to see other people's bright spots, but when I looked at myself,

I always feel useless and often feel inferior and timid, so I won the treasure when I saw it! Really gave me a lot of healing power! This book shares the reasons of inferiority and the underlying logic of getting out of inferiority from a deeper level. Very suitable for people with inferiority complex and introversion!

Heal yourself to socialize better! !

social psychology

If you can only read one book about psychology, it is it, covering almost all psychological concepts. Everyone can see his own shadow from this book. I thought I was mentally healthy, and I didn't read this book until 2006.

I know I'm terminally ill. Human nature is so similar, but desires and needs are so different.

Social truth:

1. The only person you can trust is yourself. Don't please easily, and don't make enemies easily. Remember your bottom line and defend it.

Remember your principles and stick to them.

Everyone is rolling behind their backs, don't be confused by appearances, and don't lose yourself. 6. Make friends slowly, and a long time will test a person's character. 7. A person is normal and there is nothing wrong with him. 8. Don't give your body easily when you are in love. 9. See what the other person does, not say 10. At best, you are a fair-weather friend, and it is true that you are willing to accompany you through the downturn. 1 1. Accept the differences between your parents and you. Society has not changed their minds for 40 years, so don't force them. 12. Remember to say hello when you meet, and it's not good to pretend not to see it. 13. Don't talk deeply when you are shallow.

14. All good things must come to an end.

15. Most interpersonal relationships are ineffective socializing, so just grab the only positive energy.

16. Bad-mouthed friends are often not bad-hearted. 17. Be careful of those who secretly report hurting you. 18. Remember to leave evidence for key things. There's no harm in having one more eye. 19. Cherish good counselors and learn more about the information gap. 20. No one should pay for your bad mood. 2 1. Most people in the circle of friends are favorite friends. 22. The dormitory is not a spit meeting. If you talk too much, be careful not to be sold. Be polite.

23. The family background is very different, so there is no need to compare with others. 24. Anyone who has a competitive relationship is not worth being persuaded. Don't please others easily.

26. If you are not in the circle, don't be rigid.

27. University is a lonely training ground. Sooner or later, you have to learn to live alone.