Once upon a time, when emotions came up, we couldn't help getting angry with our children. After the hair was finished, I looked at the child's wronged and scared eyes and felt guilty instantly. Yelling at a child may have an immediate effect, but it will push the child's heart farther and farther.

Studies have shown that children who are often yelled at by their parents will increase the level of stress hormones in the body, and then lead to changes in brain structure. In other words, it will make children's memory decline, and the more they shout, the more stupid they become. Parents' "whispering education" can benefit children for life.

How to educate in a low voice?

Step 1: Parents should learn to control their emotions.

Use the "3-minute cooling method" to remind yourself immediately when you are ready to get angry with your child: cool down for 3 minutes. Then don't talk, don't act, take a deep breath for three minutes, or be alone, or look at the distance to calm yourself down first.

Step 2: Talk to your child and talk about it.

Did the child do it on purpose? Is it a child? Still, the child didn't notice! Tell the truth about children's problems, don't play with the topic, don't make a mountain out of a molehill, and don't take it out on children.

Step 3: Speak in a low voice.

Don't try to appease your child with a loud voice, which will easily make your child rebellious or passive. Instead, try to ask the child what he thinks and then listen to what he says. Understand the child's real thoughts through communication with the child.

Step 4: Use the correct tone and wording and keep rational.

For children before the age of 3, just correct his behavior and tell him what to do; Children after the age of 3 should correct their behavior and appropriately let him bear some consequences and responsibilities.

Although the child made a mistake, we should treat the child equally with the correct tone and wording and "educate" him calmly. He must never say anything that hurts the child's self-esteem.

Step 5: Treat children's mistakes, "grasp the big and let go of the small"

For example, don't hold on to a child just because he lied. Subconsciously, he thought he "stole the thief's gold when he grew up". This is not right.

Lying at first is a sign of children's intellectual development, but it does not encourage such behavior, so we should look at this problem from two aspects. It is necessary to give warning education to children to prevent the next lying behavior, but it should not be too severe.

Step 6: Stick to the bottom line gently and firmly.

"Whispering" education is not to tolerate children blindly, but to give children a certain room for growth and set the bottom line. Tenderness means accepting the fact that children make mistakes, not rushing to blame, and having gentle communication with children. Firmness is a principle that children need to adhere to and must not compromise.

Education in a low voice can increase the opportunity to know more about children;

Education in a low voice can realize benign communication between parents and children;

Low voice education can effectively solve the problems in children's growth;

Education in a low voice is the best gift for parents to give their children!