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What is the worst family education you have ever seen?
The neighbor's son came home from school in the first grade of primary school, went to grandma's house to get the key, went home to do his homework, and then went downstairs to play with the children for an hour. Note that this child has a strong sense of time. An hour's playing time will not exceed. His grades are first and second in grade one. In the fifth grade, his parents divorced, and he betrayed his father. The children began to be silent and their grades began to decline. My dad comes home from junior high school, either staying at work or playing mahjong in the mahjong hall. At this time, dad gave ten dollars and said that you should buy some food yourself. The child left crying, and sometimes the child would go to his mother and grandmother. But again, I found it in the mahjong room, and I also gave some money to buy food myself.

I once heard from other neighbors that XX's father beat his son yesterday and yelled at him. Why did he do so badly in the exam? At this time, the child whispered, why did you give birth to me? You didn't love me when you gave birth to me. You played mahjong every day, and every time you came home from school, there was no one at home. I just saw you, so I'll give you ten dollars and buy yourself something to eat.

This child used to be someone else's child in the mouth of many parents, and now you don't play with XX! Or I'll kill you.

The neighbor's children go to their grandparents' home to do their homework after school in the first grade of primary school. After finishing their homework, they went downstairs to play with the children for an hour. Children have a strong sense of time. Playing for an hour will never exceed the time limit. The grade is the first and second in the class. On the third day, mom and dad divorced, which had a great influence on children. The child began to be silent and his grades began to decline. He cried and said to his grandmother, "Home and everything are booming" is written on our wall. Why does our family quarrel every day? Grandma and grandson cried bitterly. Parents quarreling and divorcing every day have a great influence on their children, and their grades have plummeted after their parents divorced. The year after the divorce, both husband and wife realized that it was very harmful to their children and they remarried. But the children's academic performance has not caught up so far.

This child was once considered as an excellent boy by many parents, but now it is considered as the worst child by many parents! This is the most failed family education. The failure of family education will bring lifelong pain to children. Therefore, I hope that parents must learn a lesson, give their children a happy childhood, give them a good learning environment, and cultivate their children into adults with good family education.

There are four people in my neighbor's family. The two children are boys. Brother 1 1 year old, brother is six years old. I can't see my parents every day, and my aunt hired at home is taking care of two children.

One day, when I came home from work, I met my neighbor aunt who ran out in a hurry as soon as I arrived at the entrance of the building. I asked her what was wrong. She said she lost her cell phone. Go and find it.

After dinner, I went downstairs for a walk and happened to meet that aunt again. I casually asked her if she had found her cell phone. My aunt sighed and told me that my mobile phone was not lost at all. It was hidden by my eldest child and then thrown into the elevator.

Aunt said helplessly that she would quit at the end of the month and had never seen such an ill-bred child. Today's society has never seen such a family that does not attach importance to education. There are two children at home who go to school. There are no books and pens at home. Moreover, the two children were unhappy and scolded their aunt to vent their anger.

As I walked, I still remembered what my neighbor's aunt said. As an educator, I feel sorry for the present situation of my two children and worry about their future. Is this kind of family education the most failure?

I know a man whose family was poor and suffered a lot when he was a child. Later, his husband and wife had a smooth business and made a lot of money. Thinking that he couldn't let his son suffer any more, he spoiled his son to death. He really gives him whatever he wants, and he never dares to pick the moon if he wants stars. Later, my son had no intention to study, was addicted to games, and stayed out at night. No matter how he taught or managed it, it didn't work. At this time, he was flustered and cut off his son's financial resources. Later, his son held a big knife rest around his neck and forced him to ask for money. Later, he had no choice but to let go and leave his son alone. This is the worst family education I have ever seen. The main reason is that parents spoil their sons too much and guide their sons incorrectly. This incident greatly shocked our friends.

To be exact, my parents raised my daughter. Usually busy with work, I have no time to take care of the children. Many children are like my girl now. It is good for her parents to take care of her, but one thing is that "one generation suffers." This is a local saying in Tianjin, which means that my parents love their grandchildren. They don't fight, they don't scold, and they don't care much about them. The child is 6 years old, and I have been eating at home until now. She is totally unaccustomed to eating at home alone. Some people think it doesn't matter (it's ok in kindergarten), but I think it's a very difficult thing. The more parents take the initiative to feed her, the less she wants to do it herself. She knows how to watch cartoons, but she has no hands-on ability. She doesn't know whether to take the initiative to eat when the meal comes, and she doesn't know whether to eat more if she is not full. Then in kindergarten, other children often eat two buns, but she can't eat one. Before one of them has finished eating, the teacher should close the plate. Her parents were in a hurry, but she still didn't have enough to eat. My mother came home and said, son, take steamed bread first for dinner. If one is not enough, ask the teacher for another. But I think it's no use. She is used to sitting there with food to her mouth. She has no desire to compete. Besides, one of the children's classmates, the boy, has been in the middle class and still doesn't eat in kindergarten. Why? I can't eat by myself When we first went to kindergarten together, there was a parents' day. We accompany our children to class and eat together. By dinner time, several children at the same table ate quickly. Two or three children, including my daughter, are very careless. The most striking thing is the boy who can't eat. The boy's grandmother is very anxious. She watched the other children eat alone and was embarrassed to feed him. She kept urging the boy to eat quickly at the back, saying

This matter touched me a lot. Nowadays, children grow up in hotbeds, and they can't be beaten or scolded, but is this really good for them? Appropriate sense of crisis and competitive consciousness, which are extremely useful for the future, have not been established for her since she was a child. When the child goes to school, she will be told with her grades. Look at other people's homes. They are so smart that they will learn. Look at you again, punk ...

Again, this is no joke. It is really an important aspect of educating children. Maybe I said a little too much, a little around. I want every friend to understand as much as possible and realize that I may have this problem.

I think the most failed family education I have ever seen is my friend's husband. Her husband is an only child, her father died early, and her mother-in-law is the kind of woman who dotes on her son without a bottom line. A man in his thirties gives orders to his mother every day. His mother washes his clothes, underwear and shoes. My friend belongs to the kind of woman who has a particularly good temper and is super patient. She has two children. Her husband has never changed the diaper for the child, and has never taken care of the child's eating, drinking and sleeping. It seems that he is the only one in his world, and drinking and fighting also happen from time to time. Plus, my mother-in-law is a son, and my friends are used to swallowing up. Her husband is even more unscrupulous. Every time I feel that my friend probably owes him in his last life.

1. Parents dote on them. They were not allowed to do housework when they were young. When they grow up, they are not allowed to cook by themselves. When their son can't afford a daughter-in-law, they blame themselves for being useless. They always feel sorry for their children. This kind of parents don't let their children learn to be independent and responsible.

2. Never encourage children to study. Children play mobile phones and brush dramas since childhood.

3. Never encourage children, and often call them "stupid", "ugly", "the most stupid" and "see who is who". Such children have no self-confidence when they grow up and think they are the worst.

4. Don't be thrifty when it's time to be thrifty. Buying clothes for children is not afraid of spending money, and buying snacks for children is not afraid. I don't know that the children educated in this way can't dress up and have a vulgar temperament.

5. Always telling children that we are poor runs through the idea of poverty. The book "There is a Tree in Brooklyn" simply points out a bright way for parents to educate their children so that they can remain optimistic, elegant and learn in the most difficult environment.

6. Parents don't know how to tidy up the house, which makes it a mess. It's annoying to watch. Not to mention how children learn in this environment.

7. Give your child warmth if you don't understand. When children need encouragement, comfort and a family safe haven, married parents quarrel and fight, and parents themselves are unhappy. How can I give my child warmth?

8. Let children drop out of school early. Education can really change our lives.

9. Parents don't go to bed early and get up early, but ask their children to go to bed early and get up early.

Instinctively put love for children first. There is nothing wrong with "love" itself. What I am most afraid of is to turn the excuse of "love" into a bottomless doting. In financial business, the most important thing is to cultivate children's five qualities of autonomy, self-confidence, self-reliance, self-improvement and self-discipline. Obviously, the worst family education is not to give children such quality. In the process of loving children, I have done many boring things. What children can't accept smoothly is obviously that they want to love their children, but the way and method of love are not appropriate. I often have all kinds of entanglements and frictions with my children, but I never know how to change my position and how to effectively improve my model of loving children. As a result, the gap between me and my children is getting deeper and deeper, and finally I can only obey my children.

The child seized the opportunity and pressed hard. Control the overall situation everywhere, and then form a situation in which mice play with cats. Does it really depend on cultivating children's autonomy? Parents should reflect. But parents still firmly believe that their children need their own care, and parents still firmly believe that their actions are not wrong. Parents still completely resist the urgency of studying family education, or don't believe that family education is a technical job. You have learned all the skills and abilities, but you have not made any written efforts in parenting, which has plunged you into chaos and even affected your family life.

Mothers take too much care of their children. Nowadays teenagers can't tie their shoelaces, sharpen pencils, clean the house, and of course they can't wash clothes and cook. This situation has become the norm. Children's lack of life experience will not only develop laziness, but also affect their future study. What about cultivating children's ability to stand on their own feet?

Many teachers feel that children with strong understanding and good academic performance are often children with rich experience, strong independence and strong hands-on ability. The second is to make children more rebellious.

If you always do everything for your children and give them everything they want, they will feel that this is what parents should pay, which is completely in line with human nature. Once he fails to meet his requirements occasionally, it will lead to strong dissatisfaction and even violent reaction, which has become the norm. In fact, you should do your own thing and let the children know what your responsibility is. This in itself means that education is to cultivate children's self-reliance ability.

Third, we can't cultivate children's self-improvement. Life will inevitably encounter setbacks, and each of us is constantly moving from overcoming difficulties to maturity. Because difficulties are our best teachers, people often grow fastest in difficulties. And if we always shelter our children from the wind and rain, once they face adversity alone, there will probably be problems. In recent years, young students are obsessed with suicide because of some trivial things. Most of them are directly related to the lack of frustration education, and they are all manifestations of self-improvement. And if the father is absent in the process of educating children, the negative impact will be more.

Last but not least, self-confidence and self-discipline will never last long. There is no one in China who is not confident. If Ma Yun was not confident, he stood in front of Masayoshi Son, prevaricating and prevaricating. Where is Ma Yun's Alibaba now? At the same time, it is impossible for a person to achieve something without self-discipline Therefore, in my opinion, if you don't give your children 1 out of five, your education will be a great failure. With quality, we can live like ordinary people. What will the child live like? How to survive in this unpredictable world? Let alone get ahead.

In my opinion, the most unsuccessful family education is to raise a "rich second generation" child when it is clear that you are a family with ordinary conditions.

Now some parents, obviously under great pressure and living a hard life, have been shouting: "We should provide all the best conditions for children to sell iron." As everyone knows, such an educational concept will not only produce excellent children, but will often produce a "playboy" who is lazy and has a higher heart than the sky, or a darling girl who shows "princess disease" everywhere;

When children are young, parents can satisfy whatever they want; They would rather scrimp and save, borrow things from each other than let their children suffer a little injustice. They often feel that they are super responsible parents and the parents who pay the most in the world.

Perhaps with the growth of children's age and the formation of high consumption habits, their parents can no longer afford their high consumption and "upper-class life" conditions. When their parents can no longer provide them with logistics support at their fingertips, they are full of resentment towards their parents (which is why there are endless cases of gnawing at the old and hurting the old), and they are also secretive about their origins, packaging their identity and hiding their families; Can't afford a genuine big brand, even if you buy imitation goods and parallel imports, you must support the scene; Some even rob, cheat, steal and sit on the stage in pursuit of the so-called "upper class" life.

While we hate them, we should also think: Who caused all this?