Family education: how to guide grandparents' parents to raise and educate their children
Of course, some parents still work in this town, but most of the units are private enterprises. After working overtime for three shifts, they still have no time to take care of the children. The busy work of parents makes the task of taking care of children's daily life fall on grandparents. According to a preliminary investigation, about 75% of children in our garden are taken care of by their grandparents' parents in their daily lives, but there are many bad tendencies in their attitude towards children's upbringing: for example, in education, they think that kindergartens are places for children to play and that children are "little adults" who don't know anything, but they will understand when they are older. In terms of parenting, most grandparents love their children very much, and the so-called "separation of relatives" is more serious. Children's eating and drinking Lazarus are arranged to meet their unreasonable demands. "Feeding", "undressing" and "taking children to and from the garden" deprive children of the opportunity to serve themselves and others. Grandparents' old parenting ideas and incorrect parenting attitudes affect the healthy growth of children and the smooth development of teachers' parenting work. Colleagues often complain that picking up children from school is like grabbing children, dragging them away, never communicating with us about their children at home in the park, especially the children who have just entered the park have not communicated with us in time, and many jobs that require parents' cooperation are often delayed, children's language expression is not smooth, behavioral habits are difficult to develop, subject data collection is not in place, learning interests are narrow, and living habits are poor. The implementation of the new curriculum puts forward higher requirements for parents' work: the cultivation of children's good behavior habits; Interest in sports, the formation of qualities such as courage, self-confidence and courage; Interest in learning, awareness of exploration, accumulation of information and experience, etc. Parents' understanding, support and cooperation are needed in exploratory themes. Only the joint efforts of all families can ensure the effective implementation of the new curriculum. Parents' attention and understanding of early childhood education is mainly reflected in parents' attitude towards children's upbringing. It is difficult to improve the quality of preschool education in our garden by unilateral efforts. Without the cooperation of family education, the new curriculum can not be fully rolled out, and our education work has fallen into a situation of getting twice the result with half the effort. This forces us to transfer the object of family education from the parents of children to the grandparents of children, and to guide the parents of rural ancestors to establish a correct attitude towards parenting has become an urgent task in our kindergarten parents' work. Improving the parenting quality of grandparents of rural children has gradually become a common social problem. In order to correct the unreasonable and unscientific parenting attitude of grandparents and guide them to establish a correct and scientific parenting attitude to promote the healthy and harmonious development of children, combined with the actual situation of our park, I think we should start from the following aspects: 1 Hold a parent-teacher meeting to let parents know that kindergarten is the first time for most children to leave their grandparents and enter collective life. During this period, many children will feel nervous because of the departure of their main caregivers, which is their temporary inadaptability to their new life. Moderate separation anxiety is normal. However, excessive long-term maladjustment will interfere with children's normal psychological and physiological functions and seriously affect their life in the park. In order to make children adapt to the new environment faster and better, and also for parents to cooperate with teachers to educate their children well. Before the freshmen enter the park, we hold a parent-teacher meeting to tell their grandparents about some daily management and work systems of our kindergarten and the daily life of their children in the park, so that parents of children who enter the park for the first time can have a general understanding of their children's activities in the park. Second, through home visits, give individual guidance to parents. When using this method, our teachers should not only pay attention to the modesty of words and sincerity of attitude, but also be enlightening. From the perspective of grandparents, it is not very safe to let others (kindergarten teachers) educate and take care of their grandchildren. Now the children at home are all little emperors and princesses, and they are really afraid to freeze in their hands and melt in their mouths, and almost everything will follow their children. After being sent to kindergarten, I am worried that the teacher will not accommodate my grandchildren like them, and I am afraid that my children will be wronged. So I often come to see the children from time to time, and sometimes I go directly to the classroom to see the children whether I am in class or not. This brings inconvenience to the daily work of kindergartens. In this case, I used the pick-up time to communicate with the children in kindergarten: for example, your children had a good meal today, answered questions actively in class, and undressed themselves while sleeping ... so that my grandparents were very satisfied with my work and were willing to give me some feedback from their children at home. Of course, for the children who didn't behave well that day, I also reminded them when my grandparents picked them up, so that my grandparents felt the teacher's concern and care for the baby, and ordinary parents would be happy to help the teacher educate their children together, which not only won the trust of parents, but also improved their children. So I think the premise of mutual trust is more communication. When grandparents believe that teachers can care about the next generation as much as they do, or even be more rational and correct than them, they will subtly change their favorite education methods. Give individual guidance according to individual special family circumstances. For example, there is a child in this class whose grandfather dotes on his grandson. Every morning at ten o'clock, he will deliver milk to the children on time. We have reminded him several times, but to no avail. Old people are always a reason. Children's lack of nutrition will affect their physical and intellectual development. To this end, I made a special home visit: mainly to communicate with the child's grandfather in this situation. First, I specially brought him the meal table of our garden for a week, and explained to him that the meal table made by our garden has scientific basis. Our kindergartens are equipped with health care teachers, who will scientifically prepare a meal for children according to the growth needs of children of different ages and levels. Can fully meet the nutrition your child needs for a day, your actions will unconsciously cultivate your child's sense of superiority and inadvertently open the distance between your child and other children; Can you find another time (such as after school) to give the children milk, because there is still some time before dinner time, so add a glass of milk. Third, give lectures regularly, reflecting the role of grandparents' family committees as a bridge. Family education is also an important part of preschool education. In view of some misunderstandings about grandparents' family education, we regularly hold some lectures on modern education knowledge and introduce some educational cases and books and magazines to the elderly, so as to enrich their family knowledge and change their family education concepts, thus forming a consistent education in the family, improving the quality of family education, providing learning opportunities for children's grandparents and broadening their horizons. Through lectures and publicity, guide the parents of grandparents, and try to use children's songs, rewards, games and other methods to let children master some common sense of life. For example, when wearing shoes, you can sing: a pair of baby shoes, two good friends, find the curved edge of the sole, and two friends touch it; Remember the outside of the buckle; Wear it backwards, and the baby shoes will get angry! Let children learn while singing and increase their interest in learning. Similarly, in terms of safety, children can learn some common sense of safety through nursery rhymes: there is a fire at home, and I can't put it out. What should I do? Don't worry, baby. Call 1 19, and uncle will help you. Throw things and make a scene, beg neighbors! There are many similar children's songs, and our teacher can help parents prepare them. For example, you can wear your own clothes and make your own bed every day. You can give him a small gift every day, or insert a small red flag every day. When you insert a few or ten faces, you can reward him with some small gifts, so that he can form and consolidate the habit permanently. For some things that children are not interested in, we can try to stimulate their interest with interactive games. For example, children have the habit of littering things at home, so that they can't find them when they want to use them next time, and they will lose their temper. Parents can play hide-and-seek games with their children and hide things for them to find, so that children can have a deep impression on the place where they put things, so that they can find them quickly when they want to use them next time. Secondly, according to the situation that there are many grandparents in our garden, we set up a grandparents' committee, and use the role of the grandparents' committee to understand the problems and difficulties existing in the process of raising grandparents, and determine the guiding focus according to the needs of the elderly. Some grandparents are more experienced and scientific in parenting. We can use these resources to invite them to explain, share their experiences to guide other grandparents, give them a platform to communicate with each other, and let more grandparents know how to raise and educate the next generation correctly. Fourth, make use of all media to achieve family synchronization. Family contact window is a window for all classes to publicize scientific parenting knowledge to parents, and it is a grassland that parents are very concerned about. This is also a good place for experiment, guidance, communication and feedback. Secondly, for some common problems that grandparents need to know or understand, we make full use of the parents' garden and open up a "teach you a trick" to introduce simple and easy methods for grandparents and cultivate children's self-care ability; There is also a "parental contribution". Parents can introduce how they cultivate their children's self-care ability at home, and they can also express their different views on other people's practices and views. Family contact book is also a simple and effective form to realize family contact at present. Parents of grandparents can often learn about their children's progress and problems from the contact book and the specific requirements of kindergartens for supporting education for their families; Teachers can get the feedback information of kindergarten education effect from the contact book, understand the children's performance at home, and understand the opinions and demands of grandparents.