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There used to be a question, "Do you have a bad impression on Ta because you smacked your lips while eating?" ? ",most people gave a positive answer. Some children like to knock on the bowl before the food is served, drink hot soup and blow it from all angles, pout loudly when eating, rummage through their favorite food on the plate, cry loudly and even throw the food on the table. ......................................................................................................................
I don't know when, many parents no longer emphasize the importance of table manners to their children, but only care about what their children like and don't like to eat, but many actions of "Xiong Haizi" really left a bad impression on others. Here are some typical examples:
During the holidays, I went out to play with my friends. At noon, everyone has a buffet on the sightseeing boat. There are many children in the restaurant, and it is noisy, so the whole person is not in the mood to eat at all. I noticed that these children were all grabbing the chicken wings on their plates. Children whose arms are too short to reach just stand on chairs. The parents next to them didn't blame them, but helped them with chicken wings and asked them what they liked to eat.
Another time, Sister Spicy had a dinner, and a large family sat at the next table. The children in that family want this and that when they eat, but they don't do it themselves, but wait for their parents to put it in the bowl. After dinner, the children looked at the table and played hide-and-seek from under our table.
The child's mother told another mother that her child studied well in all subjects, was tall and handsome, and was the standard-bearer in the class. She is going to let her children attend various interest classes. At this time, several guests were splashed with soup by her child, and the child's mother saw it but didn't blame the child. If this situation continues, will this child grow into a "three high people" with high salary, high achievement and high social status? Sister spicy, don't jump to conclusions yet. Let's look at another example:
I have a primary school classmate who got an offer from a big company soon after graduation. A week after joining the company, the company organized a dinner for employees, and a table for new colleagues and leaders. My friend is eager to show himself in front of the leader, talking loudly, foaming at the mouth, flying around, completely ignoring the feelings of others. He toasted the leaders one by one and was fired the next day. When he asked about the reason for dismissal, the leader only said two words: education!
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A person's table manners first reflect not his bad habits, but his parents' education and the overall quality of his family.
If adults' dinner is a social activity, then children have a little interpersonal communication when they eat with their classmates at school. No one wants to sit and eat with people who have no rules and manners. When visiting other people's homes, you need to pay more attention to table manners. On the other hand, more importantly, bad habits may also do harm to children's own health. For example, eating too fast can lead to indigestion; If you swallow too hot rice soup in a hurry, you may burn your esophagus. If you don't wash your hands before meals, your children will be harmed by bacteria. ...
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I have listed so many negative materials above, so let's talk about how to cultivate good table manners:
1. Eat and play
When the child is about three years old, we should guide him to sit and eat, not to play while eating. The family abides by the rules of the dining table together, such as paying attention to who hasn't sat down at the dining table, so that children can feel that eating is not just eating, but also a family exchange of emotions and a happy time together. Try to eliminate the factors that cause children to play when eating, and try to stagger the time of watching TV and eating. This also requires parents to set an example.
2. The problem of picky eaters
To some extent, children's picky eaters are a manifestation of the development of "self-awareness", indicating that children are beginning to learn to make their own decisions and want to choose food according to their own preferences. If children occasionally have an aversion or bad experience to a certain food because of physical reasons (discomfort or bad appetite), it may lead to rejection of a certain food. If parents indulge their children's diet too much, they will also develop the problem of picky eaters. Children's eating habits largely follow the family's eating habits, so when children are picky eaters, parents should think about whether they are picky eaters.
3. The problem of eating slowly
Some children are born with the character of "slow doctor", so parents don't have to rush; Chewing slowly is a good thing and helps children's health; If the child has no appetite, he will stop eating and divert his attention. What he doesn't like to eat is food.
The first two situations are not a problem. The food can't be cold, so you can fill it less. Pay attention to cooked food that children like and are easy to chew. In the third case, please refer to Article 2 to prevent children from being picky about food.
Table manners are closely related to a person's family education since childhood. Compared with simple preaching, it is more effective to set an example. Parents must set an example and tell their children what is good behavior and what is bad behavior.
Some parents often ask, how should a child's good upbringing be cultivated? In fact, there is no secret to teaching a well-educated child. It is hidden in such an unknown place as the dining table.