"Personality education is the most important thing for children. No one can stand shaking their heads and applauding! "
-Ju Ping's sister's fertility wand
1, this "cruel" spell, put an end to bullying.
199365438+1October 22nd, New Year's Eve, which is a "special" day that Ju Ping will never forget. That day, near noon, her son came into this world with a loud cry. She knew that another part of her life had begun.
Ju Ping discussed with her husband and named his son Yiyao Jiang, hoping that he could fly to the distant future with wings as his parents hoped. The birth of Xiao Yao has brought a lot of new fun to Ju Ping. Ju Ping recorded his growth "footprint" from his son's full moon. In Ju Ping's wallet, on his desk and in his office, there are lovely photos of Xiaoyao everywhere. No matter how busy he is at work and unhappy he is in life, Ju Ping will feel warm and gentle immediately as long as he keeps his eyes fixed on the photo of his baby son.
From jigsaw puzzle to windmill, Ju Ping has been doing children's programs on TV. Because of professional reasons, Ju Ping always thought she knew children very well, but after having her own children, she found that being "Sister Ju Ping" was different from being a mother, and everything had to start from scratch. Winglets are naturally extremely active. When they were young, they were in poor health, so it was difficult to take care of them. Ju Ping is busy watching TV every day and often can't rest at home on weekends. Finally, when her son was half a year old, she "cruelly" sent little wings to her grandmother's house for her mother to take care of.
But it didn't take long for Ju Ping to find that his mother was too "used" to this little grandson. She was worried that Yi Yao would become a "bully" and talked to her mother several times, but the old man still couldn't bear to refuse the child's request and did everything according to the child's words. After careful consideration, Ju Ping finally took his son back and hired a nanny for him. In her opinion, being moderate and strict with children is conducive to his healthy growth, and some bad habits will be difficult to change when he grows up. Under the careful care of Ju Ping, my son grew up healthily and happily. Yi Yao was called a "villain" by his neighbors when he was very young, because he was very clever. Every time someone comes to his house, the little guy is always very enthusiastic and offers his seat to pour tea. His "uncle" and "aunt" have been calling, which is particularly pleasing.
On one occasion, several TV photographers went to Juping's house to make a movie. When they left, Xiao Yiyao, who had not yet gone to school, held his hand and said to them, "Uncle, take care and come here often!" " Everyone was surprised and praised the little guy for being not simple. He will have a future when he grows up. This incident made Ju Ping proud in the company for a long time.
2, "praise" mantra, cultivate children's benign cognition.
Many parents in China believe that too much praise will make their children proud, and only by constantly pointing out their shortcomings is the most effective way to teach their children to become talents. Ju Ping, on the other hand, thinks that learning to praise children appropriately is more conducive to their growth. When Yao Gang learned to speak, Ju Ping found that as long as the family happily said that our Xiaoyao was great, the little guy would dance and talk nonstop, and some new words often popped up in his mouth. She said to her husband half jokingly, "It seems that everyone wants to hear something nice. Children also eat this set! "
However, how to praise children is an art. To this end, Ju Ping specially browsed some well-known educational websites on the Internet to learn the teaching methods of advanced families at home and abroad. But Ju Ping has her own way. At home, she always says to her son, "Well, you did a good job. But if I were you, I would do better. " Then explain the reason to the child. Ju Ping said that as parents, we must build real trust in our children and let them think that "I am the best, I am doing the best!" Most children like their parents to look at themselves with appreciation.
After Yi Yao went to school, Ju Ping found that he had strong hands-on ability, but some of them were not good at expressing and their understanding ability was worse than that of children of the same age. Ju Ping used various opportunities in daily life to guide his reaction, and whenever he had time, he emphasized the difference between "immediately" and "instantly". Because there is a "star mother", she is usually loved by adults. When she first arrived at school, she was quite a "little master". When the teacher criticized him, his mouth became warped, and his face was full of tears. Ju Ping was very angry when he found out, but he didn't want to "severely punish" his unreasonable son. Boys' rebellious mentality is very heavy, and if they are not handled correctly, they will become more naughty.
On that day, Ju Ping picked up his son from school and took him to Xidan, a store specializing in selling children's products, and asked Yiyao to choose a Transformers he had long wanted. Then Ju Ping asked him, "Why don't you choose something else?" Yiyao thought for a moment and told her mother, "Because everyone likes it." Ju Ping smiled: "Yes, everyone likes it, because it is smart and brave, and it never makes people angry, right?" Wing away or nodded. Juping encouraged her son to say, "Is Yi Yao such a person? Mom knows that Yi Yao is the smartest and most capable child, so why should she make the teacher angry? " Wing Yao's face turned red at once, and her hands playing with Transformers began to become unnatural.
Ju Ping also pays special attention to children's psychological growth. Xiao Yao once told his mother directly that he didn't like her being too serious. Therefore, Juping is very gentle with her son at ordinary times. She often implies to her son what she wants to express. Although this requires children to think and understand for themselves, they are respected by their parents, and they are naturally willing and able to do it.
Xiao Yiyao's grades in school are not very good, below average, and a little partial. However, his academic performance does not affect him to become the "king of the children" in his class. He said with a smile, this has nothing to do with his star mother. "I am more famous at school than' Sister Ju Ping'."
As long as time permits, Ju Ping will let his son take his classmates and friends home to play, or he can rest assured that he will go to his classmates' home to play. Juping also often takes Yongyao to visit colleagues and friends' houses, especially to cultivate children's ability to treat people and people. This not only exercises the children's ability to communicate and cooperate with others, but also makes the son a veritable "* * *" in the class. He can freely play the role of "little leader" in any activity organized by his class.
Speaking of his son Yongyao, Ju Ping said with a smile that they are more like "good buddies". However, although Ju Ping does not interfere with children's "freedom" at ordinary times, he is also very strict with his son, that is, he must be self-reliant and develop a frugal style from an early age. Yiyao likes sweets very much since she was a child. When he goes to McDonald's to eat ice cream, he always throws the cone outside. Ju Ping said: "Since you can't finish eating, you can't buy this anymore!" Wing Yao didn't take it to heart at that time, and Ju Ping didn't say anything. As a result, a week later, when he wanted to buy ice cream again, Ju Ping just didn't agree, and it was useless to move his father out. Juping winked at her husband and solemnly said to her son, "Yi Yao, you made a mistake, so you have to do one more thing to offset it." As a result, Xiao Yao cleaned the kitchen for half a month before regaining the right to eat ice cream. From then on, he took every word of his parents to heart, because he knew they kept their word.
3, the "self-confidence" spell, let the child feel that you are proud of him.
Every parent wants to have a successful child. Why doesn't Ju Ping want his children to get ahead in the future? But the reality is that not all children grow up to be celebrities and big shots. But Xiao Yao didn't attend any training classes since he was a child. He studied piano and foreign languages, because Juping felt that it was useless to hire a good teacher if he was not interested.
Yi Yao originally had a particularly "hopeless" ideal-the teacher asked the students what they wanted to be when they grew up. Everyone's answer is to be a mayor or a rich man, or a scientist or a star, but Yi Yao said he wanted to be a driver in the future. Everyone was very happy after listening, but he didn't know what was wrong with him. After returning home, he told his mother about his confusion. Ju Ping was very happy when he heard his son's "ideal". She told her son, "With so many students in a class, how many great scientists and writers can there be? What you want to do is not the best, but it is the most practical and best. "
Ju Ping always told his son that whatever you want to do, as long as you think it is right and won't hurt others, just do it, as long as you can do it well.
After entering junior high school, Yi Yao's personality became particularly docile, and he was very enthusiastic about his classmates and friends. In life, Yi Yao can take care of herself. Ju Ping and her husband must get up early in the morning. Wing Yao is also used to getting up by himself, heating breakfast by himself, taking a shower and sleeping at night without parents reminding him.
Yiyao has always been my mother's most loyal audience. One year, CCTV held a publicity and planning activity with the theme of "Children's Channel Entering My Home, Shaping the Future and Growing Together". With the encouragement of her mother, Yi Yao also took part in this activity. On the live broadcast, Ju Ping saw his son calm and confident in front of hundreds of millions of audiences all over the country, and he was so happy that he left tears of excitement.
On one occasion, Ju Ping told Yi Yao frankly that you are the pride of your mother, son! Although Wing Yao didn't say anything at that time, Ju Ping could see that his son was particularly moved at that time. During that time, my son seemed energetic in everything he did every day. Before, Yi Yao didn't like his mother kissing his face. He thinks it's just for girls. It's disgusting. But a few days later, when I went to school in the morning, Yao Ji suddenly took the initiative to kiss Ju Ping on the face and said, "Mom, I really like you!" At that moment, Ju Ping felt that he was the happiest person in the world.
Children from celebrity families are almost always "ignored" by their parents from time to time. Especially during the Spring Festival, Yi Yao's birthday is exactly New Year's Eve according to the lunar calendar, but under normal circumstances, her mother can't accompany her for holidays and birthdays. However, Yi Yao did not complain. Whenever he misses his mother, he will turn on the TV and watch her program. The voice and smile of "Sister Ju Ping" came out of the screen and was fixed in his mind.
Ju Ping once said that she only gave her son life, but he gave her the whole happy world. How can this deep affection between mother and child not make people admire and move!