Why not spend some time and give some advice on the education of left-behind children? If my grandmother came out, why did the long maple cause a catastrophe? Moran almost ruined the reputation of the Sheng family. For example, Lan was addicted to her husband's family and suffered a lot of anger ... Even without the aura of heroines, such as Hualan and Changbai, the ancestral graves of Shengjia were smoking.
Isn't it good for grandma to have a glorious family? Until recently, Yue Wei discovered that everything really cannot be idealized. If you don't believe me, try to change yourself into a big lady. If a mother-in-law like grandma frequently interferes with the education of her grandchildren and says that your children are not teaching well, can you accept it? Not to mention the big lady and Lin Xiaoniang, even Sheng's father is inevitably in conflict with his grandmother.
After all, they don't have the audience's perspective of God, and everyone thinks they are right. This is also the confusion of many mothers and mothers now. Anyway, I'm worried that my children will be led astray. If I manage it, it will inevitably lead to discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, grandma's principle is "three tube and three no matter".
As soon as "Know No" started broadcasting, the three sisters of the Sheng family, together with their own mothers, were secretly competing. Father Sheng wants to choose one of his three daughters for grandma. On the surface, I was afraid that the old lady's knees would be lonely, so I found a child to relieve boredom. In fact, he just listened to Lin Xiaoniang's pillow breeze and wanted to let Moran go. As a result, it was such a small matter that my grandmother delayed for half a year without saying anything.
Some people say that this is because my grandmother has a crush on Ming Lan and despises Moran, so she has been reluctant to let go. Actually, it's not like this. Grandma obviously strictly implements the policy of treating the three children equally, and there is no difference in the attitude of giving and refusing. It's not that she doesn't want to accept Moran, but that she doesn't want children.
If my grandmother only chooses one of them according to her own preferences, it will inevitably cause dissatisfaction among others. Although the first lady doesn't want to be like an orchid, if her grandmother asks for an orchid by name, she will secretly scold her grandmother for contempt of office and favoring concubines; If my grandmother chooses the ruined plan of Ru Lan, Sheng Dad and Lin Xiaoniang, it will also make trouble for a while. Because at this time, grandma is no longer a better food and education for Ming Lan, but a guarantee for future survival.
We all know the character of the big lady. Although there is nothing wrong with her, she is definitely biased towards children. If Ming Lan is locked in her room, she will inevitably be ignored and a good child will be delayed. What's more, there is a Wei Jing who saw through Sheng Jia's trick. If Ming Lan has a bad life, it will be a matter of minutes to turn over the old scores of Wei Xiaoniang's murder. Therefore, grandma's choice of baby has nothing to do with selfishness or preference. It's really a timely help, and it's unnecessary to add icing on the cake.
But even if my grandmother is so cautious, it will inevitably confront her daughter-in-law, such as the marriage of her grandson Changbai. After being a scholar in Changbai High School, the first lady proposed to marry Yuner, the daughter of Aunt Kang, but met a soft nail in grandma's hand. Yes, we all know that Aunt Kang's family is not a good family, and it is not worthy of the little angel Changbai at all, but the family care is even deeper. Why does grandma have no problem with rulan's marriage? In fact, this is also one of grandma's principles, which is related to the survival of the family and the proper decentralization of matters involving personal interests. Don't say grandmothers prefer sons to daughters. Times are different. At that time, the eldest son was the key to the rise and fall of the family.
Gu Gu, the owner of the valley, has had an iron ticket in his hand for generations, but after Gu Fu left, he became ill and inherited the title, which was even worse than four rooms and five rooms in an instant; Qi Huangong's only son, Qi Heng, has no worries about competing with his brother for the title, but the burden on his shoulders is much heavier than others. If he collapses, there is no hope for the whole family. Therefore, even at the risk of offending the first lady, my grandmother has to take care of her eldest grandson Changbai's marriage. But Juran is different. Her marriage has nothing to do with anything but her own happiness and the face of her parents.
To say the least, even if my grandmother successfully persuaded Rulan not to marry her family, her future marriage would not be smooth. Who will take the fall? Therefore, after careful consideration, grandma should stay out of this matter before it is too late.
Speaking of which, you may think grandma is too timid and cautious. She should be uncompromising in Shengjia. How can she live so wronged? Don't say that grandma is only Sheng's biological mother and has no blood relationship. Even her parents can't do everything their own way. If you don't believe me, think back to how you felt when your parents often taught you lessons. If you want to work hard in a big city, they have to let you go back to your hometown to take the civil service exam for stability; If you want to be with the boy you like, they must let you find a suitable one.
Maybe many years later, after experiencing the reality, you will suddenly find that many of their words are right, but you must understand this yourself, otherwise it will be useless for others to say more. Lin Xiaoniang has been in Shengjia for more than twenty years. Her grandmother advised her to ask Mother Kong to wake Sheng's father, but what happened? Sheng's father just immersed himself in the pink bubble woven by Lin Xiaoniang and refused to look back until Lin Xiaoniang taught Moran to cause great disaster, and Sheng's reputation was at stake.
At this time, grandma stepped forward to save the day and said it was Moran's marriage. After counting the disasters that Lin Xiaoniang brought to Sheng's family over the years, Sheng's father finally woke up and killed Lin Xiaoniang. Similarly, didn't Hualan's grandmother know how to hire geese before she got married? The Earl's Office hit Shengjia in the face in public, and Hualan will be wronged if she marries in the past.
But if at this time, my grandmother prevents Sheng's father and the first lady from marrying a girl, let alone a couple, even the audience will think that my grandmother has made a mountain out of a molehill and wasted such a good marriage. Therefore, my grandmother didn't say anything. When Hualan was wronged in her husband's family, she took the initiative to help her find a famous doctor to see her off and teach her to push the housekeeper.
I used to think that the role of grandma was too unsuccessful when I watched Know. I can't clean up Lin Xiaoniang, whose status is not high, and I can't teach a confused and short-sighted lady. Even my beloved Ming Lan and Hualan can't be protected. How does the film and television drama miss plan and win thousands of miles? Only when I see my grandmother now do I know that her concession and patience are the wisdom to maintain a big family. Daughter-in-law is difficult, so is mother-in-law. Any relationship that wants to be harmonious and lasting must be managed with care.