Now more and more families attach great importance to their children's education. I also began to know that it is not good to beat and scold children, so many families choose to encourage and motivate their children. However, this is not necessarily good for children, so as parents, we should correctly treat inspiring education for children. This time, I want to show you the influence of inspirational education on children!

Incentive education can be divided into two categories according to its content, namely material incentive education and spiritual incentive education.

Material-based Incentive Education

In fact, it is to encourage children to develop in a positive, healthy and moral direction through material means, and to form certain habits through continuous strengthening. The specific operation of this method is to use money or specific items as bait to encourage children to repeat correct words and deeds and correct their wrong words and deeds.

Spiritual encouragement education

In fact, it is to encourage children to develop in a positive, healthy and moral direction through spiritual means, and to form certain habits through continuous strengthening. The specific operation of this method is mainly to encourage children to repeat correct words and deeds and correct their own wrong words and deeds. The advantage of material incentive education is that it is stimulating and helps children to improve their words and deeds quickly in a short time.

Material incentive education

The disadvantage of material encouragement education is that it can only form short-term stimulation, and it is difficult for children to make their mistakes clear with material encouragement. When children are young, they may only get material rewards if they make improvements. Once the material rewards disappear, children's words and deeds may return to the original point, and it is difficult for children to form a correct world outlook, outlook on life and values with material encouragement. At the same time, it is very likely that children will first form bad money values in money encouragement. Once the values such as children are formed, it is more difficult to change.

The advantage of spiritual encouragement education is that children will get a correct and positive orientation, and a relatively stable ethical values will be formed after a long time. Homans, an American social psychologist, put forward the proposition of value in his theory of social exchange: If the result of an action is more valuable to a person, then the person is more likely to make such an action.

Spiritual encouragement education

The disadvantage of inspirational education is that the method is single, and encouraging children for a long time is easy to produce boredom and slack, and encouraging children for a long time is easy to form arrogance that does not conform to the realistic and objective situation, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. American education is greatly influenced by the pragmatic philosopher Dewey, who advocates children's independent inquiry learning and gives them more encouragement and education. However, after more than half a century's development, the incentive education in the United States also shows its inherent disadvantages, that is, the children trained by this kind of education are too confident and even become arrogant, so that it is difficult to recognize their objective situation.

First, we should pay attention to the unity of subject and object.

The subject of incentive education is the person as an educator, and the object is the concrete words and deeds of children. The subject carries out incentive education according to the words and deeds of the object, and the specific words and deeds of the object are reflected to the educator as the subject, which can make the subject choose the appropriate method to carry out incentive education. In a word, subject and object should maintain dialectical unity, and they interact and restrict each other to form a whole of unity of opposites.

Second, the setting of incentive goals should be based on personal ability.

For individual incentive education, the setting of incentive objectives is particularly important. If the incentive goal is lower than the individual's ability and there is no challenge to the object, it will make the individual slack off; If the motivation goal is higher than the individual's ability, the object is prone to fear of difficulties and make the behavior stagnate. To sum up, the motivation goal should be set according to individual ability. The ideal state is that the incentive goal set each time should slightly exceed the individual's ability, and the goal should not be out of reach, that is, the object can achieve the goal through hard work. Set a higher incentive goal after the individual completes the incentive goal. The setting of incentive targets should be carried out in stages.

Third, the language of motivation should be appropriate.

Motivation language plays an important role in the process of motivation education. Motivational language should be motivated by individual objective facts. If we emphasize motivation blindly, but ignore the objective situation of individuals and exaggerate behavior too much, we will lose the effect of motivation.

"Education is a social phenomenon to cultivate people, and it is a necessary means to transmit production experience and Du Hui's living experience. It comes into being with the appearance of human society and develops with the development of human society. Education is intrinsically related to social development, and is restricted by the law of physical and mental development of the educated. It adapts to the needs of social development in an increasingly complex form and serves the politics and economy of a certain society. " The definition of education comes from China Encyclopedia of Education. In short, education is a social practice to cultivate individuals. For children, incentive education is prone to fatigue and burnout, which is difficult to maintain for a long time. Educational methods should be implemented in different ways according to children's different ages and specific behaviors. In education, it is always inappropriate to encourage blindly, and it is also inappropriate to punish blindly. In a word, rewards and punishments should be given according to the different situations of different objects. Before educating children, we should grasp the specific situation of the development stage of children's education, and then establish the corresponding teaching content and methods. We must respect the objective laws of children's development, and choose educational methods and contents beyond the current stage, which will have adverse consequences for children, such as encouraging learning or fearing learning.

Because children's gender, age and culture are different, the content of rewards and punishments for children should also be different, and the way and content of education should be selected and implemented according to the specific situation of children. In today's society, it is impossible to implement a unified standard of reward and punishment education for children. For China, the idea of score first is not worth advocating. In short, there are great differences between different children, and it is impossible to educate all or most of them with a certain educational model. For parents, it is necessary to observe and understand their children's personality characteristics, personal hobbies, advantages and disadvantages from various aspects, and implement educational methods according to their specific characteristics.