Teaching children repeatedly means never repenting. Is the same method so useful to others that it doesn't work for your own children?
Is it necessary to make children smart in a strong way? "How many times have you thought about this matter? Why not leave it as it is? " You often ask, "Have you finished your homework?" This problem? ? Shaping children is a happy and distressing thing. Some children were smart when they were young, but now they are becoming more and more disobedient, which makes many parents feel very headache. Sometimes, he even pouts at his parents, does things that deliberately make them angry, and opposes them everywhere. What was supposed to be good for him will also make him and his parents sing against each other.
For example, children are so slow that what they can do in the morning has to be put off until the evening. Every night after 10, children either can't finish their homework and watch their mobile phones while doing it. The parents who watched were very angry, so they reprimanded their children for "Don't fall asleep if you can't finish your homework". In fact, parents want their children to work quickly, but they will feel bored and even lose their temper and stop writing at once.
For another example, parents come out to work in the morning and let their children clean the environment at home. At this time, the children did not respond. Parents thought that their children would clean up, and when they came home at night, they saw that the sanitation was not cleaned. Children lying on the sofa watching mobile phones produce a lot of waste. Parents become upset and scold or even scold their children. Let the children do the daily work he tells them. Many children will be frightened by their parents' mentality and become more unwilling to do what their parents say, which will lead to bad influence.
When the child is disobedient, everyone should understand that scolding the child can't solve the difficulties at all, it will only make your parent-child communication more lacking, and make the child resist or even be afraid of you. When a child is beaten, it seems that he becomes smart, but in his heart, he hates you to some extent. For a long time, the problem has not been properly handled. Often scolding children will cast a shadow on their emotions and make them more rebellious, leading to more obvious mistakes in the future.
How should everyone guide and educate their children properly and correctly? 1. Communicate with children more to prevent blaming them.
When children are disobedient, we can't blame them when they go up, which will make things worse and lead them to be more and more disobedient. Everyone should communicate with children, control their temper, grasp the reasons inside, let children tell their true feelings, and guide them appropriately and correctly, so as to effectively deal with and solve difficult problems.
Step 2 reflect on yourself
When we ask our children to do something, we must first think about whether we can do it or whether our wrong behavior has hurt them, such as stipulating that children can not watch TV dramas or go home to do homework. Suppose everyone is still lying on the sofa watching TV series or watching mobile phones, so that children will feel unreasonable. Why can you watch TV plays and I can't? You still have to do your homework, which will make children have negative emotions, which will lead to children becoming disobedient.
3. stipulate children in another way
When we ask our children to do something, whether to adopt the tone of "command" will make them feel uncomfortable, which will lead to conflict and disobedience. At this time, you can change your tone and gently ask your child to do something and encourage your child to do something, so that you can prevent the above situation from happening.