First, advance education. Now many parents will put forward the educational viewpoint that "children can't lose at the starting line". According to this theory, many preschool children have been enrolled in various interest classes, and their childhood is miserable. This is not a material lack, but a mental exhaustion. What's more, it is meaningless for some educators to put forward the concept of prenatal education and play music for unborn children. Children can't hear at all through their thick stomachs. Why not let them sleep peacefully? Just messing around.

Second, result-oriented education. Some parents only look at their children's exam results. As long as they do well in the exam, there will be no problem. Once they encounter some setbacks, they will jump up. Such parents ignore the fact that children's grades are originally a fluctuating range, and you can't always ask them in a straight line, but when children are at a low ebb, what they need most is parents' encouragement and help, not criticism. The correct method should be process-oriented. If the child works hard, it doesn't matter what the result is. There is no problem if he doesn't do well in the exam. It is important to help children find knowledge points that they have not mastered yet. His grades kept improving, and naturally he went up.

Third, parents often say "other people's children", which is actually a blow to children's self-confidence. In the long run, the child will have no motivation to learn, because he finds that no matter how hard he works, he can't catch up with "other people's children." It is terrible for a person to have no self-confidence. The correct way is to affirm the children's achievements and let them understand the importance of process efforts.