What kind of role, what kind of children

Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, was recommended to help in the library when he was in the fourth grade in Seattle. The librarian explained the classification of books to him and told him that what he had to do was to put back the misplaced books returned to the library. After listening, Gates asked, "Are you like a detective at work?" The administrator said, "Of course." Then, Little Gates walked through the maze of bookshelves.

The role of "little detective" excited him. Whenever he finds the target he is looking for from a pile of books, he will give a shout of victory. He became more and more skilled and was soon asked to be a full-time librarian. The good times didn't last long. A few weeks later, Gates moved and transferred to another school. But it wasn't long before Gates came back, because students were not allowed to work in the library of the new school. In order to satisfy his son's desire to be a "little detective", Gates's parents transferred him back to school, and his father drove to pick him up. Gates himself said firmly, "If my father doesn't take me, I'll walk to school."

It can be seen that the "social role" of The Little Detective aroused the strong interest of Bill Gates Jr., and it was this role-playing that made him turn a boring job into an interesting game when he grew up, and did it with relish.

Psychologists have done an interesting experiment: inviting some rude children to an unusual dinner party. During the dinner, they were uncharacteristically infected by the elegant atmosphere, realized that they were educated "guests", and bound themselves according to this social role, and soon became polite.

This experiment shows that if the child is given a suitable role, when he understands and knows the role, the child will easily demand himself according to the norms of the role, thus making some changes in personality psychology or behavior. This phenomenon is called "role effect".

The formation of role effect begins with the expectations of society and others for the role. There is a general deviation in education now. Teachers often use "good students study well" and "bad students study poorly" to evaluate children, which makes them deviate from the concept of role and cannot correctly understand and evaluate their social roles. They will feel useless if they don't study well, and they will be tired of their "roles", while those "good students" may be complacent and self-expanding. On the basis of this misunderstanding, they started their own different behaviors, and "bad students" began to really hate learning and began to give up on themselves. Good students only pay attention to learning and ignore their all-round development. This initial false expectation leads to a vicious circle of children's cognitive behavior.

In this case, Gates Jr. was influenced by the positive "role effect". When he plays the "social role" of detective, he has a psychological self-expectation. His parents' "recognition" of this role makes him not only like the role he plays, but also realize the fun it brings him. This kind of positive cognition and expectation has become the internal motivation to motivate his behavior, and even affects every stage of his growth.