What are the wrong ways of education?
1, corporal punishment education
Corporal punishment of children seems to be an indispensable way for parents to educate their children in every country. Such as common spanking, beating, kneeling, flogging and so on.
Especially grumpy parents, it is difficult to control their emotions and make sense calmly whenever their children make mistakes. But first scold, first vent your anger. This rude way of education will not only make children truly aware of their mistakes, but also cause physical harm, psychological shadow and personality defects to children.
A survey shows that children who have been physically punished by their parents are more likely to be impulsive and hit people when they encounter problems and contradictions in the process of getting along with their children.
2. Pure learning education
The biggest mistake made by China's parents is clinging to their children's academic achievements. Most parents pay too much attention to their children's learning and ignore their own interests and physical and mental development. Parents stubbornly believe that only by studying hard can they become excellent children.
This kind of parents habitually stifle children's interest in daily life. As we all know, what modern society needs is not learning machines, but creative, physically and mentally sound and all-round talents. If children really can't learn, parents may wish to "save the country by curve", vigorously cultivate their children's interest and give timely encouragement and help, which may also become their future livelihood skills.
3. Overprotective education
Compared with liberal education abroad, parents in China always care too much about their children. They have wanted to do everything for their children since childhood. Most parents don't understand why they have to go to great lengths to raise a rebellious and old-fashioned child. In fact, when children habitually grow up under the protection of their parents' wings, most of them are helpless. When they are dissatisfied with the status quo, they can only transfer their anger and incompetence to their parents. Children who are arranged to grow up lack independent opinions and always choose extremely irrational ways to avoid problems.
4. Burning money education
Nowadays, in order to improve their children's academic performance, parents turn education into a "money-burning game" under the influence of comparison psychology and vanity. At the same time, they deprived their children of their freedom and happiness. Under the impatient utilitarian heart of parents, children often have pressure.
In order not to let their children lose at the starting line, most parents spend a lot of money on education. Their children had to run in a hurry because of their anxiety. This kind of "encouraging children to run", which violates the laws of education, will only make children feel economic pressure and make them breathless in their high-paced study and life.
5. laissez-faire education
Because some parents are busy at work, they rarely ask about their children's study, life, personality and so on. They let it go, always thinking that their children will be sensible when they grow up. I don't know that this will only educate a child who is irresponsible, irresponsible, sensitive and unloving.
6. Affect education
The purpose of percussion education is to make children become better after stress, but there are also many hidden dangers. This kind of education brings children psychological trauma that is difficult to heal, such as inferiority, insecurity, self-doubt, self-denial, and extreme desire to be affirmed.
7. spoil education
This kind of education seems to love children, but in fact it will destroy them. The shielding and connivance of parents will only make children more and more lawless, develop selfish and self-centered nature, and be arrogant and willful and lack independence under the excessive connivance of parents.
If you adopt the above methods in the process of educating your children, the sooner you correct them, the less harm you will do to your children. What is the correct way of education?
What is the best way of education?
What we often hear may be democratic education. In fact, when it comes to education methods, "contract education" can be adopted.
This kind of education advocates that parents respect their children as an independent living body. Only by establishing a cooperative "contractual" relationship with children can we understand each other's rights and obligations and finally achieve a win-win goal.
In fact, the process of children's growth is the process of parents and children overcoming and solving problems together, but the contradiction between parents and children can't be solved, and they often fall into a power struggle. Parents' self-righteous concern may be a kind of injury, which makes children feel suffocated, while contract education is to strengthen mutual understanding and empathy between parents and children, and to establish a norm and constraint in family relations on the premise of freedom, equality, tolerance and understanding.