In today's society, Jiwa's anxiety spreads in families with children at any time. I really can't feel the pressure without it.

A friend told me two days ago that she used to be a loyal supporter of happy education. I feel that children's childhood should not be so bitter. Jiwa's parents kidnapped her children's thoughts, so her children grew up in free play. On weekends, we take them to play in the fields and fish in the river.

Therefore, she looked at the parents who were running around in the training class and felt ridiculous. I think parents demand too much of their children and impose unfulfilled wishes on them. There is a morbid thought that if you can't become a dragon, you want your child to become a dragon. But now she deeply regrets what she once thought. It turns out that she is the most ridiculous one.

The cause of the incident is the child's interest class. Just a week after school, my son suddenly came home and told her that he wanted to learn piano, and brought back a leaflet for his mother to sign up for the designated training class. At that time, she was surprised at the changes after her children went to school. She felt that the child suddenly grew up after attending primary school, woke up and knew that she had taken the initiative to learn. Therefore, she is very happy to give her children a class, and her son studies hard. But a month later, the child asked his mother to sign up for a special painting class and a special calligraphy class. She's a little confused. Why did her son change so much after he went to primary school and take the initiative to ask for an interest class?

You know, in kindergarten, she also symbolically asked her son, who refused to learn. So he patiently asked why, and his son didn't want to say it at first. Unable to withstand his repeated questioning, my son finally told me the reason why he wanted to report to class.

It turned out that I was catching up with the art week after school. The teacher asked the children in the class who have special skills and want to participate in the art week to sign up with the teacher. Among the 48 students in the class, her son is the only one who has no special skills. All the children in the class look at his son with strange eyes and ask why you can't do anything. My son had to say that he didn't learn.

The other children in the class were shocked and said, why don't you learn anything? Go and learn quickly. Finally, his son's deskmate told him that he was studying in a piano training class. My son begged again and again, and the deskmate promised his son to go to the school teacher to ask for a leaflet for the training class. My son just came back and asked for a piano training class.

Later, the school organized community activities, and children with special skills were selected to the corresponding community. My son was left behind because he had no special skills. Finally, he was reluctantly accepted by the art club because the club didn't need him. In the club class, the teacher had to sit him in the last row. Because he doesn't have a foundation, the teacher will tell him some simple foundations when other children draw after giving the class a lecture.

When my friend heard this, it was like a bolt from the blue, and the belief in education collapsed in front of my son's experience. It never occurred to her that she gave her children a happy childhood, but she got her son's inferiority after entering school. Make your son an misfit at school. Since then, children's self-confidence has been completely crushed, and they often fall behind in later studies and classroom activities, becoming a bit transparent. Personality is very different from the day before school!

I was shocked for a long time after hearing her story. In recent decades, China's economy has developed rapidly. Social changes are extremely rapid. After 2000, education has gradually developed to a higher, better and more comprehensive level.

In the eighties and nineties, as long as you had one specialty, it was the first in the whole school and attracted much attention. But nowadays, having a skill seems to have become the basic element of ordinary urban students. Even if parents can calm down. But the children in his group will be the ones left behind. When this generation of children grow up, they feel that every child around them is learning such hobbies. This is the normal life of children! Because everyone does. When something becomes a group behavior, it is difficult for each individual to resist this collective evolution.

Just like the parents of my children's kindergarten classmates, a second-born mother. The family is financially strong, and there is a nanny to help with the children. The boss is about to graduate from college. When the second child went to kindergarten, he was very at ease and happy. But after the second child went to school, she couldn't help complaining to us.

I didn't expect it to be more than ten years ago. How did going to school become so hard? According to her memory, when the boss went to school, he didn't have to worry about it at all. It was in the first grade that I dictated new words for a few days, and then the children learned to walk by themselves. So do the parents around. They go to cram school for one year at most in high school, and the boss is admitted to a good university.

But for the second child here, I didn't buy a school district when I was a child, and the corresponding primary school was cancelled, so I didn't even go to school. I took my second son to four private schools, only to know that people had to interview and write a written test. The second son didn't learn anything and didn't pass the exam. Finally, he allocated a primary school entrance to the advanced tax payer in her husband's company.

After school, I punch in every day and do all kinds of tabloids. I even have to do PPT and mind mapping! Check homework every day. Overwhelmed every day, I aged a lot in an instant. Later, children also faced the problem of lacking many learning opportunities and being unable to integrate into the group. So I enrolled my children in calligraphy classes and art classes, and I ran around between classes every day, exhausted. After a school year, homework can no longer be tutored. One-on-one tutors were invited on weekends to study for a week. She said that if I had known there was a child like this now, I wouldn't have died!

People's ideas can't keep up with the changes of the times, and today's education has undergone earth-shaking changes compared with ten years ago. The influence of knowledge explosion has spread to all fields of education. Under the limited screening mechanism of higher education, chickens used to be better. Now the chicken baby is to let the baby grow up all the time and not sink. Many parents found that involution was so serious after being in it, and finally everyone could not escape the fate of assimilation!

Not selling anxiety, but anxiety itself is there. Do you feel that it has no effect on the result? Under the epidemic situation, many human resources that could have been exported from abroad returned to China, which further aggravated the severe employment situation, the sinking of knowledge and the depreciation of academic qualifications.

Faced with the cruel employment reality, parents have to plan ahead and take their children to fight hard.

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