Example of successful education for senior high school students1;
_ _ Hao, male, 16 years old, sophomore, well-off in rural areas. Because I heard that my father was having an affair, my family was not harmonious, my parents often quarreled, and my family lacked warmth. This makes children lack fatherly love and maternal love, feel inferior and withdrawn, and their academic performance plummets, resulting in feelings of inferiority and weariness of learning. Through home visits and teachers who know the situation, Xiao Zhang's intelligence level is medium, but after entering school, his academic performance is not ideal. He failed physics in the mid-term exam in the first semester, and only got 50 points in the final exam. _ _ Hao is introverted and doesn't like to talk much. If a stranger comes into contact with him, he won't say a word. It's hard to know what the problem is in his mouth. He regards study as "hard work". He has a headache when he mentions looking at the blackboard and doing classroom exercises. He has a negative attitude towards learning. The teacher once talked to his parents, and his parents said, "such a child is useless, let him go!" "
analyse
The main reason why Hao feels inferior and tired of studying is undoubtedly the result of bad family factors. Parents are not harmonious, often quarrel, lack care for their children, and don't care about their studies. The influence of this family on children goes far beyond character defects. If the guidance is improper, it may seriously lead them to fall into a wrong path. The teacher has talked with Xiao Zhang many times. At first, he didn't say a word After many contacts, his eyes seemed to show some respect for the teacher. After an extracurricular activity, I looked good and took the initiative to chat with him. He told me quietly, "My parents often quarrel. When I get home, I sometimes want to sit down and do my homework. I feel bored listening to their quarrel. Sometimes my father drives me to my grandfather's house for dinner, and sometimes my mother drives me to my grandmother's house. How can I have the heart to study in this home? Neighbors around me often make fun of my' second mother'. " After careful analysis, I found that the main factors causing this psychological obstacle are: first, the poor family environment makes children lack care and make them lose confidence in learning. In his view, no matter how hard they work, it is difficult to complete their learning tasks and they are not affirmed by their parents. From the psychological point of view, this is a kind of inferiority in learning, which comes from psychological negative self-suggestion, and is a kind of conscious inferiority, shyness, withdrawal and even frustrating negative emotion. Therefore, there is a psychological barrier of inferiority and weariness of learning.
way
(1) Starting from changing the family environment, help Xiao Zhang's parents understand the responsibilities and obligations of educating their children, make them understand that creating a relaxed environment atmosphere is the basis for cultivating their children's good psychological quality, and ask parents to improve family relations and communicate with their children more psychologically. In particular, we should always understand their psychological state, meet their psychological needs, help them adjust their emotions in time, and let them eliminate bad psychological emotions such as tension, anxiety, depression and fatigue in a warm family atmosphere. After I communicated my thoughts with _ _ Hao's parents many times, their attitude towards their children gradually changed, and at the same time _ _ Hao's parents' feelings were repaired to some extent.
(2) Parents should educate and help their children to eliminate inferiority and weariness. Parents should have patience and confidence in family education. When educating children, parents should be patient in addition to good behavior and moral values. The gap between children's learning is not caused overnight. You can't catch up in a day, and the requirements for children should be gradually improved. We can't rush or jump to conclusions. First, have confidence. Parents should have full confidence in whether their children's learning ability can be improved after hard work. They should believe that children will make progress through education, help and their own efforts, encourage their confidence and courage, and make them feel "I can do it!" " . Second, try to let children experience the joy and success of learning and improvement. Children's progress, even if it is small, should be affirmed, praised and encouraged in time. If a child has lit a "red light" in a certain course in the past, this time through hard work, even if it is only 60 points, we should fully affirm the achievements of his efforts and rekindle the flame of children's self-confidence with affirmation and encouragement. After a period of unremitting encouragement, he didn't get good grades in an exam. After class, he took the initiative to find me and told me that he had found the reason for his low score this time, which convinced me that he would do well in the next exam. It can be seen from these that he has come out of the shadow of the past.
(3) Schools should form a joint force, strengthen the contact between home and school, guide children to communicate with parents more, report students' academic performance to parents through parent-teacher conferences, home-school visits and other forms, and at the same time learn about students' personality hobbies from parents, help parents correctly understand their children, determine appropriate expectations, and don't ask too much of their children or let themselves drift.
(4) Teachers should educate and guide Xiaozhuang to master self-regulation, eliminate bad emotions and raise enterprising sails. First of all, let him learn to know himself, face himself squarely, and let him understand that in the process of life growth, it is not smooth sailing, and the future social competition will be more intense. Success and setbacks will coexist. He must have enough ability and fearless spirit to face it, believe that he has the ability to do anything well, believe that he has the will to complete the task, constantly overcome and improve himself, and maintain a positive attitude.
(5) Teachers improve teaching methods, adopt flexible and diverse teaching methods, and strive to make teaching intuitive, vivid and interesting, and cultivate students' interest in learning. At the same time, some extracurricular activities, interest groups and games that students feel happy to learn are properly carried out, so that students are influenced by the gravity of learning, stimulate their enthusiasm for learning, overcome their inferiority and weariness of learning, and play a subtle role. In addition to _ _ Hao, I have observed many other students who are not good at listening to lectures. When I organize some activities, their participation is very active. Therefore, this also leads to the renewal of my educational methods.
(6) Communicate and coordinate with other teachers, so that students can improve in an all-round way. Once when I was studying Chinese dictation, I informed Xiao Wang in advance and asked him to review carefully. The next day, he scored 75 points in listening and writing, which was fully praised by the Chinese teacher. At the same time, I also contacted other teachers to help him answer some simple questions in class. The improvement of the correct rate greatly improved his self-confidence in learning. At the same time, I contacted the head teacher, selected two students with good grades in the class to be friends with him, helped him in his studies, made him feel the kindness and collective warmth of his classmates, and further relieved his weariness of learning.
Fourth, the result
With the common concern of parents, teachers and classmates, _ _ Hao spent more time watching the blackboard in class, and the phenomenon of burying his head in small gestures gradually decreased. It is also active when doing exercises. Seeing his progress, his parents are also very happy, saying that they will further cooperate with the teacher to make him progress faster.
Example 2 of successful education for senior high school students who are tired of learning;
Huang Yue (pseudonym), female, sophomore. When I was in junior high school, I was an excellent student, and I was among the best in almost every exam. However, the senior high school entrance examination was not ideal, but I managed to get into our key high school. She passed the exam before 100 in her freshman year. She told me that she put more time and energy into her study this semester, but she didn't achieve the result she wanted. She felt very confused and always felt that she was too stupid to learn. Spent so much time, but did not achieve the expected results, so that there has been no motivation to learn, and the spirit is not very good. I always feel so useless that I have failed the expectations of my parents and teachers. From her class teacher and classmates, I also learned that Huang Yue worked very hard and was very strong. Several times, she shed tears in class because she didn't do well in the exam, but she couldn't persuade her.
case analysis
In my opinion, the student showed strong learning motivation, which led to serious emotional disorder, which led to his weariness of learning and depression. Of course, this is also a manifestation of psychological imbalance. Psychological imbalance refers to the state of psychological imbalance or even disorder when individual's wishes and needs are not fully met or when they suffer setbacks and failures. Psychological imbalance is generally accompanied by cognitive and emotional adverse reactions, experiencing painful and contradictory emotional experiences. If the psychological imbalance cannot be adjusted and controlled in time, a series of psychological activities such as perception, memory, thinking, imagination, attention, emotion, will and personality will be disturbed and influenced to varying degrees. In severe cases, people's psychology will collapse, and the coordination of all aspects of psychological activities will be seriously damaged or even lose their reason and self-control, which will not correctly reflect the objective reality and cause harm to individuals. However, the situation in Huang Yue is not so bad. The root of her problems lies in her unreasonable beliefs and cognitive patterns. She thinks that her efforts should be rewarded and she should get good grades, so what we have to do is to help students find their unreasonable beliefs. And let them know these unreasonable beliefs, in the process of arguing with unreasonable beliefs, make students' cognitive model change, so as to give up unreasonable beliefs. Once a student gives up unreasonable beliefs, her excessive learning motivation will be weakened. We can know ourselves more correctly, find confidence again, and overcome the weariness and psychology brought by unreasonable beliefs.
Consultation process and strategy
First, let them know the nature of the problem. On the surface, it is an emotional problem caused by the failure of the exam. In fact, the deeper reason is that students' unreasonable beliefs and work lead to the imbalance of psychological state. Teachers can't blindly analyze the reasons for their failure in exams and the problems in learning methods during psychological counseling, which often makes students unable to see their real problems clearly. Because there are always problems in learning, which may be the reason for the stagnation or decline of students' academic performance. But it is not the most essential and fundamental problem. When the unreasonable cognition that bothers students is clarified, it will be more acceptable for students to discuss this issue again. It is also more conducive to the final solution of the problem.
Secondly, help them analyze unreasonable emotional characteristics. Unreasonable emotions in this case mainly refer to absolute demands. Absolute requirement refers to people's belief that something will or will not happen based on their own wishes, which is usually associated with words such as "must" and "should". Such as "I must succeed" and so on. When things happen against the absolute requirements of things, they can't stand it and fall into unacceptable emotional troubles.
Finally, on the basis of correctly understanding one's own learning motivation and establishing a correct and reasonable concept, this paper puts forward some suggestions and methods for learning. It is suggested that she develop good study habits, learn to control study time, study purposefully, planned, step by step and emphatically, and strive to improve study efficiency. In addition, besides teachers, there are at least three special "teachers" who are also our good teachers and friends in learning: self-confidence is the golden key to developing great potential. At any time, everyone's development potential is unlimited. As long as you dare to think, do and never admit defeat, you will succeed. Self-confidence is the first teacher to learn. Textbook is the second teacher in our study. Textbook knowledge is the most basic knowledge, which has always been with us. Whenever there is a problem, our first thought should be to consult the textbook. "In a threesome, there must be a teacher." This classmate is the third teacher in our study. Learning requires not only two-way communication between students and teachers, but also multi-directional communication between students. Through these efforts, we can achieve good learning results.
Educational achievements
A month later, Huang Yue's weariness of learning improved obviously. It shows that she has begun to accept her present study and exam results, and began to think about how to improve and improve her study. Instead of blindly falling into "hard work", I can't extricate myself from the idea of "doing well in the exam". The whole person has become very cheerful, and nothing very emotional has happened again, and my exam results are also very good.
Example 3 of successful education for high school students who are tired of learning:
When leijin knocked at the door and came in, he had already attended more than half of the class, and I obviously felt that he was a little depressed. After class, I learned that he arrived at school on time, but he wandered outside the school gate for a long time, and I vaguely felt something. Before I could call his parents, his mother was anxious to find me, saying that leijin had been abnormal recently and he didn't want to go to school. I wish I could help him. I'm surprised. Leijin has been studying hard. He is an average student. He is very tall, likes playing basketball and is very famous in school. Besides, he is a senior. How could he not want to go to school? I asked him to come to the office after school in the afternoon.
case analysis
Middle school students are in the stage of mental growth and should seize the opportunity of learning. Moreover, today is an era of rapid development of science and technology and knowledge economy, which should be said to stimulate students' enthusiasm for knowledge. But the objective reality is not optimistic. More and more middle school students are tired of learning, and there is an increasingly serious trend. There are many reasons why middle school students are tired of learning. However, students like leijin who are tired of learning because of learning setbacks are the main ones. In order to get the satisfaction of success, some of them are addicted to online games, and they are out of control, hoping to find back their lost self-esteem and self-confidence in the virtual world. Some of them are realized in other ways. Leijin's dissatisfaction with his studies was satisfied on the basketball court. He became an idol in the eyes of his peers, and his sense of accomplishment and vanity were greatly satisfied. But in the face of reality, parents' expectations and social recognition of cultural achievements, he will become helpless and lost. Gradually, he began to doubt his learning ability, and even if he studied hard, he could not get good grades, resulting in a "sense of learned helplessness".
Case handling
Leijin walked into the office under heavy guard. In order to disarm his "protective device", I took circuitous tactics. "I heard that you recently played a game with Class Three One. What's your record? " (Start with the topic that students are interested in)
His eyes began to shine. "The score is a little close. The score is always close. One minute before the end, the score was still 42: 42. In the last 30 seconds, I scored the key goal. " At this point, his face turned a little red with excitement. (Directly cut into the excitement of the students) I was also emotional and said excitedly, "Yes, Jordan is second." (in order to make his mood harmonious) "Teacher, how do you know my nickname?" His eyes widened in surprise. Let the students feel that you are paying attention to him.
I just smiled mysteriously. (Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle)
I changed the subject: "I heard that you don't want to study? I always think that you are a master of basketball, have great potential in learning, and have been working hard, haven't you? "
He lowered his head slowly, his expression painful. "Teacher, don't you think I am a failure?" "You mean studying?" I asked calmly. (to pursue victory and find the key to the problem) "Yes." His answer was short.
I said with a serious expression, "I understand your feelings." You must be thinking, I have studied hard, but why can't I get on? Is that so? "
He nodded vigorously. "I don't think I have any hope of studying. I want to specialize in playing ball. I want to be a star, like Jordan. " "What do you think of playing and learning?" I then asked. I didn't take up his topic directly, but kept asking questions, trying to uncover more thoughts in his heart.
He replied thoughtfully: "I also know that learning is very important." My mother often tells me that I have to study to get ahead. " When I was in primary school, I always got good grades. In the eyes of teachers, I am an excellent student. But I don't know why. After I entered junior high school, my grades were not top-notch. No matter how I study, I can't learn well. I have no talent for learning. I feel sorry for my mother. "(at this point, he bowed his head again. )
After thinking for a moment, he suddenly raised his head: "Playing ball is different, I have a unique feeling."
At this point, the problem has been fully exposed. The fundamental reason why he didn't want to study was that after entering high school, his grades began to decline. He is a student with strong self-esteem, and his grades make him lose face. He can't accept this reality and has a strong sense of frustration. So gradually formed a negative self-suggestion, that they have no talent for learning, but they are the protagonists on the court, and they often get applause and praise, so gradually formed a positive self-suggestion effect. He failed many times in recent exams, which deepened his sense of failure. So I had the idea that I didn't want to study and play professionally. In fact, deep down, he doesn't want to give up his studies.
In view of this situation in leijin, we should first let him regain his sense of accomplishment in his studies, and then set up correct expectations and maintain a good attitude. As a physics teacher in leijin, I started from the subject of physics, analyzed his own potential in the subject of physics, and combined with his own methods of learning physics, introduced him to the scientific methods of learning physics. At this time, it was getting late, so I left him homework, went back to review the physics he had learned by scientific methods, and then came to me after the review, and I gave him an exam alone. It aroused the students' positive emotions and made him feel unprecedented attention and trust, so his confidence doubled. )
Next, I told his class teacher about this situation, and he mobilized teachers from all subjects to pay special attention to leijin. I also interviewed leijin's parents and analyzed the situation in leijin. Parents said that they would not put too much pressure on him and set correct expectations. A week later, leijin came to me with confidence and told me that he had reviewed well, and he got 100 for this paper. Objectively speaking, this paper is relatively simple, and with his own concentrated review, he is expected to get a high score, but it is this high score that makes him regain his confidence. In leijin's own words, "I haven't got such a decent score since junior high school, so it's ok." Coupled with the attention and encouragement of teachers in all subjects, leijin's grades in all subjects have been greatly improved, and he will never say anything about not studying again. In this year's senior high school entrance examination, Lei Jin was admitted to the key high schools in this city with excellent results.
Case reflection
In this case, first of all, we established the learning goal with leijin, and formulated practical learning methods to make him feel a sense of accomplishment in his study. This success gave him a pleasant experience and aroused his desire to study harder. It can be said that one successful study is much more powerful than ten exhortations or teachings.
Secondly, through the communication with leijin, the head teacher, he won more attention from other teachers and made him regain his self-esteem and self-confidence in his study. His lost mood and depressed mood were comforted, and his motivation to learn was further strengthened.
Finally, through the communication with parents, parents re-established the expectations suitable for leijin, which made leijin feel more relaxed and happy than ever before, and laid a spiritual and psychological foundation for his success again.