The success of life is inseparable from luck, likability and liking others. Everyone here thinks he is a master. Stop pretending, pretend to be tired, tear off your face and step on it with your own feet.
Life is a business process. The saddest thing in life is not that you have accomplished nothing in this life, but that you have not even found the way to success. As long as the direction is right, you don't care how far the road is.
What life wants is mainly the four dimensions of management. 1. Self-management. 2. Husband and wife management. 3. Child management. 4. Business management.
I. Self-management
(1) Business health: 1. Have a healthy body (such as Jet Li, Fu Biao, Anita Mui, etc.). )
To have a healthy body, we should: (1). Develop good eating habits (mouth to mouth), eat well and drink well.
(2) Maintain good living habits, sleep well (it is the best health care product) and exercise well.
(3) Develop a positive and optimistic attitude (for example, hypertension and tumor have a great relationship with mentality and mental tension), and always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, because cancer is boring. 1). Change language inertia (don't complain, say, Oh, great ... think positively when you encounter unhappy things). 2). Change your body movements. For those who don't like it, pretend that you like it and pretend that you are happy.
(4). Introduce positive energy values, such as: children who don't like to tidy up their rooms have leadership temperament. If you don't get what you want, you will get better and your values will change. Correct values are not necessarily positive energy values.
(5.) Always be grateful: gratitude will bring happiness, gratitude to parents, gratitude to the other half, gratitude to those who have helped you, gratitude to those around you, and gratitude to those who have hurt you. Be grateful to the people who brought you here, and don't even care about the purpose of others, only care about your own purpose. Love should be expressed, and love should be said out loud.
(2) business thinking.
1) strategic thinking. 2) Causal thinking. 3). Closed thinking
Thinking mode is very important. 1. Strategic thinking, what is war, war is what you want to do, but you don't do anything, point A is now, point B is the future, where to go in the future, think carefully about point B, where is point B,
Point B has three major rhythms: 1. Social rhythm, what society needs, what it advocates, social attributes, grasping the situation and creating heroes in the current situation, otherwise it will not succeed if you try hard (for example, it is difficult to be a general in peacetime). Teachers often study the report of the 19th National Congress.
2. Industry rhythm, industry prospect in the next 30 years, and choose the right industry. The next five industries, A artificial intelligence (big data), B high technology, C medical health, D new finance, E necessities (clothing, transportation, housing, transportation, education, etc. ).
What you fear most is what you haven't accumulated. The industry is right, not afraid of small at first. In 5- 10 years, you must be an expert.
3. Self-paced, do what you are best at and like, mainly pleasure, and inner pleasure is the premise of success. In your life, you must find something you like, and you can learn from the sea without limit. The best education is self-education. If you are willing to learn, you are not afraid to learn badly. Happiness has nothing to do with wealth, you can find your own happiness.
2) Causal thinking, as you sow, so you reap. Growth is the cause, achievement is the result, and the circle is very important. What circle you are in may be the fruit of this circle. Know how to follow the trend before success, and know how to follow the trend after success. Complacency and pride will only make it go backwards. If people want to keep improving, the rest is king, as long as they live longer than their opponents,
As a leader, two important abilities are: leadership ability, speaking ability, and * * * You can make your hands do anything but talk.
3). Trading thinking: You are trading all the time in your life, either by a master or by a master. What I fear most in life is that I can't trade masters, and I don't want to be traded by masters. I have been entangled for a lifetime.
There are three big deals in life: 1. Choose the right partner (grow together) 2. Choose the right circle (make the right friends) and take the initiative. Choose the right coach (see who teaches you without effort) and find the most suitable person. Either study or cooperate. The requirements for a coach (people with good personality and achievements are willing to do it) are to have a noble person, to have a noble life, and to be a noble person (create value) first.
(3) Cultivation: Three realms of life: 1. Use your head! 2. Treat others sincerely, without calculating others, and treat others sincerely (sincerity is very important). 3. There is no self-realm (for example, Mr. Zhang Bin does not buy a house first, but builds a staff dormitory first), bringing more benefits to others, sharing more, and sharing more when standing on the stage.
Second, husband and wife management
A good marriage relationship is the best love for children.
what is love ? Love is understanding and understanding each other's needs.
Men's demand: 1. Be worshipped (not attacked). Women are gentle and don't speak ill of their husbands.
2. The partner is affectionate enough (be kind to her husband's parents, brothers and sisters). Women should treat them as vip customers.
Female demand: 1. A sense of security (the most desirable, material and spiritual) (this year is the worst year for the economy five years ago, and it may be the best year for the next five years).
2. Romance (flowers, movies)
If you are spoiled (don't reason with him), you will feel insecure if you make trouble without reason.
Common contradictions between husband and wife: 1. Sexual life is not harmonious. 2. Inconsistent values. How to keep values consistent: 1. Communicate more, communicate more. 2. grow together. Don't pursue perfection excessively (what you have is the best). 4. Without love, love is a verb.
Third, the management of children (Zhang Bin) (Parents are the most important in learning) My children are unique, so we should think that children are excellent. 1) Cultivate your children from the following six aspects.
1. Confidence. Without confidence, there is no future. Always give a thumbs up.
2. Cultivate children's leadership (share more with others, be willing to give up, don't eat alone, boys and girls should have money)
3. Let children experience, experience more, see more, and give ability. Giving experience is more important than giving wealth.
4. Cultivate children's decision-making power. Success has little to do with hard work and much to do with choice. Behind the choice is the decision. There is no right or wrong decision, only gains and losses. Indecision is the natural enemy of success. When children grow up,
Parents should do two things: 1. Let children enter a circle with a future and a global vision.
2. Worship a fruitful and intelligent coach.
3. Cultivate children's ability to withstand stress (suffering)
4. Cultivate children's gratitude. Gratitude will bring happiness. It is better to teach by example than by example.
5. Cultivate children's eloquence and communication skills.
2) Empowering children to grow (Du) Choice, persistence, commitment and adversity quotient.
Choice: children should have their own opinions and have little control over them. The older the parents are, the more blisters they have, and the more anxious their children will be. Parents should let their children choose more and experience more, so that their children can grow up.
Growth is not just learning. More is experience, and experience is the best way to learn and grow.
Persistence: for example, the story of greeting the teacher, although the teacher did not respond, as long as it is considered right, we must stick to it.
Bear.
Adversity quotient: health is the most important. Take part in sports.
Don't compare your children with other children, just compare today with tomorrow.
Compared to what? Ratio: knowledge, learning ability, knowledge reserve. Vision: Only by looking at the world can we have a world view. The body will.
Three forms of education. Examination-oriented education, the bottom of society, tools, a job.
Quality education, middle class, handicraft industry, become excellent and let others choose.
Elite education, top society, works of art, choosing others and changing the world, elite education begins with example education, and setting an example is the only way for leaders and parents. Characteristics of elite: sense of social responsibility, sense of ownership, ability to solve problems and wisdom. One person will go faster and a group of people will go further.
(Zhang Bin) Parents educate their children in three ways: 1. Person in charge+Zhihu Education, and the success rate is over 90%.
2. Responsible+uneducated, 10% success.
3. Irresponsibility+ignorance of education, more than 50%.
Common educational misunderstandings of parents: 1. Pay too much attention to grades, physical quotient, moral quotient, emotional quotient, IQ, financial quotient and transportation quotient.
2. If you don't love properly, let go. Parents are bows, children are arrows. Love all over the world is aggregated love. Only parents' love for their children is separated love. For example, Mr. Zhang asked his daughter to go to school by herself and prevented the driver from taking his son to the gym.
3. I like to label children. Our children are the result of our constant predictions, so our predictions for children and even for others should be good. Look at the advantages and enlarge the advantages (an ADHD child went to Tsinghua with his mother's encouragement).
3) Be a parent who understands children. 1. Make good use of scientific tools. 2. Learn to understand, listen to children's voices and treat children as independent people. 3. Learn to empathize and communicate, and manage your emotions. Children's future begins when parents discover their advantages and enlarge them.
Children's five fast horses: 1. Congenital trotters (parents), material and thinking, the gap between the rich and the poor is getting bigger and bigger. 2. Resource-based fast horses (circles). It's too important to be a partner (how to choose a boyfriend and girlfriend). 4. Self-trotters (children themselves) empower children, and we must grasp the key nodes of children's growth. 5. Intelligent fast horse (tutor), design experience.
Fourth, the management of the cause.
Career pain point: I don't know what to do? Go with the flow and go all out to do something you shouldn't do.
Six keys to career success: 1. Positioning (point b) 2. Talent (who will come with me) 3. Mechanism (system) 4. Culture (the most effective management system) 5. System (quantifiable, standard system).
(a) positioning, clear what to do, what not to do, war (do) slightly (don't do). Before starting your career, you must ask yourself two questions:
1. What is in line with the 30-year trend (Kodak Company)?
2. What can make you find a sense of sacredness (sense of achievement) and focus on doing something with a promising and sacred feeling all your life. Choose what you love and love what you choose, such as why Zhang Bin does quality education.
(2) calibration. Calibration. Point 1. B, what do you want to be in the future, and become a world-class in one step. 2. Find the benchmark, learn from it, and don't be eager for quick success. 3. Copy first and fill in what is missing.
(3) talent. Find like-minded, red and professional colleagues and employees. How high you can fly depends on your goal. How far you can go depends on who you travel with. If you don't have a will, there is nothing in the world. People should have ambition. Whether it is necessary or not is the most important thing. Same heart, same ambition, same comrades, same colleagues.
(4) mechanism. Good reward mechanism, good can make good people, win-win mechanism, multiplication mechanism, let employees see a car full of candy.
(5) culture. Culture is the most effective and powerful weapon of an organization. The work of (love culture) (nanny sleeping pills incident) is militarized: three styles: serious, fast and persistent commitment. I grew up in school, lived in a family and believed in religion.
(6) system. Create a simple, effective and easy-to-copy system. Two other important factors of career success: speaking ability and leadership ability (top-down, bottom-up).
Reasons for not speaking: 1. Timid (what are you afraid of, you can't die anyway)
I'm afraid of losing face (I love losing face, I've lost everything, so I'm only left with honor).
3. Poor skills: A successful speech has nothing to do with the level of cultural knowledge, but whether you are fully prepared and have a heart to achieve the audience.
Three realms of speech: 1. Dare to say 2. Can talk, be logical, and ponder every sentence. 3. Speak well.
Five keys to a speech: 1. I like giving speeches. 2. I like myself. I like my voice. 4. I like my movements. The actions of the speech are: cutting vegetables (small cutting, big cutting, one-handed cutting, two-handed cutting). Stir fry (stir fry, stir fry, stir fry with one hand, stir fry with both hands).
The only purpose of the speech is to help the audience.
How to introduce yourself: 1. Say hello. 2.thank you. 3. Introduce names (and celebrities). 4. Where are you from (places of interest) 5. What occupation (no advertisement, no mobile phone number, let others contact actively). 6. Last wishes.
Three cores of the speech: 1. Luo Ji, you can't talk nonsense. 2. Energy, if you don't talk, others can feel your aura. 3. The realm, mind and pattern should be big. Leadership: Focus on three key cores: 1. Set the strategy. 2. Build a team. 3. Grasp the implementation.
1. Make a strategy (what to do and what not to do) A good leader should be very clear about what I want to do and what not to do. Four questions entrepreneurs must ask: 1. The vision of starting a company (point B, goal) 2. Why should I achieve the mission of point B (give a reason for the goal). 3. How to get to point B (clear your behavior and path) 4. Values.
Two: the conditions for building a team and a core team are red, professional, like-minded and independent.
Three: grasp the implementation. 1. Establish mechanism, management mechanism and incentive mechanism. The management mechanism is to keep the good guys from becoming bad and the bad guys from becoming good, and the incentive mechanism is to make the good guys become better and let the bad guys see the hope of being good. Management mechanism: clear system, digitalization, reaching consensus, effective implementation, daring to fight and winning. Incentive mechanism: salary, dividend mechanism, equity mechanism, promotion mechanism (different positions and treatment). Honor mechanism: let good people get good news. Cultural mechanism: the commitment to culture, the promise to be fulfilled (the story of being a beggar and managing people's heads) must be said, done, paid for success, and done what you said to yourself. Systematic suggestion: establish a trust system, and people who know how to trust others will definitely have opportunities. You know: people who make others believe in you will have results. Know sincerity: don't lie to others, and always let those who believe in you surpass their value.
(Miss Juanzi): Parents should ask themselves: What can we give our children besides life? The goal of cultivating children: 1. Independent personality. 2. Adapt to the development of society. 3. The ability to pursue happiness. Children have no shortcomings, only characteristics. To establish his relationship with himself, others and society, understanding is more important than love. Four quotients: emotional intelligence: relationship with people. IQ: Learning ability. Adventure: Resistant to pressure and afraid of difficulties. Creativity: the ability to innovate, to cultivate, protect and maintain children's creativity. There is not too much protection for children, so that children have the right to try and make mistakes. Like is not equal to love, do what you like and are good at. Profession does not mean being good at it. Learning expertise is to cultivate your own personality, such as learning piano and swimming. Education for children is not to fill a bucket of water, but to light a fire. Ordinary parents change their children, and wise parents help them.
Career ending formula: thinking mode (-100-+ 100)x enthusiasm (0- 100)x ability (0- 100) must have positive thinking. Why are people so tired? The main thing is that I haven't found my place yet. You won't be tired if your heart and brain are consistent, and you won't be tired if your career and hobbies are integrated. You just need to do your own thing, do the right thing, have nothing to do with others, and find something that makes you comfortable. What education teaches you is not thread, but heart, a kind heart. Plant a bright seed and you will reap a bright future, Zhang Hongyuan (from public welfare)
What is life? -Chen Deyun. If I don't know what punishment life is for me. What is life like? What is a relationship? The quality of a relationship determines what is good or bad. Where does the relationship come from? Relationships come from connections. With connection, there is energy. Energy is love and wisdom. Connection is connecting with yourself, him and everything. Contact with parents, lovers and children. Roles and responsibilities. Stop at benevolence for the monarch, respect for the minister, filial piety for the son and kindness for the father. Paying for the people ends with faith. If you can be a few people, you can enjoy the blessings of several people.