The idiom "Ziyijiao" comes from Mencius and Li Lou. In ancient China, there was a practice of "Ziyi Education". The so-called "teaching", here "Yi" means "exchange". In other words, you educated my children and I educated your children.
Mencius, an ancient educator, once talked about this problem in his book Mencius.
Sun Chou, a student of Mencius, was puzzled when he heard that China used to exchange his son for education. Then he asked the teacher why Mencius "changed his son to teach".
Mencius said: "That's because parents ask their children to do the right thing, but they don't do it themselves. If the child can't do it, the parents lose their temper and reprimand the child, but the child says,' Why don't you do what you asked me to do?'
If children question their parents in this way, they will hurt their feelings with their parents and have opposing feelings with each other, so there is no way to educate them face to face. Therefore, we should exchange our children with others for education. "
From this point of view, it is a common drawback in family education that children don't do what parents ask them to do first. The ancients were very wise, so they "changed their minds and taught them." Although this is a last resort. But it can be regarded as an auxiliary means of family education, in order to make up for the shortage of family education.
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Teaching by changing children? It mainly emphasizes that the difference of acquired environment has different educational effects on children. Very consistent with the principles of modern pedagogy and psychology. Parents should educate their children not to do anything, not to blame others, not to spoil them, but to take love and companionship as the main line and set an example.
Many poor children, whose parents work hard every day, do not urge their children to study every day, but their children have great prospects. On the contrary, some wealthy families send their children to the best schools, and they often check and supervise their children's studies. On the contrary, children are tired of learning, and they will be full after a long time, which is meaningless all day long.
The difference between them is inaction and promising, as well as example and words and deeds.