Parents forget the original purpose of punishment-to educate their children, help them grow up and help them realize their mistakes and correct them in time, instead of hurting them, embarrassing them, smashing them into pieces or even dying under a stick. Parents have completely forgotten their children's endurance and dignity, and forgot their respect and love for their children when implementing stick education.
Stick family education is not education but violence. Many people may think that stick education will inspire children, but this is not the case. Parents beating their children will cause physical and mental trauma to them, and make them feel psychological pressure when they encounter difficulties, leading to poor performance and cognitive difficulties.
It can be said that parents' severe punitive parenting style often leads to children's behaviors such as timidity, cowardice, retreat and inferiority, and even causes children's psychological obstacles and psychological obstacles under certain conditions. Parents' severe punishment will often make children form rude, barbaric, hostile, arrogant, lying and other bad personality characteristics, which will seriously affect their mental health.
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The correct way to educate children
1. Learn more about children and negotiate with them.
While parents are busy making a living, they should also take time to learn more about their children, communicate with their children and their teachers, and try their best to fully grasp their children's performance in school and family. The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he will know more about how to guide the child.
Don't always ask children to live according to the wishes of adults, so not only children are suffering, but even adults are suffering. Children are human beings, and of course they have their own things to do. Therefore, it may be a good idea to negotiate with your child and take a step back.
2. Listen to your children patiently
If parents are impatient and aggressive, the most direct reaction to children who don't listen to discipline is usually swearing or beating. At this point, parents are advised to calm down, try to be patient and ask their children what the reason is. When parents' minds have been focused on understanding their children's thoughts and trying to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable and release a lot of negative emotions.
3. Don't teach children when you are angry.
In a state of extreme anger, parents certainly can't discipline their children in a rational way. Therefore, when parents can't calm down anyway, they are advised to leave the scene temporarily or divert their attention to other things, such as chatting with friends and listening to music. When you calm down, talk to your children.
4. Revise expectations for children.
Sometimes parents are really too eager for success and often set standards for their children that they can't do. Maybe parents think they can do it, but in fact they have never done it! You know, it is normal for children to be young, active, stubborn and forgetful.
If parents really want to make demands on their children, they should also consider their growth. Don't always look at their performance with a magnifying glass.