1, compare. The dormitory is the place where * * * lives together. Naturally, they bow their heads but don't look up. Most people will have a heart of comparison, so it is easy to cause contempt and competition under unequal status. 2. jealousy. Jealousy here refers to feelings. Roommates are paired, and you are alone. Are you jealous? 3. Living habits. Everyone's living habits are different. Some people love cleanliness, some people are lazy, some people are obsessive-compulsive, and some people are casual, which will naturally lead to some contradictions. 4. Three views are different. People with different views are difficult to get along with. For example, if you think love is paramount, the other person likes to play with feelings. Needless to say, you hate each other. You treat feelings as a game, but the other person is very traditional. You must think the other person is boring. You like to spend money to enjoy, and the other person loves money like life; You concentrate on your studies, and the other person only knows how to have fun, such as,, and so on. 5. Different sexual orientation. You are of the opposite sex, and the other person is of the same sex, so naturally you look down on each other. The five o'clock here is the same in reverse, so we don't need to delve into who is right or wrong. Reasons for disharmony in university dormitory 2 What are the manifestations of disharmony in interpersonal relationship in university dormitory? (1) Relationship tension caused by unhealthy psychology such as jealousy and suspicion. In college, some students stand out in some aspects, such as appearance, ability and grades. Such relatively outstanding students often become the focus of students. If you don't pay attention to your words and deeds at ordinary times, it is easy to cause jealousy and suspicion of your classmates and lead to interpersonal tension. On the other hand, in various awards, scholarships, difficult subsidies and so on. When it comes to students' immediate interests, some students with strong utilitarian heart or sensitive personality sometimes resent or even envy others' interests because they can't share interests, thus affecting the harmony of roommates. (2) The psychological gap and emotional barrier caused by the gap between the rich and the poor With the popularization of higher education, the family economic situation of college students varies greatly. Some students come from superior families and spend more than 1000 yuan per month, while some students from remote rural areas don't even have basic living security. Due to the influence of long-term living environment, there are great differences between these two groups in world outlook, values and outlook on life, and friction often occurs in some viewpoints. Students with better economic conditions tend to have a sense of superiority and sometimes compare themselves, while students with poor family circumstances are more likely to feel inferior and sensitive, so it is easy for these two types of people in the dormitory to form an enemy-enemy front. (3) Personal bad living habits lead to disharmony in the dormitory of collective life. Some students pay extremely little attention to personal hygiene, smoke casually, never fold the quilt, the bed is dirty and messy, things are littered, socks and clothes are not washed, they don't take a shower after playing football, and they often forget to flush the toilet when going to the toilet. Collective health never cares about and enjoys success. These bad habits sometimes lead to conflicts between roommates. Some students have a disordered work and rest, and often light candles, read books, chat and play computer games in the middle of the night. These untimely activities violate the rights of roommates and sometimes become the fuse of disharmony in dormitory interpersonal relationship. (d) Inappropriate love leads to roommates' emotional alienation. It is normal to fall in love in college, but if you can't coordinate the relationship between love, study and life, then falling in love can easily lead to the tension of roommate relationship. Some students who are unconscious always like to take the dormitory public telephone for themselves or hide in bed for a long time in the middle of the night to cook "telephone porridge". Some even disregard other people's feelings, take their boyfriend and girlfriend to the dormitory for one night, and do some overly intimate actions in front of everyone. (5) The narrow "dependent" interpersonal communication contradiction caused by too much intimacy requires a moderate distance between people. Too intimate communication takes up the time and space for others to communicate with others, which leads to boredom of communication. In dormitory life, some students are very independent, too dependent on others, and follow others in study, life and spare time. This narrow "dependent" interpersonal communication destroys the basic principles of interpersonal communication. Over time, with the accumulation of boredom, contradictions will gradually arise. (6) Small collectivism destroys interpersonal relationships in some dormitories. Some students are too competitive, utilitarian and vain, like to form gangs, form small groups in the dormitory, isolate others, ignore others' feelings and go their own way. This situation can easily lead to long-term depression in the dormitory atmosphere, which in turn leads to interpersonal tension in the dormitory. Reasons for the disharmony of university dormitory 3. Problems in university dormitory 1, poor living facilities, small dormitory space, and lack of personal space for dormitory members, which are easily disturbed by other roommates. Backward facilities bring a lot of inconvenience to life; 2. The learning atmosphere in the dormitory is poor. According to statistics, each student spends more than 12 hours (including sleeping time) in the dormitory on average. In addition to sleeping time, students have less study time and are not focused enough; 3, unreasonable living habits, getting up early and going to bed late is more serious, and occasionally making phone calls, playing mobile phones and reading novels after turning off the lights; 4. Dormitory activities are mainly entertainment, mostly surfing the Internet, chatting, reading novels and watching TV movies. Although the rules and regulations stipulate the life, study, etiquette and morality of college students' dormitory, the implementation of the system has not really entered the hearts of dormitory members; There are few group activities in the dormitory. Make the relationship between dormitory members not intimate enough, not United enough, etc. Among them, the most important thing is the handling of interpersonal relationships. According to statistics, in addition to sleeping, college students still spend 5 or 7 hours in the dormitory every day. If sleep time is added, almost half of the time is spent in the dormitory every day. It can be seen that interpersonal communication in dormitory is frequent and close, which greatly increases the influence of interpersonal environment in dormitory on college students. The atmosphere of interpersonal communication and interpersonal relationship in the dormitory have a far-reaching impact on the cultivation of college students' ideological and moral and living habits and the development of their lives. Recently, China Youth Network conducted a survey on 958 college students in China, taking the dormitory relationship of college students as the topic. The results show that 42% and 28% of students have conflicts with their roommates respectively. In the case of conflict with roommates, 47,865,438+0% students will choose "active communication"; 28.29% of the students surveyed said that they "have the idea of changing roommates in the dormitory"; "Different living habits", "careless way of speaking" and "different personality hobbies" are the main reasons for the conflicts between roommates. Respecting each other's living habits, helping each other in life and not caring about trivial matters have become the three magic weapons for college students to maintain a harmonious dormitory relationship. The perspective of college students' dormitory relationship lies in the students themselves. Only by learning to tolerate and share can we stay away from contradictions. When there is a conflict with your roommate, you should choose to communicate actively and have a correct attitude. It is not advisable to change dormitories, indulge or fight in extreme ways. Once there is a contradiction between dormitory roommates, both sides should treat it rationally. Taking friendliness as the starting point, taking the initiative to introspect and being honest with each other is the best policy. Therefore, college students, as the main body of behavior, should regard the dormitory as a classroom for studying, living and cultivating their abilities.