Montessori once found that children's brain development and personality formation are 60% completed when they are 3 years old, and 80% have been completed when they are 3-6 years old. So it can be seen that the child's brain has basically taken shape around the age of 6. With the growth of age, children's IQ and personality will become more and more difficult to shape.
Children aged 3-6 will go through complicated changes, from being stubborn and rebellious at the age of 6 to being alone at the age of 7, when they basically have their own moral values and norms. Therefore, in order to make children become excellent, parents must start training in the golden age of 3-6 years old.
When children are 3-6 years old, parents should focus on cultivating these three abilities, which are more important than grades.
1. Expand children's exploration ability
Einstein once said, "exploration is far more valuable than having truth."
Because through exploration, children can find interest and desire in learning, and through exploration, they can gain valuable life experience. It can also improve cognitive ability.
And you will find that many smart people have one thing in common, that is, they all love to explore, all kinds of ideas will pop up in their minds, and they will take action to find the truth. This is why there are inventors and scientists above average.
If parents guide children to fully expand their exploration ability, you will find that children will be more focused and better at thinking than their peers. To cultivate children's exploration ability, parents must first stop it. When children are interested in something, don't interrupt them for external reasons, such as children learning to eat, so cleaning dirty clothes is the first step.
Secondly, parents can also accompany their children to do exploratory scientific experiments, such as why oil can float on the water and why static electricity is generated when balloons rub hair. Let children operate by themselves through interesting experiments and feel the charm of science, which can stimulate children's desire to explore.
2. The cultivation of adversity quotient's thinking
Adversity quotient's thinking refers to a person's attitude and practice in the face of setbacks, and also tests a person's comprehensive ability and ability to deal with emergencies.
Expert Dr. Stoz once studied: "The higher a person's adversity quotient, the more calm he is in the face of setbacks and adversity, and he can face and solve challenges positively and optimistically, and his life experience is also precious."
On the contrary, children with low adversity quotient often cannot stand the polishing of adversity. In the face of unexpected situations, the mentality is easy to collapse, and it is easy to give up halfway and accomplish nothing.
The neighbor's 8-year-old child once fell while playing in the park, and his hands and knees were broken and bleeding, and everyone around him followed suit. But unexpectedly, the child didn't cry, but stood up and walked to his mother, saying that he had to deal with the wound. Everyone around me was shocked. The first time I saw my child injured, I didn't cry at all, but calmly handled the wound.
It turns out that all this comes from the ordinary mother's exercise of children's adversity, which will let children handle simple things alone, and parents only give advice rather than help. It will also exercise children's hands-on ability, and children will participate in simple dressing and housework. That's why children are so strong and solve problems so quickly.
Parents should cultivate their children's ability to resist setbacks and independence as soon as possible. Children at this stage are most sensitive to stories and pictures, which is very suitable for picture book education. My child is reading "Frustration Education", a set of 6-volume picture books, and uses short stories close to children's lives to integrate difficult truths into the stories.
"One Man's Champion" makes children understand how to face failure; The wronged Orca let the children know how to face rejection.
Parents don't need to preach the truth repeatedly, and children are easy to understand.
3. Establish scientific thinking
Scientific thinking, also known as scientific logic, can use a rational and rigorous attitude in understanding things and thinking about problems. Scientific thinking is an important "hardware" for learning and scientific research, and it is also an indispensable way of thinking for testing truth. Therefore, scientific thinking is also very important to cultivate good children.
This kind of thinking is creative and active. In today's society, talents with adaptability and flexibility are needed. Therefore, children with this kind of thinking will definitely get ahead in the future.
Gao Shiqi once said: "The science of cultivating talents is the science of thinking."
Scientific thinking is not innate, but needs to be cultivated. Therefore, parents can cultivate their children's scientific thinking through some methods, such as reading some children's books about scientific development, in which children can learn rigorous thinking logic, increase reading and expand their knowledge.
Another way is to expose children to nature. For example, watching documentaries can help children understand the mysteries of nature and the universe, educate children to look at problems with scientific thinking, and enhance their interest in science and scientific literacy.