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How to understand "the fault of raising but not the godfather"
"It is wrong to raise the godfather instead of the godfather" comes from the three-character classic. Generally speaking, we understand that it is the father's fault not to educate after giving birth. But if we have a deeper understanding, we will actually get more.

The key words of this sentence are "Guo" and "Jiao". "Excessive" means not only a fault, but also a violation. What does change mean? It is called "normal law". "Teaching" refers to a process, which means practice, setting an example and being effective. Up to now, the meaning of "teaching" should add elements of culture and education, but it mainly refers to the exemplary role of fathers to their children, including morality, etiquette, skills and inspiration. So the meaning of this sentence should be that in the process of raising children, fathers should set an example and teach their children. If father doesn't do this, it will violate the normal law.

This sentence still has a good guiding significance. In our modern life, children's education is divided into many parts, including school education, social education and family education. In family education, the influence of father on children is an important factor in the growth of children's personality. But the reality is that the exemplary role of father in family education is gradually ignored or even disappeared. Many fathers even think that in his family, the mother of the child is responsible for educating the child and making money to support the family. The results of a family education survey also show that nearly 50% of fathers are absent from educating their children, which only refers to cultural education. If it is role model education, I think the proportion of such absences will be higher.

If the lack of father's role will affect children's growth, the more serious situation is that many parents' behaviors have a negative impact on children. What is even more frightening is that many fathers don't know what kind of example to set for their children, and their fathers don't give themselves practical education. Actually, Jiao has been dating.

In a family, if the father is absent, he can't face the children with his wife and gradually become invisible. For the wife, she can only weaken her dependence on her husband, thus pinning too much affection on the children. Women who fight alone are very anxious. On the one hand, they will provide excessive protection and help to children in all aspects. On the other hand, reality makes them have to force their children to be better than others' children. Women are emotional, and in the face of educational setbacks, they often lose control of their emotions. We can see that in many families, mothers will scream and nag at the top of their lungs when educating their children.

All this should have been borne by the child's father, but it was all borne by the child, so the child's psychology was also affected. After depression, the child learned to disguise and close. In this case, some children will become very sensible, but this kind of understanding is like acting, which is a compromise they make when they can't stand some pressure but can't do anything. Some children face the pressure of anxious mothers, some have psychological breakdown, become impulsive and rebellious, have poor self-control, and even are depressed. These are actually the consequences of violating normal laws.

The significance of normal law is that it can make our life healthy and harmonious. The warning function of the sentence "it is wrong to raise a godfather instead of a godfather" is that as a father, he must play an active role in the education of his children.