How does a mother educate her children? In real life, most of us are very concerned about the baby's growth, but sometimes we will encounter various problems. Among them, mothers want to know the answer to a question, that is, how do mothers educate their children? Let's see the answer!
How does a mother educate her children? 1
Always pay attention to the cultivation of parent-child relationship and play with your baby more.
Mothers should play with their children more, and don't always talk about homework and study. Learning and homework are important, but we can't ignore children's feelings. You can imagine how bad it is to have a childhood without your mother to play with you and only with homework guidance. As a "loving mother", you need to always pay attention to the cultivation of parent-child relationship and play with your baby more;
Pay attention to the correct guidance of children.
"At the beginning of life, nature is good", and children's nature is good. As a mother, when children do something wrong, they should give correct guidance.
For example, children steal money from home or use other people's things without their permission. These little things must be corrected. Mothers have the obligation to guide and cultivate their children's good characters such as responsibility, integrity and loyalty. The best moral guidance is the mother's own behavior. If the mother shirks her responsibility, ignores the rights of others, or reneges on her word, the child will lose the guidance of behavior.
Children should be given enough space when they reach a certain age.
Children need careful care, but at a certain age, they want to have their own space. Especially boys, they want to try many new things and solve some problems independently. As boys grow up, the boundaries between them need to be relaxed appropriately. A mother should not feel abandoned or weak. Appropriate self-space is also the beginning of their future development of independent personality.
Pay attention to mother's usual words. Your tone and conversation may affect children.
Some parents usually don't pay attention to the conversation, and some words that are not suitable for children are not "taboo". They think that children don't understand, but they don't know that these conversations will have an impact on children's personality and emotions over time. Parents must pay attention to their own verbal expression when they speak. It is best to avoid conversations that the baby is not suitable for.
Cultivate children's all-round emotion and love
It is necessary for mothers to explain to their children that kindness and politeness are as important as outstanding performance in school and sports. Those children who are emotionally cultivated will produce what psychologist Daniel calls emotional IQ, that is, the ability to coordinate their own needs with those of others. Such people have more opportunities to stay ahead in life than others.
Mother's praise and encouragement are very important to children.
Praise can make children more confident, and criticism can make children blame themselves too much. Praise for children also pays attention to skills, such as getting up after falling. Not so much "you are brave" as "I am proud that you climbed into the car after falling". This clearly explains why this behavior is commendable.
In fact, there are still many aspects of mother's education for children that need to be discovered and experienced in life. Children's childhood should be happy, and children's education should be multifaceted, not just limited to homework education. When educating children, mothers must pay attention to the cultivation of parent-child relationship. With your company, children will behave better and live happier lives.
When educating children, mothers should pay attention to their own educational methods and learn more about parenting, so as to educate their children more comprehensively.
How does a mother educate her children? 2 What kind of children do mothers who are too strong and too strong usually educate? I have read the relevant true stories, and I can generally educate two kinds of children: one is rebellious, the other is cowardly and sensitive, and the second is mostly children. There are many such examples in reality. My mother is a strong woman and has worked hard outside for many years. After graduating from college, my daughter was brought back to her directly by her mother. What she does every day is to babysit her mother and half-sister. After graduating from college for so many years, I have accomplished nothing, have no opinion, and have a weak personality. What I want to say is, no matter how capable a mother is, can she accompany her children to their old age? How can children live when you leave?
Don't transfer bad emotions to children. Dudu is still feeling sorry for himself at some point. I was in a particularly bad mood. When I came home from work, my son followed me. My mother cried out for me to hug him, but I kicked him away. After so many years, every time I think about it, my heart is full of guilt. That incident has a great influence on my children. No matter what you do, you have to look at your face first, and your heart is particularly sad. Our modern mother is really stressed. They have to work outside and take care of their families at home. If they don't meet your distressed husband, the pressure will be even heavier. But in any case, the child is innocent, and the child is eager to get his mother's love, not to be his mother's punching bag.
Don't neglect children's progress. Sometimes children feel that a little progress is really not worth watching for us mothers, but it is absolutely significant for children. For example, when children put together a building block with bad wine, what they want to do most is to tell their dear mother. If the mother praised the child at this time and made a gesture like a child asking for advice, then the child will definitely want to do better. If the mother impatiently scolds the child: stupid, such a simple thing, learning for so long. What do you think this kid will do? No matter how small the child's progress is, as the mother of the child, you should find and praise it in time, and then encourage the child to do better.
Analyzing problems with children instead of scolding every child will be one mistake after another in the process of children's growth, because only when mistakes occur will children know what to do right. Don't say that children, even ourselves, are not all a mistake, a mistake? What a mother should do in the face of her child's mistakes is not to scold her child blindly, or to scold her child directly for being stupid, but to give her child a chance to correct her mistakes and let her know what to do right. When a child makes a mistake, his heart must be uneasy. You pull the children to be quiet, analyze the reasons for their mistakes, and let them try again.
Never be "cold-blooded" to children. I remember that when I was a child, my biggest fear was not being twisted by my mother after getting into trouble, but that my family ignored me. I remember when I was that old, I made a mistake on purpose and got into trouble. My mother was a little strict with me. She didn't hit me (hehe), but she ignored me with my father and my sister, leaving me to cry first. I cried for a long time and found through my fingers that I was the only one in the room, so I didn't want to mention my fears. The children are all the same, and their closest mother suddenly ignores herself. The fear is beyond words. Some mothers like to punish the children who make mistakes outside the door, and even throw them out in the dark at night, which is something that mothers should not imitate.
Don't always act like a child owes you. I know a child who was raised by her grandmother after her parents divorced. Later, her mother came back from other places and pulled the girl to her side. And this girl's grandmother, and her mother, said the most to her, that is, I raised you by myself, how can you repay me, or I give you money to eat and buy clothes for you, and if you don't listen to me, you are a baiwenhang, and you owe me, and so on. I really want to ask the grandmother and mother: Are you raising children or doing business with them? Raising children is an unrequited investment, but it is really stupid to regard raising children as a business investment and recovery. I believe that children should either muddle along or stay away from them.
Let children see the truth of the world. I never object to letting children know the true face of the world. I won't tell my children how beautiful the world is without any darkness, as the book says. It's total nonsense. When a child is bullied outside for no reason, the child will ask you: What about those beautiful things? But you can't paint the world black on purpose. One of my baby's classmates told him that people on the street want to sell you as soon as they look at you. When you see such people, you should scold them loudly. Later, I asked the child, only to know what the mother told him. I don't think I understand what that mother did. Children can be taught how to protect themselves in such a world, but they can't be afraid of the world.
Become a child's most trusted friend Dudu and his baby go shopping. There will always be too many people who say that we are like a pair of good friends, and Dudu feels very proud. And my child will tell me his little secret quietly, because we have an agreement since childhood, and there are no secrets between us. I will tell him my secret, he will tell me his own, and even we will exchange diaries. Make friends with children, and you will find that there is no so-called generation gap between you and your children. That generation gap is just your mother's failure. Being friends with children doesn't count. You have to be friends with your child's friends, so that the child can really trust you as a friend.