How can family education be a "wolf" —— Excerpted from The Essence and Multi-directional Application of Composition Materials for College Entrance Examination
Zheng Zhiyun
Material express line
As long as the child's daily conduct and academic performance do not meet his requirements, he will be severely punished. Under Xiao Baiyou's almost barbaric educational model of "one child goes to Peking University every three days", three of his four children were admitted to Peking University. From the former "tiger mother" to the present "wolf father", the family education concept of "stick education" has once again aroused heated discussion in society. On the one hand, it caters to China parents' desire for their children to succeed; On the other hand, it also reflects the confusion and contradiction in family education in China society in recent years. In fact, fighting is not the only theme of Xiao's family education, but also includes discovering the child's talent, encouraging more than rewarding, shaping the best learning environment, arranging the study plan reasonably, and how the father loves the child. Xiao Baiyou is extremely confident in his educational methods. He not only published the book "So that's it, Brother and Sister of Peking University", but also made frequent appearances in the media to publicize his "scientific play" and "stick art" in educating children. It is understood that at present, more than 30 children have been sent to Xiao Baiyou's home by parents all over the country to receive the education of "Wolf Dad" during the winter and summer vacations.
In a country with ambitious children, the ways and means of family education can always be the focus of attention, especially in the past year. "Tiger Mom ...' Cat Dad ...' Wolf Dad ...' Sheep Dad' appeared one after another. Unfortunately, family education only saw the smoke, but did not see the truth. Family education research experts lamented helplessly: "The outstanding problem of family education is the neglect of children's rights, and' tiger mother' and' wolf father' are sought after and blindly imitated by some parents. "
Multi-directional application
It's also a fight, but why is the ending so different? It seems that children's education can't solve the problem. How can it be a "wolf"
First, from the child's point of view, apply the topic: ① We should fly freely; 2. Be a happy host; ③ Respect childhood; 4 refuse "domestic violence"; ⑤ What is the pain in this storm?
Second, from the perspective of parents, the topics are applicable: ① Strict education and children's growth; Is severity love and tolerance hurt? 3 love, fitness and harm; (4) What is under the stick? Children are children, you know! 6. What are the fierce parents of the tiger, wolf, cat and sheep? ⑦ What does the Complete Works of Fighting Mothers teach parents? A good education lights up life.
Third, from the social point of view, application topics: ① What is suitable is good; (2) the lack of high-profile; ③ Individualized education should not be copied blindly; 4 can be either one or the other; ⑤ Talking about "punishment education"; ⑥ It is misleading to sanctify and demonize "Wolf Dad" as a mentor.
Demonstration example
We should fly freely.
Parents always think that taking the straight road is a shortcut; We always think that if we bend the road, it will extend. In fact, you know, the stages of life are different. If you choose waltz, you will jump out of romance, if you choose rumba, you will jump out of joy, if you choose jazz, you will jump out of nobility ... Although parents want us to have a perfect life to understand, it takes courage and domineering to blindly impose their ideas on us. We can't always be like kites, limiting the free dance steps and the happy growth. Please don't add insult to injury, adhere to the principle of "every three days, children will enter Peking University". As long as the child's daily conduct and academic performance do not meet his requirements, he will be severely punished. This "stick education" may be effective for a while, but it also shows the incompetence of educational methods. If there is no timely compensation from love, it will often produce amazing destructive power. Many unscrupulous, rogue and shameless people in society often have the shadow of domestic violence behind them. Please give us a free and happy childhood, let our wings gradually plump, grasp our own direction and fly freely!
Example 2 Strict Education and Children's Growth
It is the responsibility of every parent to educate their children to become adults. As the old saying goes, "If a son doesn't teach, his father has made a mistake. The teaching is not strict and the teacher is lazy. " Parents are the children's closest relatives and their first teachers, so it is logical to regulate, restrain and even punish their children's bad behavior. In France, the government even passed the bill "If children don't teach, fathers will be punished" and set up a subsidy to help parents better cultivate their children's growth. If they don't put their children on the right path, they will be punished financially. In today's society, the "greenhouse consciousness" of "post-90 s" and "post-00 s" is getting stronger and stronger: if you hold it in your hand, you will be afraid of it, and if you put it in your mouth, parents can't wait to put their children in their hearts. There is no need to fight, and there is no need to scold. Over time, it is not necessarily the greatest kindness and love to spoil a child and let him grow up at will. Therefore, China Wolf Dad, who pursues strict education, is regarded as a success by many people. His name is Xiao Baiyou, and his slogan is "Every three days, children enter Peking University". Three of his four children were admitted to Peking University. It can be seen that "stick education" does have positive significance and value from the perspective of children's growth and success.
Example 3 applicable to education
In the field of education, there has never been a way of education that can be done once and for all. (Part I, which leads to the theme) Xiao Baiyou,' China Wolf Dad', shouting the slogan' Every three days, children will enter Peking University', took his four children and three of them to enter Peking University as capital, and made a high-profile biography to his parents with the help of various media, frequently delivering treasures. I don't know that his so-called success is just an example, which is only suitable for 75% of his children. Therefore, "bonzi education" is neither worthy of comprehensive promotion nor need to be completely denied. Only an education that suits your children is a good education. As we know, whether it is stick education, warm education or open education, we have chosen different education methods, but the results are the same, and all of them have cultivated excellent talents. In this high-profile and noisy era of flaunting individuality, various educational concepts compete with each other, and what is "best, first, enlightenment, awakening, classic, authority, chief …" is surging. Think about it carefully, in the long river of education, these are only phased achievements, even if it is truth, a small step forward will become fallacy! How can it be universally applicable! But then again, it is with these unique, schools of thought contend and let a hundred flowers blossom that more choices are possible. (knot)
It's not just love that is covered up.
The pine trees are tall and straight, covered with thick snow; Red plums report spring, with cold spring breeze; Cold chrysanthemum fragrance is tempered by autumn frost. Similarly, children should be punished appropriately when they grow up. In today's society, Xiao Baiyou's almost barbaric family education concept of "children enter Peking University every three days" has aroused heated discussion in society. In fact, fighting is not the only theme of Xiao's family education. It also includes discovering the child's talent, encouraging is more important than rewarding, shaping the best learning environment, arranging the study plan reasonably, and how the father loves the child. Visible, this "China Wolf Dad" extremely confident "scientific play" and "stick art" is hidden behind love. That's it? Actually, not necessarily. In my opinion, love is not the whole cover. "Wolf Dad" is just a label for him to flaunt himself, "Savagery" is just a selling point to promote himself, and "corporal punishment" is just an advertisement to attract his attention. In fact, what Xiao Baiyou has done is nothing more than completing the task of correcting mistakes in education. It is not clever, but it is still effective. Only when Xiao Baiyou is going to open a modern private school, and more than 30 children from all over the country are sent to his home by their parents to receive "Wolf Dad" education during the winter and summer vacations, people have a new guess. Is that vigorous utilitarian heart the true meaning of his drunkenness?
Textbook nugget
40. Please analyze Zhuangzi's article "My Clever Cow" and talk about what topics can be demonstrated by using the materials inside.