1, Law: It seems like empty talk to ensure that children develop in a healthy family atmosphere. Which parent is unwilling to create a healthy family atmosphere for their children? But in fact, did every parent agree? For example, some parents spoil their children too much, pamper them, obey their children, and make them arrogant, thus cultivating unhealthy habits. Some parents often quarrel in front of their children, and the fragmented and long-term separated home makes children lack trust. If family changes are inevitable, parents should attach great importance to helping their children, and should not take wrong actions such as neglecting teaching, doting and being too strict, and should not impose them on their children because of family division.

2, the law of hope: always let children see hope. Parents put their hopes on their children, but some parents turn such hopes into better psychological pressure for their children, but they don't let their children see their hopes. Excellent parents understand that children should be given early if they do well. There is no doubt that they should be told "well done" and "great". Even if the child does not perform well for a while, he should be good at letting the child see hope with encouraging words. This is the law of choosing hope to encourage children. Some parents have high expectations for their children, but they are not good at using the law of hope and always find fault in the gap. Some children usually get 98-99 points in the exam, but parents should blame why they can't get 100 points. Such overly strict norms and strict requirements are not worth the loss, which will stifle children's hopes and make them depressed.

3, management methods and rules: before the child is under 18 years old, parents have the obligation to educate, and some parents love to say to the teacher: "Then I will give the child to you!" Some parents are usually indifferent to their children because of their busy work. This kind of dereliction of duty belongs to parents. In the process of children's growth, no one can replace the responsibility of parents. Children depend on their parents by nature. Parents should give their children the cultural education, waiting and care they deserve, so that they can have a sense of belonging and being applied, and they will ask their parents for help when they encounter problems. Therefore, parents must not shirk their educational obligations under any pretext. However, this kind of teaching should be based on true feelings, personalized, scientific, reasonable and objective. Children should not be regarded as legal property, simple and direct, and children's views and personality traits should not be considered and valued at all.

4. Noise Law: Listen to children's noise, parents treat children fairly, give them the right to speak, listen to their noise, and they will speak their true thoughts. If adults don't pay attention to children's thoughts and ignore their thoughts, in the long run, children will be afraid to tell the truth to their parents and don't like to communicate with them. Moreover, parents are children's teachers and role models. If parents don't listen carefully to their children, they will follow suit and don't want to listen to adults, so they don't know how to respect others. But all things related to children, such as moving to a new home and transferring schools, choosing extracurricular activities, signing up for competitions and so on. Be sure to discuss and express with your child first. Even if they can't completely follow their children's advice, many people will feel that their parents have consulted them. Otherwise, parents' kindness may not be rewarded.

5, example method: setting an example is very effective for children's role models. "Teach by example, lead by example" is universally applicable. Children's cultivation, hobbies, preferences, etc. Most of them come from what they have seen and heard about their growth and development. Parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, commanders and interpersonal relationships all hurt children. It is very important that mothers aim at girls and fathers aim at boys. In addition to the role models at home, parents should also pay attention to the interpersonal relationships that children get along with and the harm that frequent places do to their children, such as what kind of people children admire. If you find that your child has made bad friends by mistake, you don't have to stop them from coming and going, but you should first grasp the situation and help your child. Children must be friendly and afraid of loneliness. Some children have moved to a new field because they have moved to a new home. They have no friends, but they are accompanied by some "underachievers".

6, the law of mutual respect: pay attention to children's views on the world, try to understand that their views are usually different from adults, there will be a lot of unconventional imagination. In fact, this is just a naive, lively and lovely place. If adults think that children's ideas are weird and cruel, it will stifle children's imagination and curiosity, and it will also make children feel chilling because they can't understand. On the other hand, many times, naive children dare to say childish things. It is necessary to integrate the "sound method" and encourage children to express bravely. There is no doubt about their thoughts. Naturally, if some opinions and statements are unrealistic or will cause inconvenience, we should also express them patiently. Parents should try to understand the characteristics of children's logical thinking, even if the child's speech is not satisfactory, they should patiently communicate with their children. Rudely interrupting or making fun of children's personal behavior will damage their language expression ability and make them ashamed to open their mouths in front of others.

7. Use the law of punishment with caution: It is a very negative and clumsy way of education to let children accept punishment willingly and minimize the punishment of pure punishment, especially in punishment. Many children who have been punished by violence since childhood will also have violent behavior when they grow up. Therefore, it is not recommended to apply punishment, but when children make mistakes, they can also choose a reasonable form to do some punishment. The premise of punishment is that children must know that they have done something wrong and are willing to accept punishment. It won't happen again Punishment should also be effective. They can be forbidden to do what they like, for example, they can be punished for not watching TV dramas, surfing the Internet or playing games for several days. Never take some positive things that should be done as punishment. For example, punishing children for writing will make them feel that writing is wrong, which will lead to boredom. When they do those things, they will feel punished, resulting in psychological barriers.

8, the law of adverse effects: let children master the adverse effects that their personal behavior is likely to cause. Sometimes, the inconvenience caused by children or what they want to do is unique. If adults don't understand their bad influence and harm, they will blame or stop it. This is naturally unconvincing. If children are to be praised by culture and education, parents, teachers and other adults should first think clearly about the ins and outs of the matter, and then have a good talk with their children. They can gradually explain the pros and cons of the adverse effects, and in turn explain whether they should do that, so that people can be convinced and children will understand.

9. Structural rules: It is not too difficult for parents to teach their children to master the boundaries between social morality and laws and regulations from an early age. Legal safety education is integrated into social development and school moral education. Children are fully trained from an early age, and they have the bottom line of being a man and the bottom line of laws and regulations, which usually harms their parents. However, parents should also lead by example and set an example for their children to abide by rules and discipline. Parents are advised to look for material content from their lives, help their children establish what is not in line with professional ethics and laws and regulations and must be avoided, so that children can understand the boundaries between social ethics and laws and regulations from an early age.

10, the law of consciousness: parents should shape their children's consciousness from an early age and leave room for their children's psychological state. There is no need to surround children everywhere. You think you care about taking care of children, but children think you control them too strictly. Parents should also allow their children to enjoy their personal privacy to a certain extent and have their own dominant position and decision-making power. Naturally, parents should stare around their children and be good leaders and companions, instead of settling for second best. When teaching children management methods, parents should pay attention to the big level and principled position, instead of taking care of everything regardless of size. Children must also get some roles and specific guidance from their parents in their daily life and study, but they should also be given appropriate opportunities to exercise their consciousness. Parents don't have to be too careful when their children enter adolescence. Children need to do meaningful things by themselves. Parents just give some normative suggestions. Even if children make mistakes, they can learn from them and develop.